Brown if yowsa says im right then you dont get to argue. Theres no way on earththat saying "Im lucky enough to have art as both my hobby and job. I believe being passionate about what you do is the only road to success and fulfilling your ambitions. I am into art in many fields, from painting to film" is blander than "Pretty straight forward guy into drawing and painting, music and films and reading". Thats the blandest line ever!

And saying pushes the envelope and norms may be whatever, but dont sit there and tell me that is better "Just now I am working in art and that is making the stuff which is not always so straightforward. It might be better for all of us though if it was straightforward!"

Anyway sorry if i keep pushing but i kinda relate to you in some ways which is why i feel involved in this.

Not a bad start. Had the profile up for 12h and have already had a decent looking girl message me with:

your profile made me laugh!.. Not in a bad way though!
Hope you're having a great weekend

Profile still needs a ton of work, but good to know I'm not WAY off

Pretty straight forward guy into drawing and painting, music and films and reading. Sport and keeping fit and feeling healthy as well.

Got a good group of friends from many different aspects and it would be great to expand this and meet a few girls !!

That is it. That's what they're getting for now.

good work the fr I know I've got nothing on mine to make them laugh!

Just for the record Ive got potential meets with about 4 5-6s this week. Because I'm somewhat attracted to them though they're 6-7s

Ah so much potential wasted. Im disappointed. Now i hate you and everyone who will cheer and enable you jk, good luck with the 6s

Not trying to be a dick, but WTF does this even mean?

Also, don't mention things about friends in your profile IMO. Not a good look and reeks of confidence issues.

If you come off as an awesome dude in your profile, which the goal of writing a good profile should be... girls will just naturally assume you have cool friends, so no need to mention it.

Wtf is laughing in a bad way?

Had a semi first date tonight. Went to bww to watch UFC with friends. She met me after work since she works across the street.

We walked outside and talked for a bit. 2nd date is confirmed for my place. Maybe I'm not that awful at online dating after all lol

Do you guys bother at all messaging girls who seem really cool but you aren't that attracted to them? Just saw a girl who was 90% compatible, seemed really cool, made an obscure reference to my favorite video games (Fallout series) and seems like she has a good sense of humour.

How acceptable is it to message people with the sole intention of just being friends? Is it deceptive at all assuming you tell them reasonably promptly?

Like haha you are pathetic

Laughing in a bad way would be laughing at his expense. So a chick reading Brown Gord's profile and laughing at him because it is so bad and not because it is actually funny...

this made me laugh in a good way at you and probably not a good way at brown

Yeah. Like if shes a whale I don't care how personable she is, whats the point?

If she looks ok in pics, I say go for it. Pics and IRL can be quite different, even when the person on the other end is not trying to deceive you.

PS I take back my critique of your approach. There are so many girls that just don't give you much to work with on their profiles.

How can you really be sure if you're attracted to someone until you meet them? Unless you think they're awful looking, the wrong skin color, wrong body size/whatever - if they're supposedly a 90% match and "seem cool", why not meet them to see if there's any attraction? I don't think you can tell if there's a real attraction just by looking at a profile.

Yeah I laughed at the bad laugh at me.

Lots of piercings and funky dyed hair, not really my type at all. Normal piercings are ok, but I find the bull nose piercing extremely unattractive, and she has one of those.

I messaged her and she didn't reply so all good

Haha..And the laughs continue :-D

Too bad brown, you seem to have such potential, I dont get how you are ignoring such straight up, easy to follow and still very normal lines from sava but I guess you dont feel comfortable. Im on my phone right now but google "comfortzone where the magic happends" and thats my last try in convincing you... The profile is just the opener, if you are fun in person nobody is going to even care about your profile. Good luck though.

Yeah no I am listening and I got what I think is right or near enough. Just needs to be brief enough to start chatting and as you say if it's fun it's gonna stay fun and you gonna click!

Over-thinking it when I should just accept how awesome I am and just let the burdz dig it!

GL to all

Haha so my username is Vegans are Bad People (in shorthand) and two girls I've messaged are both vegetarians. Oops. Decent chance I regret the username but I've had a few people like me already and I wouldn't date a vegan or probably vegetarian anyways, so probably no loss.

haha thats actually pretty good! I might use that as my POF headliner ...

Get cold opened 5 mins ago, "hey. Wanna come over". Open profile and I am disappoint lol. Not much of a looker at all. If she was even remotely attractive I'd go along. Oh well lol

I think I am officially taking myself out of the dating pool for a while. Though this break may last only a week or so. I am completely burned out and I don't seem to really enjoy myself when I am on these dates.

I started dating again in mid-June through OKC (which yielded 14 first dates) and I have been on one date through Hinge and two dates by meeting them through more conventional methods. In total, I have been on 17 first dates in two and a half months. Nine of those 17, I never saw again. I slept with three of the 17 and two of those turned into quasi-relationships (the third was a one-night stand). One of those two is a close friend of mine now. Five of the 17 I had a second date with but nothing major happened (only making out or nothing at all).

The problem is that I am just not meeting anyone who really excites me. Also I feel like I could be too laid-back for some of these girls. They seem to do the majority of the talking on the date, mostly b/c I am more of a listener. I just don't have the energy or desire to talk about myself a lot.

Here's a first. Some online dame that has been putting off meeting (though we literally live 2 minutes apart) called me out of the blue Saturday evening. Suffice it to say, it was super awkward. She could tell I was tipsy. Oops!

These are very common feelings about online dating. Once you get burnt out, oftentimes you're going to stay that way. I went on about a dozen first dates, about 5 second dates over a three month span and I cant seem to bring myself out there unless someone really catches my eye