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Originally Posted by bobman0330
Your first paragraph is pretty striking when you think about it. Do you think that your current workplace has zero people who act inappropriately? If so, must be nice, would love to know how that workplace avoided this systemic societal problem. If not, why is it unreasonable for women to want to avoid situations with alcohol and at least one creep? As for the suggestion that a woman in that a workplace that has creeps in it should look for a new job, I would encourage you to mull that one over a bit. A lot of women are economically dependent on their current jobs and don’t have the luxury of finding a new one just to avoid a creep at work.
I wasn't really serious, but I do think if you're worried about going drinking with co-workers because they're a bunch of skeeves, you probably have bigger issues with your workplace than not wanting to go drinking with them.
I work in a fairly small office with ~25 employees, and I doubt there's any inappropriate behaviour (by which I mean, behaviour regarded as inappropriate by its subject). My office is about 60/40 women:men, that might explain some of it.
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I’m really not trying to tell you that going out for drinks is evil or means you are a bad person. All I’m saying is that it introduces lots of gendered problems and isn’t necessary. You can be sociable with your colleagues without drinking with them or dating them. You can get laid without dating coworkers. To the extent people are serious about solving sexual harassment and discrimination, you ought to consider whether there are solutions that involve you personally doing something different than what you prefer. It’s easy to endorse harsher punishments on harassers and company liability for incidents. That’s all somebody else’s responsibility. What ought to at least be considered is whether there’s more to be done by the non-creeps.
To the bolded, well, IIRC it introduces two problems, one of which ("I don't wanna!") I frankly don't care about, the other I see as part of the general malaise of patriarchy, something that is better tackled through wholesale adjustment of male attitudes and behaviours than annihilating whole chunks of normal and almost entirely healthy human interaction and collective catharsis.
And I really meant it when I said that working mothers who want to go out but can't are unlikely to thank you for like, removing the temptation. "Hey Alice, we know you'd love to come out with us for a few to gripe about that last meeting, but we've decided that we'll forego that pleasure, just for you, so, y'know, you're welcome." I know
I'd feel like handmade **** if I were Alice in that spot.