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Originally Posted by Jamerc81
If I go with the same sort of bland one, how do I stand out? But at the same time, maybe it puts girls off who don't get what I'm going for or satirical/surreal stuff like I have now, and they would otherwise talk with me just based on looks. Or, maybe it weeds out boring ratrace sheep or close minded types..
Any thoughts? And no I'm not posting my text haha
My impression is that the biggest mistake that guys often make is to try to write a profile that will be somewhat appealing to the most women. This usually results in guys trying seem normal and uncontroversial (e.g. girls mock how often guys will describe themselves as "laid back").
This is not what will get attention. What you want to be doing is writing a profile that will make
some woman pick your profile as the 1 out of 100 that she is most interested in. You don't want to be what most women are sort of looking for. You want to be exactly what some woman is looking for.
Note that this can mean that posting certain things in your profile that might be wrong or even douchey for the vast majority of guys could be right, and almost necessary, for you. One common example would be posting a shirtless pic. Well over 95% of guys would not be well served by posting a shirtless pic in their profile (and certainly I am part of that 95%!). Most women find this slightly offensive, and the women that don't aren't going to be impressed.
But if your abs are in the top 1%, you should absolutely be posting a shirtless pic. Because there are some women out there who are looking for exactly this. And if you care about your abs that much, do you really want attention from all the girls who would be offended by them?