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Originally Posted by The-fryke
Not personally bu my GF lost her dad to Cancer a year or so ago while we were living together (and we moved into her parents place for a few months towards the end to be closer) so I can at least relate somewhat.
In saying that, there is probably little I can say that would help as it is a situation that, for lack of better words, simply sucks. There isn't really a positive spin/silver lining you can put on it.
If you have any questions or want to vent feel free to PM me and I can try to help. In reality though, its just something that you will get through, and no matter how ****ty it seems, every day and every week that passes will be marginally easier, until after a year or so life is ALMOST back to normal.
All the best mate
Thanks for sharing. This hits on a lot of things that, for me, are really the crux of the issue. With a lot of crappy things in life, I can look to the future and know that things will be better at a certain point (even if that point is years away), and just fixate on that when things were bad. With this situation, I only hope for things to calm down and get better, but I know they will never be better than they were a couple of years ago when my dad was well. Tough pill to swallow (actually, I have no clue how to swallow it). I guess focusing on things eventually slowly settling down is worth considering, but that won't happen until after my dad passes away, so that feels really weird too since that sort of feels like hoping he'll die so my life can get back to normal. This sucks.
How substantially did going through that experience with your girlfriend impact you? Given that you're coming at this from the other side, do you have any ideas on how I can ease the burden on my girlfriend throughout this process? It's sort of wrecking her life too for the time being, and that just doesn't feel fair to me.
Last edited by jaglawson1; 05-06-2013 at 12:35 PM.