Situation (cliff notes at bottom):

I chased this girl the first semester of my freshman year and was unable to close in any form. I didn't speak to her for the second semester other than running into her once and finding out we were living on the same dorm and floor for sophomore year.

During this chase she definitely led me on and seemed interested.

It is now sophomore year. During the first week of classes, we hung out a few times in the dorm and talked, sometimes alone, sometimes with our respective roommates in the room (doubles fwiw). Either way, now she seemed not just flirtatious but very interested. She would stop by unannounced on a few occasions.

The weekend after the 1st week of classes, there is a school-wide dance (an indoor track is essentially turned into a club). At this event, we dance and hook up on the dance floor.

Time passes. We do not do anything sexual other than flirt a lot and talk a lot about various things with implications of having sex. She watches entourage with me every week.

Today, I finally made a move after she came randomly into my room late last night and spoke to me (and my roommate too sort of) for about an hour. She said something about us having sex and uses "when we have sex" not "if we have sex." We are alone watching entourage I look at her, lock eyes, smile, she smiles back, and I lean in. Immediately, her hands fly up to her face and she stops.

After speaking to her she continues to lead me on. She said, "not now. Maybe next time." I asked "what next time?" Next time according to her means next time we watch Entourage. I asked what "thats supposed to mean," and she said "don't read too much into it."

I really don't understand how she can make it seem like she wants me in such an obvious way and doesn't accept my advances.

What's my play here?

Cliff Notes:

Chased girl 1st semester frosh year. Didn't talk 2nd semester
Live and hooked up with girl once this year (soph). We hang out and leads me on, but turns down my advances yet still leads me on afterwards. What is in her head? What the **** do I do?

She's ragging. Try next week.

[x] shes having the painters in
[x] its shark week
[x] aunt flo came to visit

shes getting her penis removed. chill.

[ ] girls love when they completely own the frame. You are likely toast with this girl. Try against next time without being a supplicative loser on the next girl.

next time when she comes to watch entourage with you, don't try to force the action, be totally cool and let her wonder why you're not making your move. Then she'll in turn give in.

this is good advice. anticipation makes chicks way horny.


don't give her the satisfaction of feeling in control. make her doubt herself.

if you think she knows what is on your mind she definitely does so just third level her and her head will assplode.

non predictability and a DGAF attitude goes a long way with chicks


o ya and get some new chicks in your life.

she probbaly didnt shave or w/e,,, imo

I just read the cliffs but this advice is probably correct.

ye be totally cool about it like you dont care; anyway sex is overrated, you sohuld just jerk off and go study or grind the pokr instead of trying to pickup chicks like a loser

lol

op, i'd like your update tho.

I guarantee if OP does nothing and tries to "look cool" absolutely nothing will happen

Girl inspired OP to get a DWAI imo.

On the poker table or on the road?

Update for the person who asked:

The following day I spoke to her briefly. Asked her how her quiz was that day. How things were. Standard ****. All smiles. No reference to the day before.

I hung out with her somewhat that night with her roommate. Again, nothing significant. She did however, randomly just bury her head in my chest and I stroked her head, but in all honesty, I think she is just a girl who is flirtatious and wants attention. It really doesn't mean ****.

I called her tonight to ask her if she was in her room to see if she wanted to hang out. Her response was, "no, I'm really drunk. At this frat. I;m leaving now though, I'll let you know if I'm coming back to the dorm though."

I said, "okay. see you later."

She is probably being pounded by someone other than me right now which is okay. I've come to the conclusion that this girl is not worthy of continuing to chase and will just be friends and flirtatious and see what happens down the road.

I am just going to try to plant seeds and grow plants.

Thanks for all your input.

What is DWAI? Someone inform my ignorant self. Ty.

btw, i get the feeling playing it cool will lead nowhere as well, but with this girl I've given up hope and really think its best for my psyche to not worry about her and instead chase as many bitches as possible.

Next!

Yeah she probly had a smelly pussy anyways...

Most Recent Update:

Went outside my room to take a piss at 4 AM (this is after calling her tonight). Saw her coming back with a dude. Said hello to her, took a piss and felt like dying.

From a rational perspective, it should not matter. From an emotional one, this is obviously painful.

Again, thanks for the help everyone.

I definitely remember that feeling, OP.

A few points:
(1) This girl may actually like you. Obviously, if you were out at a party and got drunk and horny, and there was a girl all over you who suggested that you go back to your place, this situation could be totally reversed. And new girl would mean nothing to you. And you still like old girl. It's college, man, things like this happen.

Edit: reread OP and you don't even "like" old girl. Nevermind about that.

(2) Best play is to find a new girl and make sure that old girl catches you at some point. Her neighbor, roommate, or RA would be best, but anyone would be good. Totally win/win. You get some. She gets jealous and you hit that too.

GL.

I'd say the best play is to forget about her and to cut off contact (but not in a bitchy, emo way). If she tries to hang out with you, just throw out a few BUCKOS and she'll get the point.

this. tell her what you want and she will do it. if not, wasn't happening no matter what you did.

i'm sorry to hear that op

but the fact you saw her bring back a dude when she's drunk also proves a fact that she does not worth your effort anyway. let that biatch go.