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05-22-2008 , 11:32 AM
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Originally Posted by Gildwulf
Also, I am surprised you have been playing this long and she hasn't budged at all. She sounds pretty dumb and irrational, or at least so brainwashed by religion that there is no discernible difference.

My gf was concerned and totally did not understand anything when we first started dating, but lots of winning/vacations/nice dinners helped change opinion. I didn't give her lectures on EV or anything but I kept her in the loop about everything (good days, bad days, monthly winnings). Now it is at the point where if I have a bad day SHE is the one telling me about variance and how it will always come around in the long run.
i thot u were gay
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05-22-2008 , 11:36 AM
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Originally Posted by Gildwulf
This is lose lose. If you cave in here she will walk all over you for the rest of your life. The only solution here is to say no and preferably break up with her. It is one thing if you are a compulsive gambler and it was ruining your life, but this is a job and one you are good at and enjoy. It is just as ridiculous as if you were to say "if you work as a teacher for the rest of your life it is OVER" or "if you go bowling with your friends again we are THROUGH".

If she throws it back at you "I can't believe you are choosing poker over me" just fire back "if you really loved me you would not make me choose".

If she is trying to change who you are (and it sounds like poker is a big part of your life) before she commits she is not the right person for you.
/thread

also just going ahead and dumping her will really take the wind out of her sails, as instead of her being the one in control, you are. Maybe it will jolt some logic into her, but its doubtful
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05-22-2008 , 11:40 AM
EZ solution...

Since she views poker as the gambool... you have to question the foundations of her belief in regards to the gambool... ie the idea that the bible says you are not allowed to "gamble":

http://www.gotquestions.org/gambling-sin.html

Ask her where in the bible it says its wrong to play poker? Or that its wrong to make a living?

But I agree with everyone else... you are pretty much screwed...
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05-22-2008 , 11:45 AM
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Originally Posted by case sensitive
i thot u were gay
Nope, if you want verification ask your mom
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05-22-2008 , 11:46 AM
she needs to watch this:

http://youtube.com/watch?v=rbLlCxK0pHY
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05-22-2008 , 11:50 AM
**** that bitch. billions of other bitches in the world.
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05-22-2008 , 11:53 AM
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Originally Posted by P_Nut
If you quit poker now and leave her, than in 5 years it is going to be some other stuff or "hobby".

Noone should restrict you in what you do in your life. Period.
+1

wedge, thin end of...


church going too??? - bad signs all, bad signs.
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05-22-2008 , 11:53 AM
pics or she doesn't exist
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05-22-2008 , 11:57 AM
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Originally Posted by Zekers
pics or she doesn't exist
yeah....where are the pics?
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05-22-2008 , 11:59 AM
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Originally Posted by Gildwulf
Now it is at the point where if I have a bad day SHE is the one telling me about variance and how it will always come around in the long run.
solid mfkn brag
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05-22-2008 , 12:01 PM
It's cliched but true; a woman who would ask you to give up something so important is not worth being with. The only "solution" IMO is to give her an ultimatum of your own: she can accept that you play poker or you are done as a couple.


****ty situation, my condolences OP
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05-22-2008 , 12:03 PM
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Originally Posted by Gildwulf
Now it is at the point where if I have a bad day SHE is the one telling me about variance and how it will always come around in the long run.
This brought a tear of joy to my eye(just one though).
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05-22-2008 , 12:05 PM
Not the girl for you, methinks.
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05-22-2008 , 12:06 PM
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05-22-2008 , 12:07 PM
in the poker game of life, women are the...

















ones that should stfu and not interfere with your passions/job. Try explaining it again, if she won't listen ... VEGAS THE ****IN' MIRAGE BABY
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05-22-2008 , 12:07 PM
lol awesome
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05-22-2008 , 12:12 PM
stop posting that image.
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05-22-2008 , 12:12 PM
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Originally Posted by WCGRider
lol awesome


hope you aren't timing out..gl btw....
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05-22-2008 , 12:14 PM
Say il give up poker, if u give me pleasure every night for 10 years, and your sorted!!
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05-22-2008 , 12:25 PM
Let me give the unpopular answer.

Even if you are a successful poker player now, poker does not spell "stable long term career" to a woman who is considering a life and kids with you. Even if she were ok with poker now, what about 5 years, 10 years. So much changes in that time.

She's thinking 10 years from now, poker dies, or you start to suck. What do you do then, become a refridgeration technician?

Maybe try really demonstrating your long term play both if poker works out and if poker doesn't work out. Get her input, and work to set really clear boundaries for when you will stop playing poker (i.e. if your winrate falls below X for 6 months).

Ultimately you might have to choose. There are many fish in the sea, but also if she's the right one, it should last a lot longer than poker.
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05-22-2008 , 12:34 PM
soulmate-like relationships don't have ultimatums. i'd take this as a suggestion that perhaps your current situation isn't. but give her a good siihb before you kick her out imo.
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05-22-2008 , 12:49 PM
allow me to ask:

But how much did you lose?
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05-22-2008 , 12:49 PM
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Originally Posted by SkeetyMcdoogle
If this is true, and she can't compromise on something that is A) very important to you and B) making you a very nice income, she may not be the dream wife you think she would be.
/thread basically


Does she have some sort of neurosis concerning poker, some sort of traumatic experience? Neuroses often make smart people act stupidly. Barring this, she probably is just dumb. No offense but 'love' can blind people people for a long time.

If you can't pinpoint and understand her problem and stubbornness with poker, then it will 100% not be the only thing in the future she is obtuse about.
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05-22-2008 , 12:51 PM
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Originally Posted by randomcards
Let me give the unpopular answer.

Even if you are a successful poker player now, poker does not spell "stable long term career" to a woman who is considering a life and kids with you. Even if she were ok with poker now, what about 5 years, 10 years. So much changes in that time.

She's thinking 10 years from now, poker dies, or you start to suck. What do you do then, become a refridgeration technician?

Maybe try really demonstrating your long term play both if poker works out and if poker doesn't work out. Get her input, and work to set really clear boundaries for when you will stop playing poker (i.e. if your winrate falls below X for 6 months).

Ultimately you might have to choose. There are many fish in the sea, but also if she's the right one, it should last a lot longer than poker.
this is like one of the most romantic stories i've read in a long while
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05-22-2008 , 12:53 PM
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Originally Posted by lcscanada
lol, love the owl.

She is just very conservative, Christian girl. Went to University, goes to Church, gambling is bad, very old school.

She just believes it won't last. And it is true, it quite possibly could turn very bad for a while, but i have an education and a military background, i could find work if needs be,
she just won't give it a chance at all when were married. She is not controlling at all, just will not accept this. I leave for Vegas at least once a month for 5 day trips. And I go to AC now, gone for a few in Niagara, she is cool, independent, but just no marriage and poker.

Good lord how did you ever become friends with such a person to begin with? Fess up, did you two meet in sunday school but you've been led astray from the flock?
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