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Originally Posted by shakalakashakaboom
As RJ said, you're making a false comparison. She is related to the accused rapist. It doesn't matter how standard her line is in rape cases, she has no business giving legal advice to this girl. How you could ever argue otherwise is beyond me.
Because it is her job and standard operating procedure and ethically proper to inform a rape victim what they are in for...
Again I am going based on what was SPECIFICALLY quoted in this thread, based on what that said, I don't think she said anything out of line.
There is no other comparable situation or crime where the victim suffers so much. I know there are rape shield laws, but what on earth did that do in this case? Everyone already knew what was going on. That this whole thing would be a very trying nightmare for her is completely accurate.
I certainly don't want women not to report rape but some of you act like it is okay to trick them into going through with a prosecution with their head in their sand as they are potentially tortured and further scared and damaged from the entire process which could play out for years. Thinking it is responsible to NOT make it clear to a rape victim what they are in for is just wrong to me and it has nothing to do with justifying and supporting rape.
Being so wild eyed crazy to get rapists that you would subject every single rape victim to an additional horrible experience that may be equally as horrible for the victims just to satisfy your urge for retribution seems crazy to me.
Telling someone who is raped that going through a trial and prosecution is not going to be easy and not going to be fun and could be very painful is simply not intimidation. So please feel free to quote the specifics where she did something intimidating. I understand her son was involved and the conflict there, but again that does not actually change the relevancy of the advice because it is the truth.
I would prefer that every single women who was raped was able to easily stand up for themselves and endure the process without additional pain and torture, but that is not the world we live in and all women are not the same. I think withholding that real and significant information is completely immoral and I am not sure I even understand the position some of you have on this other than everyone must be bad and must be burned and must be punished. Sometimes you have to look at specific actions and make decisions based on what was actually done or said and not just wrap up everything in a ball and say "unga bunga bad."
I explained myself over and over I was not trying to defend her but simply stating based on the specific QUOTES posted in this thread, what she did was not intimidation but something she absolutely should have done and would have been irresponsible not to have done. Plus I think people are conveniently just mashing up timelines with no regard for the facts so it makes the outrage greater.
I find this whole thing totally abhorrent, but that does not change the fact that informing a rape victim that pursuing with pressing charges is not some kind of cake walk and could be amazing difficult and painful and could drag on for many years, is the right thing to do. Rape can clearly be a deeply psychologically damaging crime and some people are simply not cut out for dealing with that on a nearly daily basis as a key part of their life for months and years to come, or choose not to... I am certainly not going to be the one who tells them they must suffer additional pain, suffering and potential humiliation just because... It is not my right nor my choice.... and like I said, I think any prosecutor who does not have a heart to heart with a rape victim on those issues is a bad person.
As for this prosecutor, again, I don't know the precise timeline, so I don't know what was going on in the investigation when or were, or what she knew when or where or what her son's known involvement at the time is or anything else.... It doesn't seem like many others here do either... So again, based specifically on the QUOTES posted in this thread, I can't fault her for what she told the victim nor think she was trying to intimidate her into not pressing charges.