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a girfriend of a friend of mine has barbecue for like 6people (is student) , then after barbecue she asks everyone by mail that it cost aprox 9$ a person, and if they can send it to x account number. Stingy or not? I mean when i throw a bbq i dont charge $ in the first place, and second, i dont ask it afterwards by ***** email lolz.

What is wrong with people? Don't they see how this interferes with their social life? Don't they realize that others think they're tactless, cheap, etc? Or do they just not care?

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07-12-2010 , 08:09 PM

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Originally Posted by chipchip

Well if you throw a barbeque and buy all the drinks and food - I would never think that it is for free, except it is a birthday party or something like that.

A friend recently put a piggy bank on the table, where people could put some money in in the course of the night. Most did.

However of course it is stingy and foremost hella weird to demand money later via bank transfer. I would mail back gfy there was no contract gl

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07-12-2010 , 08:12 PM

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Next time I have a BBQ I'm going to ask people to ship $ to my PS account over Skype the next day

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07-12-2010 , 08:13 PM

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Originally Posted by chipchip

Going to a BBQ without bringing something or offering to chip in is poor form too, about the same level as your friends girlfriend imo. If you host free BBQ's you're in the minority.

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07-12-2010 , 08:20 PM

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Just had this one happen this afternoon. I'm planning a bachelor party for a good friend of mine and included a detailed budget for the weekend in the email I sent out to all of the participants. Three of the people (fortunately for them, guys I have never met and do not want to be on bad terms with before the party even starts) objected to a $13 payment for alcohol for a predrink. No reason was given. Also, to make things worse, they complained directly to the bachelor when I specifically asked them to contact me if there were any problems.

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07-12-2010 , 08:23 PM

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Originally Posted by scotchnrocks

Going to a BBQ without bringing something or offering to chip in is poor form too, about the same level as your friends girlfriend imo. If you host free BBQ's you're in the minority.

Iiii have certainly never put a jar or anything for any 'cue I've hosted. People bring beer and side dishes and stuff often, of course. I don't think there's necessarily anything wrong with passing the hat if you're going all out on a huge spread, but I'd certainly check to see how the brisket turned out before I'd start soliciting.

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07-12-2010 , 08:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Anacardo

I agree, and would never put out a jar or anything...was just sayin I'd feel pretty bad about going to a BBQ w/o bringing anything or offering. The email is definitely worse than freeloading. I'm also assuming it was a decent spread and not just hot dogs.

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07-12-2010 , 09:02 PM

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This gave me the idea to store my emergency water supply in the freezer. It takes up space I don't use instead of cabinet space, will keep things frozen longer in a power outage, extends compressor life, and save energy/money.

Yeah, this is anything but stingy. I do this, and IIRC, Alton Brown suggests that people do the same for all those reasons.

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Completely standard. And it's standard to even ask, "Hey, I'm making ribs/brisket/pork shoulder/steaks/etc., just bring a small side dish or six pack or something."

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07-12-2010 , 09:17 PM

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Have an optional tip jar during a decent bbq is pretty standard. Having a required one or demanding money afterwords is completely asinine and defeats many of the purposes for the bbq. Mostly, its a social gathering that the host puts on to show appreciation towards other people. Demanding money now makes the evening a business transaction. It is also standard to have people bring there own meat/beer if you're poor/student. It is never acceptable to require payment.

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07-12-2010 , 09:22 PM

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Meh, I think a tip jar is just a lame passive-aggressive version of asking people to chip in. If you want people to chip in, just ask them for money beforehand. Regardless, I think asking guests to chip in for a party or gathering you decide to hold is pretty bad form post-college.

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07-12-2010 , 09:23 PM

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What about for a PPV?

..and the tip jar for a bbq I would only consider not in bad taste is if you made/purchased all the meat/drink for the bbq. Otherwise I agree that its in bad taste. Concerning hosting a party after college, it is always in bad taste to have a tip jar.

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07-12-2010 , 09:25 PM

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Seems "standard" in that most people do it but I'm kind of put off by it. Keep in mind, with that sort of thing, or a BBQ, it's pretty much always implicit that you should bring a side dish or a 6-pack or whatever. Not doing so is poor form as well.

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07-12-2010 , 09:32 PM

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Because of this thread I filled my tank all the way up the last time I got gas. Maybe I just hit a sweet spot, but I'd swear the price jumped 10 cents the next day. Thank you thread.

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07-12-2010 , 09:37 PM

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I have a stingy question...

Say you throw a party for a group of 20-30 people. Nice party 30-50$ a person...

the next time one of these people have a party is it bad form to not bring anything to their party the next time?

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07-12-2010 , 09:41 PM

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Originally Posted by scotchnrocks

Going to a BBQ without bringing something or offering to chip in is poor form too, about the same level as your friends girlfriend imo. If you host free BBQ's you're in the minority.

I think expecting people to pay for you to throw a party are in the minority. Pot luck and having people bring a dish or their own booze are normal but not the only way to have a party. Expecting guests to pay cash for their meal is kind of crass I think.

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07-12-2010 , 09:43 PM

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Originally Posted by ryanthe4aces

You hosted them at a party, I wouldn't feel any obligation to bring anything to their party. I might still offer, especially if I had something in mind that I thought they/the other guests would enjoy.

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07-12-2010 , 09:46 PM

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Yes.

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07-12-2010 , 10:05 PM

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What about for a PPV?

When I host PPVs at my place, it's stated upfront that we'll all be splitting the cost of the event. The more people the cheaper it is per person, invite your friends!

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..and the tip jar for a bbq I would only consider not in bad taste is if you made/purchased all the meat/drink for the bbq. Otherwise I agree that its in bad taste. Concerning hosting a party after college, it is always in bad taste to have a tip jar.

This I could see going both ways. I'd probably put something in the invites that said "Feel free to bring sides/drinks/whatever or some cash to chip in!" Doing it after is LOLtastic.

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07-12-2010 , 10:10 PM

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A tip jar for a party? That's ridiculous. Don't throw a party if you can't afford it. Otherwise, organize a pot luck.

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07-12-2010 , 10:18 PM

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Originally Posted by miajag

I don't think I've ever seen a tip jar at a party. Asking guests for money at a party is always bad form imo.

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Originally Posted by ryanthe4aces

seems like no one would ever be expected to bring anything if everyone's throwing parties at $30-50 a head

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6 people grilling out isn't a party though. Showing up to a small grill out in college and expecting to freeload is inconsiderate. They got called out on it in an over-the-top way.

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07-12-2010 , 10:31 PM

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my roommate and i regularly collected cash for parties during college. afaik people didn't think it was rude, we threw these parties on a regular basis and alcohol adds up on a college budget. i think we usually broke slightly above even

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07-12-2010 , 10:56 PM

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College keggers are not what the vast majority of this thread is talking about. $5 collected at the door (for dudes at least) is standard there.

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07-13-2010 , 12:08 AM

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After reading this thread I no longer understand the concept of friends.

Tip jar at a barbeque I choose to host?

Charging friends for gas money if I have to drive to a place regardless?

I must be doing life wrong if I think of these situations as "enjoying the company of friends is why I would allow for them to ride with me, or join me at my house for a barbecue".

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07-13-2010 , 12:13 AM

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dude you just used up $.03 of my electricity to read that, plz send to stars kthx.

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07-13-2010 , 12:17 AM

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You can do what you want. I wouldn't charge them.

Having the company of 2 good friends with me on an otherwise long boring trip is worth it for me.

What's the alternative? They don't join you and you ride alone? Cut your nose off to spite your face? Really? I mean just because you have more leverage than they do in this scenario doesn't mean you have to use it.

For like the umpteenth time in this thread, if you have the type of friends you want to have, friend #1 says "Hey I've got your Wendy's because you are driving us" and "Hey, let me pay for that beer" or whatever. People seriously have the "ok, you are going to pay for x, y, and z" before a trip? WTF that sucks.

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