I agree with this, but it's the stone-cold truth guys have to face when it comes to online dating. You'll be happy to know Nick that the girl I went out with today from OKC thought professors in general are all hacks and that she is better than them, but I'll get into that later

These are terrible. I'm not surprised they weren't successful.

LOL at all these niche Simpsons screennames by people ITT. I messaged a girl with the SN "IchoochoochooseU" way back when, but she didn't want to be my guest for the Krusty Anniversary special sadly

Bah, I think my opinion days are over. The guy I thought was the best looking I actually liked the least. Whereas I probably "liked" Burdz and a couple of the other guys I wouldn't consider physically attractive at all the the most (not by profile, but by personality in general). I just can't hang with guys who won't say a simple TY and continue to argue with people who are genuinely trying to help for absolutely no reason but out of the goodness of their own hearts. I even put back up my pic just so you would have a feeling about who you were talking to.

Good luck, guys. And thanks to all who wrote me PM's and who really meant it when they said they appreciated the feedback.

Amazinmets73: is that pic of you at council oaks at the hard rock? Bartenders there were amazing last time I was there.

Showed my profile to my mates gf. She basically said the profile makes very little difference. All about looks. She also told me to put pics of me fighting but I think it might give of the wrong impression. Not a jock at all. What do you guys think?

lol I wouldn't expect you to know how to think like a woman. Women want a fun and exciting date. We don't want to be bogged down with tedious details, because that's just plain boring. In generally, better looking guys tend to be more confident and experienced with charming the ladies. Less attractive guys tend to be more socially awkward, and less likely to know how to appeal to women. Even with average looks, if you're attune to what women want, you'll be fairly successful in the dating world. Learn how to be more engaging and you'll get a lot more second dates.

I can get away with saying weird things because I'm cute and can use a lot of smilies . If I looked like an ogre I'd have to tone down on the weirdness, because that's just creepy! The less approachable looking men should stray away from really weird, unusual stuff because women have a more acute sensitivity to danger; we have to try harder to not get raped and murdered. It's just human nature.

Now if Steve Harvey can get crackin' on a "Think Like a Woman" sequel, maybe the rest of us ogres ITT have a chance at being more attuned to women

Buy a good camera, take some photos of yourself and you should be fine. At least it's a start. Use the 3/4 angle to make your face look better if need be.

This.

Edit: after reading Felicia's post, I should add that men do the same kind of thing with women they're attracted to vs. women they're not attracted to.

The 2nd one is legit hilarious if you listened to the news at the time and were from Toronto. I wasn't really trying, I was just amusing myself with the brothel message

Depends who you are trying to attract. Girls at the club who like to get into trouble and have their boyfriend get into a fight for them would like it. A Masters student who loves deep conversations probably would hate it.

Youre right BUT theyre right too.

I would never take advice on dating from a woman. Find a successful guy you know and take his.

However, what youre complaining about is exactly what they should be telling you. Because what you project will have a different impact on girls depending on how attractice you are.

Guys in here are putting these elaborate self deprecating internet-style jokes thinking theyre funny. And they are among them and their likeminded friends but an ugly guy being a dork isnt gonna be attractive. What they should be doing is be more aggressive.

If an attractive guy makes a silly joke, hell be regarded as funny or lighthearted.

Attractive girls get away with much worse so its not so ba

Guys ITT have to have some sort of standards that deter them from messaging a girl purely because she's hot, right? I like to think I'm farly open, but I don't bother messaging someone who is a 6+ if:

- they say religion is the most important thing to them/require a man to be God-fearing (pushing religion on me is the worst, I keep my beliefs private other than that I'm Christian)
- they're hardcore conservative
- they're against gay marriage/think homosexuality is a sin
- they have some laundry list of requirements in their profile purely based on looks and how much money the guy is REQUIRED to make before they message them back
- they answered "only after the wedding" for the "how long does it take before sex" question
- they're a 25% or more "enemy" (usually because they are most of the above)
- they have no profile
- they have a boring profile with no common interests
- they are looking to get married and meet their soulmate RIGHT THIS SECOND

I can barely afford pasta atm, let alone cameras // Smallest Violin.

I found this one which I didn't think was too bad and was going to use, but than I realized that the zit under my nose stands out like a sore thumb:



Oh well, no relationship for me this decade.

Almost Everything a woman publically proclaims about herself to strangers is bull****. Apart from excessive god freaks, id message anyone i find very attractive if i were you.

What's wrong with the girl in the photo?

Your zit only stands out to you. Its just a red dot, not like theres pus everywhere. Use the pic, its fine if you have no others.

That's what I'm kinda afraid of. Dont really want to date another club girl. Btw it's not a street fight. It's in a ring or on a matt (grappling).

Id use the grappling pic. No girl will find that unattractive.

Well unless I put the ones of me getting my ass handed to me lol.

How do I set my okcupid profile to public so that jellyking and Felicia can see it? I would like a review.

Denial ITT

If you're having poor success and have been given advice, and you ignore it but still keep complaining, then you're just attention whoring. Quit being so bitter.

Looks aside, being perceived as awkward and/or boring is probably your biggest enemy when it comes to dating.

I believe we gave a pretty positive review to the one successful guy here. I mostly focus on telling what not to put. We might not always know what turns us on, but we definitely know what turns us off.

But yeah, unsuccessful guys should start giving less advice.

Do you want me to try and fix that for you?

how do people not know photoshop (or even mspaint...) at all? took me 10 seconds.

LOL, cool. Wanna give me a decent hair cut and place a more classy beverage in my hand whilst you're at it?

now fix the girl's face