The fact that any of you thought I was suggesting to do anything BUT to spit on that guy proves I am the best poster on this site

HERO.

I'm seeing a few trends here. Inflated sense/importance assigned to right and wrong, perhaps more exposure to violent behavior and then maybe just some other mental or hormonal spectrum/defects.

I have been rendered powerless in quite a few situations growing up. Outnumbered frequently and outsized almost always. Situations that make me feel that way now that I'm less insecure than when I was a teenager probably remind me of that time and I am more agressive about defending myself against being pushed around. It's not based on logic. I have done pretty well in reducing this issue in my life. I never ever road rage anymore. I may veer toward confrontation like in the gas pump story, but am able to recongnize it is not worth it even if it is a step or two after a normal person. I am going to step it up to dial it back even more. I'm pretty sure my wife has been about as turned off by me as possible at different points and is in it for the long haul, so a little cuck behavior isn't going to hurt.

AJ, do you have kids?

Spitting on someone makes you good at the internet?
Interesting.

I am never going to tire of these LBL stories.

These are exactly the type of women I imagine when reading an AJ post. They are all yours buddy.

Road ragers are the bottom of the barrel betas for the most part. I have the habit of slapping a car if it comes to close to me in the crosswalk while it's running a red light or just ignoring the need to pay attention to pedestrians. I slap so it makes a big noise. People really don't like it when someone touches their car (never mind nearly killing the toucher with the car.) It's amazing how many guys pull over, get out of the car, and rush me. For some reason they always stop when they realize that I'm laughing at them and I'm probably a dangerous psycho. So far I've never had to beat any of them down, but I would do so happily if it came to it.

Some guy did that to my car in my younger days. I had the slide pulled back and ready to chamber a round before enough red mist dissipated and I realized it wasn't worth spending the rest of my life in prison just to cap this douchebag. Yes, there were lots of witnesses.

I'm assuming your girlfriend dumped you after that pathetic showing.

This just happened to me two weeks ago.

I'm OAF but in pretty good shape for my age. I go to the local Y 3-5 nights a week to workout. My wife, two sons and I have been members since the day it opened 3 years ago. I have a lot of acquaintances there, I almost feel comfortable calling most of them my friends.

I typically workout during the week after the kids go to bed, 9-10:30. I really enjoy that time of my day. This night, it was 10 pm and pretty sparse in the gym, maybe 2 or 3 other guys and it's a giant floor. I am doing incline dumbbells. I can't set them down after each set because I have a little issue w my shoulder so I get to about half way and drop them. The floor is very heavy rubber or something. I don't even think twice about it and not to mention I have headphones on. I see out of the corner of my eye a dude comes from a few stations over and says something to me. I take off my headphones w a smile "hey, I couldn't hear you"... His reply "why don't you learn some gym etiquette?"

I was shocked. I'm not lifting very heavy weights, and this is really like a sanctuary for me. I love it there. I never seen the dude before and I told him the floor is made for it and I can't place the weights down it'll wreck my shoulder. And then he said something else that pissed me off, we exchanged some words and then I just said **** you... he said something under his breath like what time I was leaving the gym or when will I be in the parking lot and I just laughed at him.

We walked by each other one other time but no comments. He wasn't waiting for me in the lot and I haven't seen him since.

You should probably call the police and report this obvious harassment.

Can't believe that story didn't end up with the gym bro unconscious in a pool of his own blood after cracking his head on something.

At a minimum, you should have spat on the guy.

Geez some of you guys are violent.

I haven't been in a fight since high school. Had situations where it could go that way but I always acted to defuse instead of escalate. If I have to take a couple of insults to deescalate then it's a worthwhile sacrifice. Words ain't ****.

Please recount the most dramatic example, if you don't mind? I'm super interested in how different people react at key points in these interactions.

for real tho i hate it when people slam their weights down

Jerk store would've smoked that guy.

Yeah it wasn't that bad. I mean I recognize I didn't set them on the ground but I also didn't slam. For him to walk all the way over like that was unnecessary but I do know what you mean.

Can someone explain the anger over slamming weights down to me?

you dont want to just drop the weights after doing curls since they might hit and damage the squat rack

It doesn't bother me at all.

With physical things.... I am a girl and I am so glad, that the drunkest/craziest guys have usually somehow reduced physical aggression towards women.

But I wonder how to generally decide in a conflict situation to let it go/dissipate/deescalate or to go for a conflict. I mean normally in everyday's life it is rare that it is physical. But it is pretty often verbal/law suit/money conflict. And how to decide what is wise thing to do?

To go for a conflict cost energy, money and other resources and you don't know if you win. To avoid a conflict costs also some resources and, at least in me, there is such a very hard to avoid feeling: "I don't wanna be a sucker".

I have seen a documentary about apes. There the most successful were those who fought rather seldom, but if they did, then extremely aggressive.

I am just now actually in a situation, where I think about escalate it or not.



sry if it is a derail.

Lapka, unless you plan go back to the hospital and spit in the surgeon's face, I dont see any possible way to redeem your dignity.

that but it's also super annoying if you're jumpy like me and mid workout through your earbuds you hear and feel this enormous thud. it's loud

Can someone tell Jeff this isn't the "threads from 1968" thread?

Even if you can't see the logic in not escalating situations, the best way to combat a verbal comment from an aggresive moron, is by responding verbally with something smarter and cleverer.

Unless you're also an aggresive moron and don't have that option.