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Originally Posted by JayTeeMe
no. Either I'm being levelled by 20 people or you guise are dumb. They are totally wrong not to invite her to the rehearsal dinner.
I have a wedding I'm in in the middle-of-nowhere Minnesota this weekend. My girlfriend is obviously invited. If we get there and they tell me she's not invited to the rehearsal dinner am I supposed to take the car and leave her in the motel room with the promise that I'll try to bring her leftovers? Have any of you dated an IRL girl for >6 months???
Been reading this thread off and on for awhile now, and people keep coming back to this wedding scenario.
The guy who was part of the wedding, and whose girlfriend/wife wasn't invited to the rehearsal dinner, is absolutely in the right. When people get married and have a "wedding party" who shows up to the rehearsal and is part of the big day, the signficant others are understood to be part of the festivities (the rehearsal dinner).
It is in extremely poor taste for the bride or groom to tell a member of the wedding party that "Hey, you're special to me, and I want you as part of my Big Day, but your spouse/gf/bf isn't invited to the rehearsal dinner. I hope you understand." If I was standing up in someone's wedding, especially if I was a huge part of it--like the Best Man or Maid of Honor--I'd be extremely pissed. Adding to this story is the fact that the OP got married 2 years earlier, and had included both the bride and groom (who were dating at that time) in his own rehearsal dinner.
Anyway, it just screams of poor etiquette. People can argue all day long that maybe the wedding couple couldn't afford the extra plate, or they didn't like the woman and didn't want to invite her, or any number of silly things. The bottom line is, the wedding couple made a huge faux pas. And if I were the OP, I wouldn't have attended without my signficant other either. It's a slap in the face.
What about the Flower Girl? If she's only 7 years old, and her parents aren't part of the wedding party, do they have to drop her off at the rehearsal dinner and then leave?