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12-21-2013 , 01:44 AM

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gder

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ok OP is dumb but i got almost all of my good guy friends gifts this year. I gifted 100% alcohol tho

thats a much more interesting debate

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12-21-2013 , 02:01 AM

#27

ESKiMO-SiCKNE5S

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that makes you a good mate. not doing it doesnt make you a bad one though.

and anything other than alcohol is lol apart from super specific situations.

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12-21-2013 , 06:19 AM

#28

Wotton

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Originally Posted by SoCalQuest

I figured it out..

Some randoms he knows convinced him that the birthday boy treats everyone to dinner and they see him yearly on his birthday.

They have to get him gifts though. Not a great deal.

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12-21-2013 , 09:03 AM

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Peter Porker

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Pez dispensers in exchange for steak dinners sounds awesome.

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12-21-2013 , 10:36 AM

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samuri8

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Originally Posted by Alobar

Is this some other country thing where its a custom that you pay for the meal on your own birthday or are you just poorly trying to explain that you dont want to pay for the meal cuz its your birthday?

Either way, its not your birthday, dont buy anyone elses meal, dont expect your meal to be paid for. Get a separate check like a normal person, and wtf at people getting you gifts, are you 12?

This may not be the sound advice you seem to think it is. It is a subject of heated debate in the tipping thread. Opinions seem to run the gamut from paying the whole check yourself outright, to allowing the check to be split, but personally ensuring that each member of your party leaves a generous tip to compensate for your buffoonery.

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12-21-2013 , 10:46 AM

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There Is A Light

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I have haven't bought/received a birthday present from a male friend since I was about 12.

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12-21-2013 , 11:14 AM

#32

Flartels

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Freeroll haha you suck op

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12-21-2013 , 12:02 PM

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idlikeadrinkplease

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Originally Posted by fizzypants

My old friends (from school) are meeting up for dinner after like a year.. around 6-7 of us..

My birthday went day before yesterday and I'm not sure if I should be paying for the dinner or not? It's not like I have invited anyone over.. they all just decided to meet because they won't be in town after this week.. All of them just wished me on my bday on phone/facebook and I don't think they're getting gifts or anything to dinner either..

I was thinking, it might look bad if I don't pay for the dinner because another friend's birthday is next week and he's mentioned to me that it's his bday dinner treat that day...

Would it be douchy to text everyone and tell them "SEE YOU AT DINNER TONIGHT EVERYONE.. IT'S MY BDAY TREAT" so that everyone gets gifts and doesn't freeroll? Would it look odd since it's already planned that we're meeting for dinner tonight so why this "extra message" from me? Or should I not treat them anyway? Because I haven't invited anyone and I haven't decided the meeting place either.

P.S. Money isn't the concern, I just don't like 2-3 of these friends, they're not so close either..

Assuming you're older than 10, aren't you a little old for birthday gifts?

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12-21-2013 , 12:25 PM

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12-21-2013 , 12:29 PM

#35

SGT RJ

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Basically the definition of douchey behavior. Go for it OP.

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12-21-2013 , 01:08 PM

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fun101

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Originally Posted by gder

ok OP is dumb but i got almost all of my good guy friends gifts this year. I gifted 100% alcohol tho

thats a much more interesting debate

I think buying friends a drink or two if both of you go out around their birthday is fine. I also think it is fine to get a really close friend a birthday gift. What OP is suggesting and expecting is ridiculous.

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12-21-2013 , 02:42 PM

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tcash777

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Don't worry about whether or not it's douchy. You are definitely a HUGE DOUCHEBAG. It's already too late for you. Your post amazes me with what a ******** you are.

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12-21-2013 , 03:05 PM

#38

fidstar-poker

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It's douchy, so you should probably send it, being a douch and all.

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12-21-2013 , 04:16 PM

#39

JWright777

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It would be weird not to do that OP.
What if they all remember later in the meal and feel bad? You have to let them know to avoid that awkward situation imo

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12-21-2013 , 04:21 PM

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Villian1

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Yeah, I dont get all the hate for op. It is pretty standard amongst my social group to do this. I've actually been called a douche for NOT letting my friends know its near my bday. Def let them know its near your bday, you dont want to be that guy.

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12-21-2013 , 04:25 PM

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lonely_but_rich

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Are you in your 20's?

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12-21-2013 , 04:38 PM

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SoCalQuest

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Villain: they had already Facebook messaged him or texted him on his birthday. You think he should notify them again days after?

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12-21-2013 , 04:55 PM

#43

Villian1

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Definitely. I mean they only get together once a year and its right around his birthday. A gentle reminder is perfectly acceptable. Especially if they are the kinds of friends that would bring gifts and it sounds like they are. Also, most people in my social group celebrate their birthday for a week. I would take that approach and let them know its your birthday week!!

Lbr, sadly no. You'd already have an invite if I was.

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12-21-2013 , 05:00 PM

#44

microbet

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Villain, you 30 years old or more and most of your friends celebrate their birthday for a week?

Are you all over 100 years old?

What country/culture are you from?

Are you like all trust fund kids?

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12-21-2013 , 05:07 PM

#45

microbet

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OOT axiom

If the question starts with either:

"Should I break up with...."

or

"Would it be douchy...."

the answer is always yes.

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12-21-2013 , 05:11 PM

#46

renodoc

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Posting cause its my birthday, bitches.

Norm's comment about slow-rolling punks half Jack Ury's age is now accurate.

Grunched cause this thread seems awful, but is someone supposed to be buying me dinner or what?

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12-21-2013 , 05:17 PM

#47

fidstar-poker

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Originally Posted by microbet

OOT axiom

If the question starts with either:

"Should I break up with...."

or

"Would it be douchy...."

the answer is always yes.

Would it be douchy if U break up with...

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12-21-2013 , 05:19 PM

#48

Villian1

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Micro, I was joking. But upon further review, kind of. I mean if my buddy's birthday is on a wednesday or something and I bump into him on Fri I'll probably buy him a beer or something if I remember. Which probably wont happen. If I had a friend tell me his birthday was on wednesday its probably because something interesting happened and leads into a story. In general, I dont do anything for my friends birthdays unless its something random. For example, I had an extra ticket to a football game that happened to be on my friends birthday so I went with him.

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12-21-2013 , 05:53 PM

#49

El Diablo

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All,

It's definitely a thing in some cultures/circles where the person having the birthday pays for the birthday dinner. I don't think them getting gifts is standard, though.

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12-21-2013 , 06:10 PM

#50

fun101

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Originally Posted by El Diablo

All,

It's definitely a thing in some cultures/circles where the person having the birthday pays for the birthday dinner. I don't think them getting gifts is standard, though.

This seems weird. If anything, shouldn't everyone else pay for the birthday person's meal?

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