I don't know the first part of this joke.

To be honest, I forget the first part of the joke. I always just use the last part whenever anybody claims that a one time activity does not reflect poorly on them. i.e. a buddy of mine once performed oral sex on a lady at an innopportune time of the month. Every time we bust his chops about it he says, "but I only did it the one time." And I will invariably say, "You **** one sheep."

Harry is complaining to a friend: I've written great poems, but no one ever says, "There goes Harry, the poet." I've designed lovely buildings, but no one ever says, "There goes Harry, the great architect." And so on until the punchline, which can be "But you sleep with your mother one time . . . ."

Ah, cute!

i want to quit my job but i never will...

You are my new hero. What a ****ing champion.

Although many people I know think I have a "devil-may-care" attitude towards what people think of me, in some ways I think an absurd amount about how I am perceived. This can lead to me acting completely differently around different people and in varying social environments.

I also love+play soccer, love hockey, and ****ing hate baseball. (I'm originally Canadian with Argentinian+Israeli blood, so there you go). I even try to watch the Blue Jays but I just can't do it, that **** is so ****ing boring.

I haven't seen Star Wars, Shawshank, Big Lebowski, etc. Not a big movie guy, and American popular culture sorta passed me by. (Immigrant parents).

I'm a pretty big intellectual snob and think I'm smarter than the vast majority of people. I can't be attracted to a girl in any meaningful way if she can't intelligently discuss ideas, books, or politics. But I'm sufficiently insecure to be intimidated by girls who permanently wear their education/intelligence/eloquence on their sleeves!

At least I'm not alone.

I'm pretty sure this is 90% of guys.

Surely. And a good amount of adaptation is normal and for the best anyway. I'd no more discuss books or the news with some friends than I would discuss bodysurfing or sex with others.

I tell people I am alone by choice cause I'm too busy for anything right now. Truth is I've gotten my heart broken so much I'm almost afraid to open it up ever again. So I don't pull the trigger on women I really like a lot and feel **** a lot more than I should over it.

Well for me I tell people I do not want a girlfriend because I don't need that kind of commitment at this point of my life but the truth is that the girls I meet have nothing special about them and I am not one to get a girlfriend just for regular sex.

I'm actually a man.

I think almost every single person I've ever met is an idiot. Everyone who believes in God (which weeds out 90%), anyone who can't come up with logical arguments, and people who can't handle their alcohol or know how to act in social situations makes me feel pity for them deep down inside because I believe I'm pretty good at all of them.

It's annoying because it really means there are only 2-3 people I've ever met and talked to at length that I truly get along with. Everyone else I just "put up with" or I'd have no social circle, so I just go on with it.

For example : one of my best friends believes in God and is pretty lazy and doesn't care about anything remotely interesting, but he's fun to go out and drink with. So, I drink and laugh and gamble and all that with the guy, but part of me feels some sort of contempt for the way he does things and looks at things. I try to overlook them but deep down inside it makes me feel superior to him. I avoid any type of political or philosophical discussions with him because even if he makes a good point, I know he doesn't know why it's a good point.

This trait about me annoys myself because I feel like I shouldn't feel this way. But I can't help it.

huh. what the...


Are you serious?

Heh. Of course I'm serious. Did it seem made up?

Well, it sounds pretty bad. Like something you would not want to share with anyone, including strangers because now I will forever think that you think you're superior to me and that is annoying if I'm talking with you. Do you think your friends and acquaintances notice that you're a little contemptuous or are they just too slow to get it?

Let me put this a different way. My wife has a close friend who is married to a guy who is outwardly pretty nice and a gracious host. He's actually cheap to the point of being stingy, he's a racist, and he's a homophobe. I dislike his views intensely, but he doesn't know I know. When I see him during events I pretend like everything is fine, and I actually get along with him on the surface, but deep down inside it's hard for me to respect him.

Every time I'm done interacting with him I feel like a phony. But I put up with it.

Unfortunately, I feel this way about tons of people. More than tons. Most.

Strangely, on these boards I don't feel that way as much, as I'm interested in the different views of people from different perspectives and backgrounds.

And people who know me pretty well probably think I'm a bit contemptuous, yes. Not to the point where it becomes an issue, though, as I'm always aware of the fact and do my best to not come off as condescending.

alcoholism and just generally ones ability to handle their alcohol is largely hereditary, at least I'd think anyways. I'd also say the same for ones ability to handle social situations, if not all hereditary, a large part of ones "social skills" stem from the environment they grew up in etc etc. So considering these things, you judging people, and feeling superior to them for being what you think is bad at these things seems a bit "illogical", no?

Is it really? I would think with some practice and general ability to be reflective people could control the way they act when they are drunk. I've done stupid things or said stupid things when I was younger while drinking, and I've realized it and corrected it. It takes a bit of effort but it can easily be done.

I'd say absolutely not with social skills. People simply don't put the effort in to learn how to be more sociable, or pay attention to conversation skills because they don't want to change it badly enough. They complain about it, but they don't do anything to change it. There are reasons why some people have 30 friends and others have zero. Is it luck, or is it "just the way they are", or maybe it's the way they treat and interact with other people that others want to be friends with them. It isn't a mystery at all, and to prove it simply look at the most popular person you work with or go to school with, then look at the most unpopular one. Compare the two. What personality traits does each exude? What changes do you think you could apply to your own persona?

If people think "Well, that's the way I am and thats that", which is what you are implying, then be done with it, give up, and log into your World of Warcraft account. Or try the reverse and actively put some effort in to make fulfilling changes. To be honest, it annoys me when people won't even try because I know it can be done, easier for some than others, I'll agree, but very doable.

Yeah, I'm judgmental. Yes, people who are fat and complain about it being genetic make me want to slap them. Yes, people who complain about things in their life that they can change if they put some work into it but are too lazy to annoy me. Is it illogical? I would argue exactly the opposite - it's illogical to simply accept it because we have the ability to make drastic changes if we are willing to put in the effort.

Got cancer? Complain, I won't say a word, because that sucks and it simply happens to some and not to others. 50 lbs overweight? No dice. Put the ho-hos down.

I'm not trying to imply "Well, that's the way I am and thats that", it just seems like you are oversimplifying things a bit. We all have our differences and things like controlling alcohol and handling social situations have a very wide spectrum of degree of difficulty for people to change IMO. Certainly in a lot of cases its harder then just changing little things like your implying. I mean my hidden point was basically I'm sure there are things about you or your personality that would really disgust someone ( like being as misanthropic as it sounds like you are), and couldn't they be like, why is he this way when he could easily change, what a fool, I'm better then him because I'm not like that.

FWIW I'm basically the same as you, the arguments I've displayed here are the same that I try and tell myself when I feel I'm getting a little too judgey.

I think people oversimplify things in the opposite way - to make them feel better about themselves and their shortcomings. That's why I get judgmental.

I think many people are easily strong enough to make good changes in their lives but give up too easily. I actually have a feeling of trying to encourage people to try, but it REALLY gets annoying after explaining something and putting time and effort into helping someone and they give up.

Maybe that's where most of it stems from. It gets tiresome helping people do every single thing and they still screw it up or quit.

I thought I was the only one who was like this. Until about six years ago, I had maybe three friends who I could have a real discussion with, and then all three moved away for various reasons. It was the worst.

I found a hobby that tends to draw smarter people when I started playing competitive Magic: the Gathering. I imagine if you played competitive chess or bridge or some other non-poker card game (poker to some extent as well, but I think the average poker player is still relatively idiotic and the I've found that the really good ones tend to be a bit too degen/socially weird for me) with a reasonably-sized player pool, you'll be better off. You can just weed out the socially awkward ones and there are enough non-awkward people that you can find interesting, non-God-believing, unlazy people.

I've got a ton of friends now and they're all really awesome people to talk to and can make good points when having interesting discussions.

And my former good friends are people I don't really talk to or hang out much. I feel kind of bad about it, but I really don't get any sort of mental stimulation from hanging out with them. Oh well.

My best friend told me years ago when I was contemplating getting married, having kids, etc, that "people like us will never be truly happy because we think too much about things". As the years go by, I think he's right.

I swear sometimes I feel as if I'm very alone in this world in the way I think and the way everything around us is so silly. Then I watch "The biggest loser" with my wife.