I don't want to date anyone 10 years older than me, like I said, lots of gray, lots of wrinkles, some are retired... I really want to date someone who also works so we'd have more in common (unless he's rich & we can travel the world, lol).

I bet I could do better if I just started lying about my age. I could probably get away with shaving off 8-10 years as long as I didn't ever mention my kids' ages

^ Yowsa, you sound like exactly the woman I'm looking for, pity we live a few thousand miles apart!!!

I had one woman message me who had her age listed as 36, but then said in her profile that she's a very honest person except that she's lying about her age. Of course I had looked at her pics before reading her profile and my initial impression was that she looked older than 36. I asked how old she was and she responded that she was 41, but that she wasn't getting the attention she wanted with that age listed and she thought it was OK to fib a bit since everyone told her she looked younger.

I was joking... I wouldn't ever do it because there's not really anything to gain from it & would only make me look bad.

Yowsa do you attend events or occasions that you can get to talk to guys with similar interests?

I just came across a profile of a woman who listed her college as "Paul Mitchell."

The Midwest is a strange place. When I was 29 and living in Omaha I messaged a 32 year old and she replied "Thanks for the message but I'm not gonna be anyone's cougar."

Here's a new one: a chick I found on OKC is MARRIED. wtf is that? She has three photos and a guy I am guessing is her husband is in two of them.

I'm a bit freaked out.
Haven't been very active messaging lately, and though my profile doesn't get a ton of traffic I have picked up a few stalkers who visit several times per day.

I went ahead and checked them out. There's a "dream partner" thing where you describe what sort of person you're ideally looking for. At first I thought I was being delusional, but then I remembered having seen her profile before and it turns out she's actually modified the text to mirror my profile and physical features. WTF.
Another has taken several of my "jokes" and re-worded them to fit the other way around. That's OK if she just browsed my profile, got inspired and took one, but just keeps coming back.
The 3rd one, who visits the most (and somehow is really hot) keeps deactivating her account (and this way disappears from the visitors list). Not a big deal and her profile is normal, but still weird.

Now I'm not a stranger for attracting certified crazy, which is probably why it upsets me - but really, online?? This is the kind of thing people do to get you to notice them? I must be overreacting but find this pretty creepy.
JFC.

I've seen plenty of those on OKC. Lots of couples looking for a third.

TD: That is super super common in the SF Bay Area, tons of people in open relationships or looking for a third. Most put down "available" rather than "married" as their status, but same difference. Also like 50% of females out here are "bisexual" though there was an OKC blog about how most of them weren't really.

Fan: are you like super good-looking?

No, I look like a ****ing ogre but it seems to appeal to a low%

I think 'bisexual' means 'I get drunk and make out with chicks sometimes" for a lot of girls on OKC

Yep, I go to events with various meetup groups & I even run a group (so I schedule & host social events), & I get together with friends & meet new people that way.

Yeah, agree. I don't even notice or bother looking past the age anymore. I have met tons of girls who tell me they're bi and are surprised when I didn't know. It's just way too many for it to be the real number.

The gentile way to find out is ask them if they've ever been in a relationship with a woman.

Hmmm, you're close.

So the girl I recently saw stopped responding to my texts. Since we had tentative plans for this evening I said **** it and called her. To my surprise she answered but declined my offer to hang out this afternoon and said we did not make plans for this evening. The brush off, but what provokes a woman like this to even bother picking up the phone?

ATF,

She picked up the phone because you couldn't take a hint and she figured she'd have to be super direct since you are so socially clueless.

Probably. She didn't reject me outright though. Just odd to go from making out where, in response to me saying I enjoy kissing her, she said "you'll get to do it again" to being put on the side burner. Oh well.

Is it social cluelessness or an inability to decipher mixed messages? In either case, I've dated enough now to know that when a woman is interested she makes it obvious. In this case I thought it was worth pressing a bit since our interactions have been ridiculously non standard

Ugggh, she sounds awful.

I had a fun one. I just recently got online with this and a woman liked my profile and rated it highly. So we messaged back and forth a bit and it was going well. We set up a time to meet for coffee on Sunday. She asked if we had crossed paths before because I seemed familiar, I told her that we hadn't and that Sunday at 4 would be good. I'd look up a place and let her know.

Get on this morning and her profile is deleted. Tiiiiiiigggggggght.

It's a tough spot because she's super different. She's effectively blown off every future plan we agreed to but then met up on 30 minutes notice last Thursday. She gets away with cause she's hot but I also find her eccentricity oddly alluring. I'm gonna chalk it up to yet another crazy experience and move on though

ATF

Are you socially isolated at this point? I ask as it can happen when you get older and then if there are other things going on in your mind it can be quite a lot to deal with including dating this way. (Trust me as is apparent ITT) Just that it seems you will need to line check a lot as you pursue high variance and non-standard lines. Your self-esteem will take a battering if you hold out for 2 outers so much!

El D, I am learning a lot from your advice to ATF!