Personally I think you're insane here.

I'm not saying if all single he wouldn't want to sleep with her. I'm not even saying he isn't sexually attracted to her.

I'm saying it doesn't matter because they aren't in a situation that it would ever happen.

The odds that this is all some front relationship is extremely low and the notion seems somewhat absurd to me.

Ugh, I can't believe I'm getting into this.

This stuff is guy 101. Once he wants in your pants, he always wants in your pants. Now, he may really find someone that would make him not go there. However, he would not be hanging around you at all if that was the case. I promise you that if you made a move, he'd be all over it. Period.

I don't think the idea that he's commited to his current gf AND that he'd drop her like a hot potato for a shot at OR are at all incompatible.

Let's just say I have some experience in this sort of situation, and I watched a guy date a girl for 2 years, all the while waiting for his shot at another woman. He didn't give up until she was married, had a kid, and bought a house.

exactly. So he made it "clear" that you guys would be friends so he can save face when he inevitable fails. He wants to pretend like he's over you. He's not.


Chim - the problem here is that you are thinking logically, not with your penis. While ldo its a situation that won't happen, it doesn't mean he isn't hoping that it will happen.

I agree Chim.

I mean, I am not sure what would happen if I happened to break up with res in the next two months and told him I wanted to date him. Maybe he'd break up with the current girl, maybe not. They've been dating 2 months, and from what I know, it's not THAT serious, but its still early and they are still getting to know each other.

However, I am moving in with res, not breaking up with him. So as far as this guy is concerned, it will never happen with me, and it's a futile effort.

He said to me "of course I would still date you. However, we are both with other people, and that is the way that it is right now".....

So who knows....maybe he's hoping that my living arrangement fails, but in the meantime he is still getting laid.

River,

I thought I made it clear that I am not saying that he doesnt' want it to happen. Fair chance he does. Likely he does.. but that doesn't matter. They can be friends and flirt with that possibility in the air. ANd there is nothing wrong with it.

Man, "guy 101" is so new to me. LOL

I always believe everything people tell me, and take it at face value.

Where was POG when I was a confused teenager ?

These statements are contradictory.

edit: Meaning, you can hang around girls that you wanted/want to bang bu twouldn't based on current scenario.

chim - i'm beginning to doubt your sex drive

I think we don't have enough info here. Text him "when you gonna let me tap that?", and post results so that we may more accurately assess the situation.

Because I believe most people wouldn't cheat on someone they are dating for some other girl I have a low sex drive?

He's getting laid, I assume.

because you refuse to put yourself in that guys shoes and then think with your dick.

Thank you, I needed that laugh.

Yes, it is confirmed that he is getting laid by this other girl.

I feel like that would be really really really mean...

and most of you would hate me for actually doing that.

I wouldn't hate you for that.

Actually, OR, I have a question for you ... how "big" has your photography become? I know a few months back we talked about it quite a bit and I encouraged you to give it a real go. From what I've seen of your Facebook updates it's been pretty good for you! You certainly take some great photos.

He's getting laid.. and most guys wouldn't sleep with other girls while in a relationship. Not most guys I know.

Actually, Dan, it's been awesome!

The random guy from the internet started out as my mentor, and then liked me and my work so much that he made me his partner!!! He was originally partners with some other guy when I met him, but the other guy had a kid, got busy, and backed out.

So ya, I've done 3 weddings so far, one by myself (a 3-day long affair).....and I've got 4 others lined up this summer.......so it's been good.

Here is my website: www.preciousphotography.ca

It's still in the works (trying to get something other then a blog-style going) but it works for now....

also the "galleries" section is in the works....I'm photoshoping, water marking, and re-sizing to get those up ASAP!!

I think more guys cheat than you think, chim.

That's awesome, so happy for you OR. It's great to turn something that's a passion into a career. One of my biggest blessings in life.

Yea, and this guy really hates cheating.

I doubt that he ever would.

If anything, he'd break up with the girl if i were single and hitting on him....but i doubt that he'd just wanna hook up.

When he was chasing me, he was talking about marriage and stuff....not just "hooking up"......he was super serious about me and basically said he'd never had persued me, knowing i was in a relationship, if this wasn't for real.

I guess after hearing him say all that, that is why it kind of erks me to see that he said all that in June, and now in Aug, he is "over me".....WTF!?

Maybe I just surround myself with good people.

chim and zurvan are right

Thanks! Did u look at the site?

I can send u more links if u are actually interested....

Ya, I can't say it's a career yet, but my partner has worked out numbers and thinks that it can at least be a major income supplement if we start booking weddings for next year