uh, they'd rather you **** a slut than emotionally connect with someone that you could actually have a relationship with.

If they're leaving anyway as in your example above, the point is moot.

I can't sleep less than 8 or I'm exhausted the whole day

ofc I only get about 6 a lot

Warning, I'm about to be nitty!

But that's not what you said. You said that the physical cheating was not as big a warning sign as the emotional attachment changing. If physical cheating is a function of the emotional attachment having ALREADY changed, that would be worse.

Emotional detaching...high blood pressure.
Physical cheating...heart attack.

I'm honestly too drunk to know what your saying, because we are starting to talk in circles.

but honestly, VR has agreed with all of the relationship advice I ahve given more less.

she's just worded everything better.

but she has never said I'm wrong or my advice was bad, she just chose to say, a different presentation angle was better, which I agree with her about.

she agreed with everything mroe less I said about erin and her not taking into consideration zach's feelings and stuff again now about cheating.

I agree with you.


But my point is, you need to take into consideration the differences between men and women.

I don't care about a women physically cheating because for me as a man, at that point she is already lost.

But as a man, if a women starts to emotionally cheat, then that screams flags, I need to take heed or do something.



whereas, men don't emotionally cheat because we are emotionally dead regardless.

9/9/24/single

I'm pretty sure if the emotional attachment ship sets sail you should end the relationship, not watch out for her to start ****ing people.

if the chick isnt in to you it is time to move on, there are only 3 billion more

For me, at least, this is not really true. I mean, it could be for a woman whose primary goal is the preservation of the relationship regardless of the cheating, but for me, it is more offensive for my guy to jeopardize everything that we mean to each other for the opportunity to get his rocks off with some skank, who probably doesn't use birth control and will then have his baby and be part of our lives forever.

If he grows closer to someone in a way I am uncomfortable with, I'm perfectly capable of speaking up. I expect him to respect my wishes and limit his interaction with her. If he does fall for her, than I guess we were not meant to be together, but at least there is a reason that we fell apart besides, "gee honey you happened to not be there when I had an itch that needed scratching."

It's not as if a guy is just innocently walking down the street and trips and falls and comes back to consciousness balls deep in some stranger. Whether she's a random hookup or not, he made a SERIES of decisions that landed him there.

wow im ****ing jealous.

how do you feel in the morning?

+1, finally we reach comprehensive agreement

I probably respect VR's the opinion the most of any female pogger though, she has a way or articulating things that most women don't understand.

5 hours sleep week or weekend (sometimes less), single, no kids, 77 cats

EDIT: "single" sort of a misnomer but whatever, not married or going to be any time soon

perhaps our ideas are more similar than we think

Have you tried to show women VR's way of articulating things and they haven't understood?

That's waht I've been saying, except your failing to take into consideration how dumb most guys are. Most guys don't know that the emotional ship sailed months ago and they only wake up when the cheating ship is in the harbour.

Which was exactly the point of my post.

I just think bros need to back up off of it and let you do your thing, basically

This may have to do with my personal experience of my best friend in the world cheating on his wife and then marrying the accomplice, and me having to have his back the whole time, but I digress

I show women my way of thinking and they bow down. I don't need anything else. I for some reason get what I want. It doesn't make sense, its not rational but that is reality.

100% disagree as adamantly as possible.

Living in denial is not being dumb.

ok, then we are arguing about semantics and definitons but basically we are on the same page.

I'm going to quote this back to you when you're sober and see if I can get you to agree with yourself.

This is how I feel as well. I remember being surprised when I read whatever article it was that stated otherwise.

I think bros should look out for other bros.

Sometimes it involves relationship advice.

Granted, none of my friends would have ever said flat out "you should go back with your gf" but they would have given me the Blake face and that without words says "dude this might be a bad idea" and if it is 3:30 in the morning, I could see the face transitioning into words.

I think if people are staying with someone (guy or girl) while pretty much knowing the other person is no longer interested it is a combo of lacking self confidence, sticking to routine, being socially awkward, and maybe even somewhat pathetic.

But once the spark is out you know.

If it's a relationship that the guy values and she is feeling a lack of closeness from him, it's often very salvageable at that point if he wishes. Home field advantage is huge with women.

I do and I think dean agrees with me. Me and dean suck at presentation.

You present a quality viewpoint. I don't deny that, you bring value to a conversation.

When you analyze everyone's contributions, I respect your opinion way more than other female poggers, mostly because I am old school. I took your recipes to heart for a reason back in the day when I was making smoothies.

Look at how hard I worked to keep the community thread alive when I was a regular pogger. When I was a pogger, community was always equal to the pub. I loved both.

But after I got myself banned for a year and told eskimo to sub me out, look at how the community thread died. I believe in this town, this is my community.

I believe in everyone, even if no one believes in me. I have fought tooth and nail to make pog a community still even if I pretend to be an *******.