short version:
I need tips on asking a girl out that I've never talked. I want to just straight up ask her on a date but don't know if that would be weird.

long version:
I got out of a long relationship a few months ago. Since then I have hooked up with a few girls at parties and whatnot. So, I feel like I've had enough recovery time of banging out some random girls. The thing is I really want to go out with this girl in my class but I haven't even said a word to her yet and I just can't find the words to break the ice. I was about to just ask her if she would go on a date with me but I decided that might be a little weird. My friends suggest that I invite her to a party but that usually ends up with us banging and me not ever seeing her again or us not banging and me not ever seeing her again.

so whats my play?

Talk to her

1) this belongs in the ask out a girl thread, no need to make one for yourself
2) try talking to her after class, or during class if its a small enough class.
3) there were several people in the ask out a girl thread asking the same question as you (i see a hot girl can i ask her out). the answer is pretty much no, you cant. you have to have talked to a girl (usually, there are situations where its ok, such as if youve seen her glancing at you. but even still, you should go up to her and introduce yourself, and not insta-ask her out.)

this. after class ask her out for a coffee or something. seeing as how you've never spoke to her, i'd start small.

As curious as I am to why you thought you deserved your own thread when you admitted the existence of the other, massive thread, I won't ask.

But I will give you some crazy advice: talk to her.

no, dont do this. rando coffee date with ZERO communication prior is really awk and creepy. it might work, but probably only if OP is incredibly attractive and charismatic. Based on what we know, I think that's a poor assumption (speaking to the charismatic, because he's lost at this point. i cant make any predictions on the physical attractiveness, but unless he's brad pitt it's unlikely to matter)

find something in common the two of you have and talk to her about it. find something random, but relevant, toa sk her a question about, etc.

If I understand this correctly, A has a boyfriend already and A is apparently moving in on D's boyfriendish guy. A is experienced and sophisticated enough to know she is f*cking w/ people's emotions. My conclusion, A is a bitch. DG either is clueless on how to behave or he doesn't truly care about D.

Maybe you could talk to A. Ask her wtf she think she is doing. Problem is that it involves you in drama and may cause A to believe you are jealous or whatever.

I guess I would tell D that the whole situation is shady and she should be careful investing more emotionally in DG. I dunno what else you can say.

Introduce me? Please?

1. No
2&3. Yes
4. Probably not

Wait WHAT?!?!?!?!

I've completely lost interest in caring about the situation. If D is holding out on DG for the foreseeable distant future, then jesus christ, of course he's gonna start kicking rocks and acting crazy.

I don't think D should do anything. I think maybe, since you and A are the only people who have enough experience to really know what's going on, you should talk to A and be like "what the **** are you doing." But I mean, maybe A feels sorry for DG or something and is trying to help him out, and she should.

update bitches

so at the beginning of class i go to my seat, J goes to her seat. i send her a text that says "hey goofball" and she looks over and i wave and smile like a geek. she laughs..a lot. it was funny.

after class i talk to her like normal. but instead of just talking to where we did last time, and then went our separate ways, we stood and talked for another 15 or so minutes. we were talking about our friends, blah blah, and she said shes not really friends with people on her floor. i asked who she eats with and she said she usually eats by herself. i told her no thats not ok lets go eat now. and shes like ok so we walk (and i mean this is as far away from my apartment as we can get) to the diner. we get food, and sit and eat and talk about everything in the world for about an hour and a half. was really cool.

i probably had too much self-disclosure. i told her things that wouldnt appear to make me "cool". but at the same time, i was just being myself and being open. i probably should have held a little back, but i didnt.

so after we are done talking, we walk outside and have the weird "we are going but still having this little awkward small talk thing first". we make out for like 10 minutes and i go home. hah sike. i tell her ill see her tomorrow and she walks away and shouts back "dont get lost or ill have to come find you!" i shout back "promise?" and she goes "yep!"

and now im here.

also, shes gonna be gone this weekend so i either try to hang out with her tomorrow night, or just let it go til monday. not sure what my gameplan is. not even sure if i should pursue this more. shes just so young. but i like everything else about her. meh. we will see what happens.

You cannot possibly make a statement like that without knowing DG or DG's motivations.

Furthermore, he is fully aware of this up front in the relationship. If he has a problem with it, he should get out RIGHT now (and I wouldn't blame him for doing so). When presented with this information not only did he not get out, but he reassured D of his commitment to her. If he doesn't get out, then he doesn't get any sort of pass later on.

She's 19, right? How old are you?

Sounds like things are good. If you guys like each other and get along well, don't sweat the age difference. I might try to hang out with her tomorrow night since it sounds like things went pretty well today and then let her marinate over the weekend thinking about what an awesome time you guys had tomorrow night.

Yeah, I was kinda half-joking, but I think these are super abnormal people whose lives we cannot possibly try to understand.

Hanging out tomorrow seems a little soon, but waiting till Monday kinda kills the momentum. I would wait till Monday. I'd rather not seem overeager.

Responding to you and everyone else who said maybe talk to A:

I just don't know about this. A could easily take my words, twist them and use them against me. It's worth noting she accused me of being "jealous" on Valentine's day when I lightly chided her after she revealed that not only are she and her boyfriend not doing anything for the day, but he had an exam to study for Monday so she hadn't seen him all weekend (they live like 15 ****ing minutes apart). I could easily see her jumping behind my back and trying to paint this picture of me to tear me down to whoever she wants to.

I also feel like it's just not my business. It's not my place to get involved. It's not my problem (in a way). However, at the same time D is super vulnerable and can easily be taken advantage of. For whatever reason, I feel some sort of calling to make sure she's ok. D and I are one of very few people here at the school who share similar religious beliefs and actually make an attempt to stick with them.

So, in a way, I completely understand where D is coming from, both in her background, beliefs and approach to relationships, but I have what D doesn't have, and that's extensive experience dealing with the "real world" and "real relationships."

I understand them quite well, but I also understand that most don't, understandably so. (3 times, one sentence, new record)

That's my default reaction, but they seem to be into each other and she's being just as eager as he is (see: "dont get lost or ill have to come find you!"). I don't think that TUTS calling her tomorrow is gonna make her be like "omg so needy!" or anything.

shes either 18 or 19, im not sure. im 21. shes a freshman, im a senior.

yea i know exactly what you mean. and i have to be honest, i think not texting her on saturday or sunday kinda hurt me. i know yall wont believe it, but sometimes you just get vibes. that text at the beginning of class was so clutch. i think ill mention to her about doing something tomorrow night (ship watching a movie one timeeeeeeeeeeee).

I wouldn't wait. Strike while the iron is hot.

Karak, A seems like the type of person you should cut off completely. She sounds completely different from the chick you described a few weeks back after your long dinner.

Btw, I don't think you should talk to A. Just be there to pick up the pieces if D gets hurt. I don't see what you can do w/o getting involved.

I can totally see TUTS's girl putting him firmly in the friend zone for some reason. Seems like a lot of chat and no erm, upgrading?[no idea what word to use here] of the flirting.

I've no experience of karak's situation but if it was me and I was getting bothered by the situation I'd probably just ask A what she is doing? If it goes badly, damage control by asking/telling D about the situation. Not sure if there is a win option here for anyone overall. Staying clear would be the safest option though.

because im a queer, i texted her when i got home saying that i survived. im not gonna get into details cause the texts are kinda weird (unless yall really want to know what was said back and forth), but i texted something basically saying i had a good time (was not phrased like that at all, once again, i could say how it went but id rather summarize). she texted back "lol well i'd hoped so." and reminded me to do my hw for the class we have together. i responded "of course! linguistics is the only thing on my mind." and she replied "should be! ;D".

also, im upset at the lack of enthusiasm from my peers itt.

i mean today was the first time we've hung out. what do you expect to happen already?

Your failure to get to at least second base is a death knell.

I'm kidding, it all sounds really positive to me. Go ahead and try for a Thursday night thing.

TUTS, I think the only appropriate move is to text.

"I am lost, in my bed, come find me"

yeah, pretty sure these need to be shared