yeah i don't think confidence is his main problem

On this my 7th day of vacation, I've decided that I need to get out of the house. I've been watching a lot of tv and crying at everything. It's really embarrassing. I just got done watching Boys of Baghdad High (HBO) and I cried. Very cool documentary. I recommend it. I hope those boys are all ok.

Yesterday I watched 2 episodes of What Not to Wear and I cried. How embarrasing. Then I watched Top Chef and I cried. What is up with these hormones? I'm out of control

Ya, you are probably correct. I was really just being goofy.

The main thing is if Davet makes it to Las Vegas when I am there, I think that would be GREAT!! I would love to meet him.

Lulz Fish, is that the model they make for Italians?

Preggers????

No.

Three time loser, eh?

Just kidding! And my condolences.

Yep, I think Hobby uses one of these to make sure her men are hairless as well. They only need one treatment and then they take care of it themselves.

Sometimes I feel like Fish lives in a different country. His trip reports and weekend activities are really cool but totally unlike anything I would ever see or do here in Ohio.

yes, but it's not for above the neck, it's for body grooming.

Katy and other females:

Tonight is my GFs b-day and I'm taking her to a concert by one of her favorite country artists, Hal Ketchum. We're going to eat before the show at the venue (it's a casino). Nothing romantic, though.

I've also bought her one present that's just "fun," and the "big" present is an iPhone - something she really wants.

my worries are I've got nothing very romantic that I'm giving her...should I also get some flowers, at least?

Another thing - it's been a really tough months for us, what with a friend's death and her ex causing all manner of problems with her son. Basically, she's been having to deal with all of this and her way of doing so is shutting down emotionally, meaning I'm getting the short shrift. But that's okay, I'm just making sure she knows I'm here for her and there's no pressure on my part - she doesn't have to take care of ME, for god's sake.

I'd love to do something a little more romantic but I'm not even sure a romantic gesture would be welcome as anything more than more "pressure" at this point.

I was going to print up that love poem I wrote for her on some beautiful stock and present it to her but now I'm not so sure.

Yikes.

Dom, how about writing a new one?

I'm working today and have no time to write a new one for tonight.

i think a new poem would be good...wasn't the other one very sexual? maybe something more lovey dovey?

ive always been a fan of a single rose over a huge bouquet, but thats just personal preference...

here is something my dad did for my mom...hes really good at these kind of romantic gift things...at least i think so...

a few weeks before her birthday a couple years ago he told her that they were going to oakland for vacation and they were going to see a raider game during one of the days because he used to be a huge fan, but hasn't been able to go in years...she was not happy...but when he actually took her they went to a beautiful bed/breakfast on some river in northern california and they went wine tasting and lots of other stuff that my mom really likes...she is kind of gullible so the surprise gave it a lot more punch, but they had a great time...

maybe you could take your gf on a mini vacation like this? get out a vegas for a couple days and get her away from her issues and just relax together?

this obv wouldn't be for tonight...maybe just a random gift or for christmas? im sure you could find something reasonably priced if you look for rooms on ebay or craiglist...

holy cow you sound like a really sweet boyfriend, Dom. So thoughtful. That's about 5x the gifts my s.o. would ever have done for me The Hal Ketchum thing is a huge gift in and of itself. How many guys do you know would want to sit through a Hal Ketchum concert? (I know of only one Hal Ketchum song off the top of my head that I like. It's a good one, too. I actually thought he had died ...sorry Hal)

The iPhone, Jesus Christ, really nice! And that poem? Gosh, I want to be your girlfriend! damn, you go all out. And now you are saying you have nothing romantic? You are the complete opposite of my s.o. He would never put so much thought into it, ever. I can't remember your poem. Link it?

I'm sorry this has been a rough month for you. I think the death of her friend is HUGE and has to be given the proper significance. I know from experience that the death of a close friend can rock people's worlds. It makes them turn inward and reflect on a lot of their decisions and the direction their life is going. Give her time. You sound like a very good friend.

Here's the perfect gift for me. If my s.o. gave me this on stock paper I would cry. (of course i cry at Top Chef so I don't know if that's saying much )


I Know Where Love Lives - Hal Ketchum

Love don't hang out in a grand hotel
Got no satin sheets, got no servant's bell
Ain't in Bel Air on some big old yacht
Ain't in a beach house on Monserrat

There's a house on the edge of town
It's a little old, it's a little run down
Full of laughter and tears and toys
Crazy things only love enjoys

CHORUS
I know where love lives
I know where love lives
She's sitting on the back step in the evening air
With sea green eyes and her chesnut hair
You keep your mansions of gold, buddy,
I don't care
Cause I know where love lives

You keep all that your fortune brings
All your fancy words, all your precious things
No matter what all your money buys
It's in the arms of love
That true treasure lies


I bet she would appreciate it if you play that song for her before you leave for dinner. girls love this song.

It's called a foot rub, Dom. A ****ing foot rub.

In all seriousness, your heart is huge. I wouldn't know what to get her in the first place. You go all-out and still feel guilt for giving her the short end? Wow.

Very, very sexual.

Compared to Ohio this is a different country.

wow, Katy....that's awesome....thanks.

Hold on there, Sparky....are YOU actually giving ME grief over Man/Woman things?

"chestnut hair"....that's brown, right?

Yes chestnut is brown, but you see you change the lyrics to tailor it to her: "With deep blue eyes and long blond hair"

she'll like that.

Tell her Happy Birthday from me. That should cheer her up.

Man, you are already going above and beyond the call buddy. If I were going to vote I would say the only thing you need to do is add some flowers and skip the poem (the old one because it is too sexual). I am not even sure I would do roses, I would find some other nice mix of things that smells and looks good.

Sorry she is having a hard time with things. The friend dying is huge and the ex being a pain is not something anyone needs. You probably have already done this but sometimes just letting a gal know you care and that if she ever wants to talk about that stuff you are there and will listen can be nice. Just don't make the same mistake I do and try to fix anything. When women talk they do not want to have you fix it. They just want to talk. At least that is what happens in my world.

yeah, I was thinking this...thanks, Katy, that was a really nice suggestion.

And thanks to everyone else who chimed in, too.

It's funny how "instant" we are...Katy suggests a song I've never heard, I pick up my iphone, go to itunes, listen to the song and buy it for a buck. Pretty cool. all within 30 seconds.