Obviously. Just ask her questions without seeming to have an ulterior motive or be leading her down a path and she'll often see the flaws herself.

Oh well if it's not in Urban Dictionary, the official reference for every phrase in the English language...

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Btw coddling racists doesn't work. See Civil Rights Act. The South would still have Jim Crow if they weren't forced to stop.

For slang, yeah urban dictionary is pretty much it. You got something better? And NONE of the first page of definitions match what you're saying.

Me and my friends grew up saying it - which is good enough for me.

It shouldn't be.

I can't force her to change her views on race. I could force her to shut the hell up about it but it wouldn't change her feelings.

Which is pretty much what happened with the South. Still better than the alternative of letting them continue.

So how exactly does a new phrase wind up in urban dictionary if no one's allowed to use it until it appears in urban dictionary?

Anyone can edit urban dictionary, then people vote up for down based on whether they agree with it. You're welcome to add you and your friends own special definition if pink eye. I just don't think you're going find any traction using a definition very nearly the opposite of what everyone else uses.

stink eye not pink eye

If you're going to be a colossal nit at least get the phrase right.

I meant the racial comments.

suzzer,

someone misled you when you were younger. There's nothing you can do but self-correct.

the same thing happened to me regarding the wildly racist term 'porch monkey'. Turns out, we were wrong, and it is racist.

You learned something wrong, just let it go.

I've only ever heard "stink eye" as a mean nasty look not a sexy nasty look.

Giving someone "the eye", that's flirtatious.

This is the case for everyone else who has ever heard the saying.

lol specific to the story I thought: 'What, no explanation how things went from there to sexy time?' or 'Why was she so mad at you in the first place?'

'Why do hookers have such odd approaches in China?'

Bridge the gaps suzzer!

Turns out you were using stink eye wrong. Makes the most sense.

Within 5 years someone is going to say "stink eye" in a movie referring to a girl giving a guy a hot look - then I'll laugh all the way to the bank.

I associate stink with poo, something I personally do not associate with sexytime.

Hey, some people are into that Rainier.

Like I said before, China (particuarly the good developed cities like BJ, SH, SZ, GZ, CD) has changed a lot since 2004.

I live on a residential street in the city, our street is lined with a lot of Bernie and anti Mike Pence signs except for one house near the end of the block who has a TRUMP sign out front. From what I can tell he's some kind of trump loving gypsy or something, their front yard is completely filled with various junk and wares and also what appears to be a small garden. This is Indiana btw if the Pence thing didn't give it away.

I was just in St. Louis and went to the same place for breakfast every day in an upscale suburb (Clayton). Each day the same group of guys was meeting there for coffee. Five or six guys. They would regale each other with tales of valor - one was really involved in the local lacrosse team and had just had STRONG words with the tournament director blah blah blah blah. Also lots of discussion of the Mickelson indictment - sample quote "If he got indicted for lying, what about Hillary?" Just a bunch of smug, self-satisfied, arrogant, pricks.

It should not have come as surprise to see the TRUMP stickers on their luxury cars, but I live in CA where that sort of thing is rare. I almost took a picture but I did not feel like getting into it with a bunch of Clayton jackasses.

Dude, you're wrong. Getting the Stink Eye is not the same as a come hither look, it's pretty much in the name. What kind of mental gymnastics do you have to go through to make "Stink Eye" sound like a good thing?

In OOT there's a thread for things you always thought were one way until you found out otherwise.

Suzzer

i was travelling 4mph over the speed limit on a country road yesterday on my way to go fishing at a nearby river, when some jackass wearing a bright orange hat in one of those lifted/brushguards/custom exhaust teeny pecker type trucks, with his arm hanging out the window making "WTF, COME ON!?!?!??" type motions started tailgating me out of nowhere and literally floored it to pass me on a wide open road. unsurprisingly, he had a TRUMP bumper sticker as well. i refrained from giving him the finger, since he was likely the only one of us who was armed.

My guys and your guy would normally HATE each other. Isn't it nice that TRUMP has helped them find some common ground!