Yah, it's true.

I tried for a few months in Omaha, Nebraska and it was just awful. For all the stereotypes about Mexicans having tons of kids, there are far, far more single moms per capita in Omaha if you're searching as a guy in your 30s on Tinder than in Mexico City.

I would've liked to have given online dating a shot in a reasonable American city like Denver or Austin. I feel like I could've carved out a decent niche. Montreal was the city closest to USA where I put in serious work, and I really enjoyed it there. But Québec is different enough culturally that you still get that foreigner bump.

BTW, today (24 May) my girlfriend and I are celebrating our 3 year anniversary. We don't remember when we became official (probably 7-8 weeks later) so I thought it'd just be cooler to celebrate the day we met as our anniversary. We're in Tbilisi, Georgia now and getting a couples massage and doing an all-day spa later.

I wrote the following on about her. It's funny going back to read my initial thoughts as we progressed together. I've actually shared a lot of my early dating details with her, and she finds it amusing how much of a slut I was. She knows she was date #5 of 6 over a 3-day stretch, for example.

This kind of post is a massive red flag as to how you approach dating imo. I've never in my life been on a date with someone who "felt like I owe her the world", so you're either doing an exceptionally poor job at filtering or you're approaching dates in a way that's making them act a certain way. And/or you're just so clueless or so deep in misogyny that you're misreading the situation.

A first date should be drinks and flirty banter, not a hyper serious formal dinner interview in which you tell each other what you expect out of a relationship and make demands or whatever. Get better at charming people in 30-minute face-to-face chats if this is an issue for you. Become more interesting too as Fossil says.

If you're finding yourself on dates with women who aren't physically what you like, filter better. It's extremely rare that I go on a date with someone I wind up not being attracted to - because if I had serious doubt I wouldn't have done it or, in a real pinch, might have asked for more photos or tried to find some online.

in all reality dc is probably happily married with 10 children and just here to post stuff and get reactions

Have you even used Hinge? With all due respect, it sounds like you don't know wtf you are talking about. Who said anything about going on dates? I'm talking about using the apps. For example, on Hinge you literally have to swipe through all the fat ugly people before you even have a chance to reach semi-decent looking people. For example, say you set your app to swipe on everyone within a 1 mile radius of you. If you get through swiping those people, the app gives you two options if you want to continue swiping. Either re-review people you've swiped left on (tip: don't ever do this), or expand your search area. Either one results in your app being bombarded with the most disgusting people you have seen in your life.

It's not like you have to swipe left (aka X out) on 12 fatties to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I'm literally having to X out hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of fat disgusting women just to find a decent one. That takes a long time. Unless you are on the app like 24/7 there's literally no way to get through all the fatties. There's like dozens of new fatties showing up on the app every day. Even if you are swiping left on like 50 a day you're probably not keeping pace.

Imagine if like half of these fatties were somewhat normal looking human beings. Then you'd be able to get through them in half the time. That's my point about why these apps must be much better in other parts of the world including Europe.

BTW, on Hinge you can pay to be able to filter based on a bunch of criteria. But even then, there is no filtering out fatties. You can filter by height but not by fatbody type..wtf sense does that make?

I'm not sure where you see the misogyny. If I was a fatbody myself you might have a point, but I'm not one so why the hell do I have to spend hours and hours swiping through their fat face profiles?

Unrelated to that, I wanted to mention the women on these apps portray themselves like they are go to live some exciting life of travel and leisure. Give me a frickin' break. By and large these women just working boring 9 to 5 jobs and then travel once in a blue moon. I hate to break it to you ladies, but traveling is not exciting. It's boring as ****. I'll tell what's exciting. Getting into a bar fight, that's exciting. Running from the cops, that's exciting. Being faced with a river shove after putting your entire bankroll on the poker table, that's exciting. Jumping out of an airplane naked without your parachute on, that's exciting. Swinging your fish bat at a pit bull that's attacking your Alabai, that's exciting.

So what do you wanna do? Oh I wanna travel and go to the beach and visit these sites..B O R I N G !

Lol, wow.

I've done 3 of those 5 things, but saving those stories for when I match with DC someday

I imagine travel stories appeal to people who also like to travel. If your idea of adventure is going to the cheesecake factory three towns over, you're probably not going to be interested.

And women who "expect the world" def exist, especially in a place like Las Vegas, which is full of people looking for someone to pay their way through life.

Seeing some variation of "have something to say other than asking about my weekend" or "talking about your weekend shows you have low EQ!" in profiles lately

Are people averse to leading an exciting life on weekends now, or don't want to put in the work of making it sound interesting?

I've recently been putting some work in on the dating front. I haven't yet landed my 2022 date, but hopefully all this work pays dividends. I at least expect a match or two. Good luck to us!

had coffee with a lawyer who actually looked better than in her profile, which was a huge plus

very easy going and easy to talk to, did same abroad program in spain as my brother but a year after him so crazy small world

will definitely see again

Product of fielding a million convos from a million matches. They are saying if you want to have a chance with me, have something deeper/meaningful/funny to say than talking about what your weekend plans are. That surface level conversation can get really boring really fast especially when you've never these matches. I think it's a negative character trait to put that in your profile but I understand why it's there.

dc i found your optimal dating site

https://www.refrigerdating.com/

Not sure that will work for me at the moment because Home Depot seems to have lost the refrigerator that was supposed to be delivered to me last week and has no clue where it is. I'm never going to order on that website again. Anyways, I cancelled that order and should receive my new refrigerator tomorrow from Amazon.

this is the perfect testing ground

signup now with current fridger, if results are bad then create a new account with the new fridge

don't be afraid, even though you're just here to troll, if there's even 1% truth to your statements this is probably the optimal path to you finding love

It'd be nice if I could get a few months to forget about my romantic failures after I deleted all my apps last week.

Especially after getting stomped at poker and robbed of my entire bankroll in Vegas 48 hours after landing.

But no, let's have this ill-fated Bumble match who stood me up at a pool hall 2 months ago seated directly across from me for 4 hours on the flight back for the **** of it.

Someday I'll provide this thread with more insanity for the sake of entertainment again

robbed as in give me your money?

did you say hi at least? I would have said "we should ask the stewardess for pool cues"

how'd it go with the former match who was the new colleague?

Pickpocketed in a massive sea of people squished on the strip trying to get a spot to watch the stupid 4th of July Fireworks - zero cops, zero casino security anywhere. Saw a teenager blackout with his parents screaming for someone to call 9-1-1 only for people to nearly trample all of them anyway. By the time the crowds got that bad, it was impossible to turn around and get back into a casino & head for the Monorail/back roads. I kept my roll in a separate front pocket from my phone/keys/wallet, so it was "just" cash and not a total functional loss of everything.

I dress like dogshit for flights that I'm flying in economy bc I have zero ambitions of trying to meet anyone new, much less shooting my shot at anyone attractive. Call me a simp but feel like you better at least be in first-class or some high-end environment if you're going to even think about hitting on someone in a confined space

She gave her notice less than 4 months later. Someone from her team told me she really torched bridges on her way out. I had to pick up her computer and other equipment from her in the pouring rain bc she refused to meet me inside our building and leave her car for 20 seconds in the drop-off zone or find a parking spot.

yikes, sounds brutal

i was pickpocketed once and literally saw it coming, was waiting in line to get on a bus, dude was standing super close to me and kept making contact (if someone is leaning against your shoulder it drives your focus to your shoulder and away from the hand in your pocket) i got fairly defensive, gave him a dirty look and told him to back off, then instinctively grabbed my wallet and moved it into my front jacket pocket and zipped it shut, he stayed clear, thought we were good (and hey maybe he's just a creep not a pickpocket) but then as we're getting on the bus i'm getting squeezed by people on both side (pretty sure it was a group operation) of people trying to get on the bus, i can feel him going into my pocket and grabbing wallet but no way to stop and happened so quickly, turned and tried to run after him but again i was kind of pinned in by a group so he got an enormous head start

was lucky didn't have too much but did need to get all new cards/driver's license etc and that really sucked

i wasn't talking about flirting more so poking fun at the girl who stood you up

also, wear nice clothing whenever you travel through airports - it's massively ev, you stopped getting so many random searches and when things go sideways with cancellations etc they are far more likely to want to go above and beyond to solve the issue - you also never know who you'll run into at an airport as there's tons of people there at all times

also sounds like you dodged a major bullet with the other girl so at least you had some silver linings in all of this

This is such a defeatist mind set. First, as an adult you're never hitting on women over 30 you're making convo aimed at letting them feel comfortable. Make them comfy by making them laugh, or listening and understanding... If you don't have one you better have the other or you're toast.

It's always a gamble. A flight is no place to let er rip, so you're right there, but saying you dress like trash bc economy is way off target. I haven't flown economy in 15 years but would dress just the same if I had to. Women are everywhere you go and they're so sick and tired of guys it is nuts

If you actually have zero ambitions of meeting someone new then embrace that and you better enjoy your own company. I have some good friends like this and just josh them once in a while abt the jerk off lifestyle they own. But seriously it is ok to not be ok with women, but if that's who you are own it. If you want to meet someone then you need a female friend or a gay friend to set you on course

Poor wording on my part - what I mean by "confined spaces" is stuff like public transit (buses, trains, planes, etc.) Not talking about refusing to ever approach someone in a bar/at an event/through friends etc.

I don't disagree there - almost always beneficial to dress well wherever you go. Thankfully, I breeze through security/have never gotten searched since having CLEAR + TSA Precheck. Do tend to spot a few minor celebrities/athletes whenever I'm in an AMEX Centurion lounge though, so probably should dress better in those circumstances.

unsure if i had a major blunder today

go out to the point to surf cast for stripers, i go out on the rocks and start casting and notice on the other side of an inlet is a female who is in good shape sitting on the rocks looking out on the ocean

legit consider moving over in that general direction to fish but figure it'd be a little creepy so just stay where i am

after about 5 minutes she gets up and starts heading over my way - this is not an easy task, needs to go down from the rocks she's on, walk across a small beach and then back up the rocks to me, it's about 200 yards or so - we make eye contact as she's approaching so i just give a wave and she approaches with the standard "caught any fish" and we joke around briefly about mostly catching seaweed etc

i'm having a tough time gauging her age (something i really struggle with (on a recent canoe trip there were two young women, i thought one was early 20s and the other late 20s, it wasn't until i realized one had a 12 year old brother and the other had a 70 year old mother did i begin to realize that one was in high school and the other late 30s) but she's definitely lingering and talking a little and made her way over to see me and it's confirmed that she's a very attractive woman, easily one of the best looking women i've seen in months

just when i'm considering putting down the rod and fully engaging in conversation she begins to continue walking, she goes out further on the rocks and then makes her way back but by now i've pathed pretty far out of her way and that was that

probably nothing, but feels like i missed an opportunity trying not to be creepy cause we're isolated out on the rocks and a non zero chance she's not mid 20s but rather still in school