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Originally Posted by 7ashiYo
I have to say, when it comes to direct opening, it is far better not to offer a woman a compliment as an opener. This especially holds true the more attractive they are.
This is because women are very aware of their sexual power, and alpha males do not demonstrate neediness/awe/whatever puts women in a more powerful position.
One of the most succesful openers of all time is a so called female opinion opener; which is exactly what it sounds like.
Example: "Hi, I just got a new kitten today, and I'm still very much in doubt between two names. I definitely need a female opinion, and I'm pretty sure you can provide me with one =)."
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Originally Posted by 7ashiYo
Most women are fine and jolly talking to you, until you utter the word sex, at this point their radar goes off and the defence comes up.
The ONLY way to avoid this, is doing so indirectly.
Not to pick on you dude, but I disagree with near everything you have written. I've quoted the specific parts to address them individually.
First off, pretty much every seriously experienced guy at day game in pick up community agrees that opening direct with a compliment is best. Janka has done over 10,000 approaches, Soul 4,000, and every other experienced guy would agree.
You actually demonstrate confidence and assertiveness by doing this. The fact is, average men simply do not have the balls to walk up to a girl in the middle of the day and say something that direct. Done correctly you wind up sticking out in her memory a hell of a lot more than any guy she's met recently. Additionally, when you walk up to a woman in the middle of the day and start chatting she knows you're hitting on her, and they often prefer you just come out and say it then pussy foot around with something less direct.
When it comes to your kitten line, I have a policy of not blatantly making things up in order to chat up girls. Considering I'm going to try her back to my apartment at some point, the jig is gonna be up pretty fast when there's no kitten there.
As far as bringing up sex goes, there are tons of ways of doing it. I often do it highly directly. I've had conversations with girls (not when I go approach them during the day, but certainly on dates or in bar/clubs/social situations) where I said things like "Of course I'm trying to sleep with you, I'm a guy and you're an attractive girl. I'm not going to condescend to you by pretending I'm not interested in that, and if you think about it you should be a hell of a lot more concerned with the idea of my not trying to sleep with you than the opposite."
Keep in mind that at some point I'm going to have to tell girls that I keep a blog that chronicles my drug use and sex life, so the faster I can bring up sex and reduce the pressure and stigma of the issue the better.