It won't show up or post anything to your Facebook. Forcing a Facebook log in is actually a good thing because then there's less fake accounts, girls are less sketched out by it, makes it easy to sign up (less effort for chicks) etc..

Tinder is great and has better looking girls than any other dating site by far.

From my understanding it just uses a couple pics, interests, and mutual friends from Facebook, but it doesn't actually show up on your Facebook.

This is true, my friends have had great success. Getting into it soon myself and I will participate in this thread.

I had an on and off correspondence with a girl for about a year and a half over pof and then okc...no biggie, neither of us was incredibly keen in the messages but I told her recently we should just get some drinks and see if we've got a good story....mostly because she posted a few new dynamite pictures. She agreed to exchange numbers and we're planning a date, but the problem is I can't remember her name. I'm in Toronto, so I was thinking of having my cousin in Vancouver (different last names, no physical resemblance) write her a message with some bull**** like "I think I remember you from ______(event she mentions she used to work at), is your name Stephanie?" just to see if she'll correct him, whether or not she's weirded out. Opinions? Any better message he can write? I know her name starts with an S, that's all....and I'm not posting her profile her obviously.

Sounds like it's totally reasonable for you to have forgotten her name so just cut out all the bull**** and ask her.

Just end your new few messages to her with your name and hope she reciprocates. That is usually how I get there names... It usually ends up being their 2nd message.

I posted this in the "Ask a girl out" thread too but figured this place would give good reponses as well. It's not an online dating situation, but it's close enough I guess. TL;DR appreciate any advice on this

So Saturday I ended up going to a really cool bar/club in my hometown. I got approached by not 1, but 2 above average/hot chicks (rare). Chick #1 is the Hot one, chick 2 was the above average looking one.

I arrived with my friend at this particular bar at about 12:30 and was approached by a cute girl like an 8.5/10, looked about 26-27 (probably 2-3 years older than me ish?) who was out with her gay guy friend. The convo was relatively short, but went decent. Anyways I forget how it all happened, but the talk about exchanging phone numbers came about, for us to meet up sometime. I actually think she brought it up. I didn't have my phone on me, it was dead in my car. So I suggested texting myself her name so I had her number, and I'd text her. I was pretty sober and wasn't ready to dance just yet. I'm really pissed that I didn't just offer to buy her a drink and then dance, but after the phone exchange happened she suddenly walked off and was talking with a random person, so I went ahead and figured that was that, nbd, cool - a possible date at least. Wished I was much more assertive, which I normally am.

So I end up sitting on one of the sofas with my buddy and we get to talking about what just happened, then suddenly girl #2 (prolly a 6.5/10) approaches us and starts talking to me. Convo goes smooth, I suggest we dance, and so we do. We get heated on the dancefloor and start making out, get her number and we have texted a bit since. The thing is, the girl #1 is definitley cuter, and I want to get to know her more.

Here's the problem: I texted girl 1 when I got to my car that night and said "Hey xxx, it was nice meeting you tonight. We should get together soon." to no response. This all happened on Saturday night/sunday early. I think there is a 50/50 chance she saw me dancing with the other girl, and was pretty into it, so if she saw she's probably put off by it. There definitley is a chance girl 1 didn't see, though because the dancefloor was pretty packed. I also never saw her after our first encounter.

I know I goofed up by not offering girl 1 to dance right away and get a drink... I get it. Is this worthy of a hail mary text? And if so, any suggestions on the last effort text is appreciated. I was thinking of saying something that shows I remember her pretty well, or short and witty is possible. Can I send a picture of me in the opening text to remind her who I was? That sounds like a little much, if she doesn't remember exactly it's probably not worth it. We literally spoke for maybe 5 minutes. Thanks in advance.

Id do this as well, if it backfired after a few attempts go ahead and just grow a sack and ask since it'd be way worse later if/when it comes up.

You could also link to your facebook profile and suggest she adds you (either do this before the first date or during/after if it goes well, if you don't mention her name on date 1 it's not likely she'll twig).

Ha, this is exactly what happened with me recently although I really wanted to go out with the girl but then I got banned from POF. I just racked my brains really hard and it came to me suddenly, I was about 85 per cent sure so I risked it and I seem to have got it right. Uh, so not exactly the same...

She said she is 'too busy' at the moment to have a drink but then 'you seem like a cool guy, how about (a drink) when life settles down?' so maybe she thinks she'll offend me if she says no or something. Trouble is she said the same thing when we conversed on POF and made the same comment 'if you're not married with kids by then'...

A question about OKC... on the free version, you get emails telling you who rated you highly and you can see who it is...(XXX chose you) but then it says 'Upgrade to see the 36 people who gave you four or five stars'. Is there any reason to upgrade when I have a constant email feed of who is interested?

Do you guys ever take a second try at the girls who never replied? Nothing with a lot of effort, but just some copy/paste second attempt?

Nah, not really, unless I happen to go through their profile and notice I last contacted them several months ago, then I'll throw out a quick message for the hell of it.

Seems like every single message I get from a chick is "hey" lately. How do you guys repond to these? I always ignore the ugly girls, then if a girl is decent or hot, I usually follow up with a little effort, but not much. If their second message sucks I often just stop responding unless the girl is rediculously cute and has a decent profile.

I just did an awesome job of chatting up a hot 22 year-old at a coffee shop and I have a date with her on Sunday.

We had been sitting at the same table for a while and when I got up to use the bathroom I said "Hey, can you watch my computer for a bit? Please guard it with your life" and she replied "I will....I'll throw my coffee mug at them". Then when I returned I asked her if anyone tried to steal it and she said "No, they saw my guns and were too scared". Then I asked her what she was studying and asked for her name and I complimented her on her necklace and told her I needed to get a birthday gift for my older sister. She told me about a store she likes and I said "Oh you should come help me pick something out and we can have a drink afterwards" and she said sure and then gave me her number. Then she took my phone from me and put her name in and hit the Call button. Then she gave me her phone so I could put my name in. She gave me her address so I can pick her up for our date.

This should be easy. I'm ten years older than her but I guess she doesn't know and doesn't care.

Her Facebook page says she used to do modeling. I wonder how tall she is.

Basically just treat it like an opening message, but since they've already shown interest, put more effort into the opener than I normally would.

I really need to man up and do this more often. Seems pretty straightforward. I have some blockade in my mind preventing me from doing this because it's "too obvious" or "uncool" to my mind but I need to just ditch that.

But wtf are you talking about "I wonder how tall she is" lol? Also isn't it strange you have her FB already and know her age? Also wtf is with "I guess she doesn't know and doesn't care" that you're 10 years older. Of course she knows.

I think the bolded is where the mistake is, honestly. I'd just text her in a few days with no picture, don't send a picture that's super creepy, about 1 thing that you two talked about and ask her out again. Worst case scenario she doesn't respond and you go out with girl 2.

By "her FB", you just mean "her name", right? That's all Facebook is. I was on a date once and the girl friended me mid-date. Thought that was a little odd, but not super strange.

My thinking was that texting her sooner than later is better in this situation because our correspondence was so brief, that I wanted to message her while it was fresh. Maybe I should have waited about 20 hours?

What was the purpose of your text? Was it to remind her that you know how to use a cell phone and that you are still alive? Because honestly that's basically all you managed to get across.

Ha, good point. Text game was weak there. I was so tired and didn't really think much of it. Guess I'll just do better next time around.

We're already at texting...I wasn't thinking about it until I went to save her number in my phone and forgot. Excuses excuses sure, but here we are. I also don't have facebook.

Whatever, I'm going with Steph. I like girls named Steph.

welp, going to inner harbor for the date. she said she lives close to there so that is perfect. YOLO

Just b/c I like taller women, that's all. I guess she must be quite tall if she did modeling.

She told me her age, so no, I don't think that's strange. And I don't "have her FB". She put her full name in my phone so I looked her up. I'm not going to friend her.

She doesn't know how old I am. She didn't ask and I didn't tell. Why do you say "of course she knows" ?

Don't put a lot of stock in girls who say they did modelling. It means next to nothing, except for the rare cases when it does.