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09-14-2016 , 08:32 PM
Had you guys discussed boundaries about sexual contact outside the relationship before? Like, was there a clear list of what behaviors would or would not constitute cheating?
09-14-2016 , 08:39 PM
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Originally Posted by MeLoveYouLongTime
I really don't want to say, but I could feel that he did a week before I checked into it.
With all the **** you admit to doing (banging tinder bros, sex parties, scared he's mowing his sister's lawn at basketball games), you really don't want to share how you "caught" him cheating? You wouldn't be the first person to go through someone else's personal **** to "make sure..."
09-14-2016 , 09:00 PM
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Originally Posted by SGT RJ
Had you guys discussed boundaries about sexual contact outside the relationship before? Like, was there a clear list of what behaviors would or would not constitute cheating?


We had very clear boundaries; he knew what he was doing. If he thought I would be okay with it, then why would he feel the need to lie to me and sneak around?
09-14-2016 , 09:04 PM
"And, after I accidentally went to a massage sex parlor I told him he could go check it out and get a hand job."

Most of me doesn't want to ask this, but did anything happen sexually in your accidental sex parlor visit?
09-14-2016 , 09:20 PM
The woman massaging me crawled on top of me and kinda just massaged me with her body and kept rubbing my inner thighs near my v. I think she realized I didn't know where I was at.
09-14-2016 , 10:01 PM
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Originally Posted by MeLoveYouLongTime
He still thinks he didn't cheat and betray me and hurt me.

09-14-2016 , 10:05 PM
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Originally Posted by MeLoveYouLongTime
The woman massaging me crawled on top of me and kinda just massaged me with her body and kept rubbing my inner thighs near my v. I think she realized I didn't know where I was at.
Sounds like you met a girl who's not intimidated by you! Sex masseuse must be a very high paying job.

Last edited by spidercrab; 09-14-2016 at 10:25 PM. Reason: Dammit, thanks Tom
09-14-2016 , 10:20 PM
lol

edit: but i think you meant "intimidated." but maybe not.
09-14-2016 , 10:22 PM
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Originally Posted by SGT RJ
Like, was there a clear list of what behaviors would or would not constitute cheating?
Cheating is kinda like porn, you'll know it when you see it.

Quote:
Originally Posted by MeLoveYouLongTime
We had very clear boundaries; he knew what he was doing. If he thought I would be okay with it, then why would he feel the need to lie to me and sneak around?
I'll hazard a guess and say that he didn't give a **** about your "boundaries."
09-14-2016 , 10:26 PM
He was really sweet this weekend and made her breakfast and stuff, though.
09-14-2016 , 10:36 PM
stepped up his game
09-14-2016 , 10:40 PM
Will he continue to be sweet if she turns down breakfast tho?
09-14-2016 , 11:30 PM
Well, you could make a solid case he's been cheating on his sister with her this entire time, so really, this was to be expected.

But seriously, if you had clearly delineated boundaries and he violated them, I don't know what, other than your refusal to live in reality, would lead you to believe this won't happen again at some point.
09-15-2016 , 12:00 AM
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Originally Posted by SGT RJ
Well, you could make a solid case he's been cheating on his sister with her this entire time, so really, this was to be expected.

But seriously, if you had clearly delineated boundaries and he violated them, I don't know what, other than your refusal to live in reality, would lead you to believe this won't happen again at some point.


You are crushing this thread.
09-15-2016 , 12:01 AM
I still love the fact that MLYLT thinks the code/sister "one on one" time is more about some twisted incest relationship than it is that the sister just doesn't want to be around MLYLT.


She must be very intimidated.
09-15-2016 , 12:14 AM
but but but he was so sweet all weekend. well, almost all weekend.
09-15-2016 , 12:14 AM
You diagnose her and then post like you don't know what's up Reid.

I'm not being hypocritical bc my and many others concern is really only the daughter. You seem to know who she is and then still like to belittle her on inane things.

It's one thing to tease her on a food log and another to mock her interactions with adults when you know it's an uphill battle for her that she's acknowledged only now starting to become aware of.
09-15-2016 , 12:17 AM
I don't know, maybe I'm of two minds. I just think her brain is diff and you know this and yet you seem to be mean spirited.
09-15-2016 , 02:17 AM
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Originally Posted by DodgerIrish
I don't know, maybe I'm of two minds. I just think her brain is diff and you know this and yet you seem to be mean spirited.
You're right. I'll try to keep it constructive from here out.
09-15-2016 , 11:39 AM
Construct her that baby catapult.

FTR these are exactly the kind of people I always imagined were at sex parties.
09-15-2016 , 12:04 PM
mlylt,

Curious how you decided that going and getting jerked off by another woman was ok, but sticking it in her vag instead of her hand would be not ok.

Is it because sticking it in her vag gives her pleasure too, so it makes you uncomfortable that he's giving someone else the good feels?

Not saying it's wrong to set those boundaries - definitely 100% within your rights to do so, just curious what the mindset is there.
09-15-2016 , 12:18 PM
I'm so intrigued by the "I don't want to divulge how I confirmed I was correct." Like, is she afraid that Code is going to press charges for her accessing his phone/email/facebook/credit card/whatever without his permission? Or does she want to protect whatever "hack" she has for future use?
09-15-2016 , 12:54 PM
Cit,

Code cheated with a bisexual woman mlylt was already cheating with!
09-15-2016 , 01:56 PM
The fact code denies that whatever happened constituted cheating just makes the entire thing that much more loltastic.
09-15-2016 , 04:41 PM
I wonder how many times in the history of (woah)-Man has an accidental female sex parlour visit lead to a renegotiation of sexual boundaries and then in the result confusion her mate cheating and causing relationship friction/harm.

Almost certainly the first time in history now that I think about it.

      
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