I’d assume close to never or she has a legit below 80 IQ or likely a serious family emergency where she has to move closer to her parents.

Well not sure how often in the US, but here in England I was chatting just the other week on Hinge to an absolute stunner who said she moved to the country to become freelance after just not enjoying the fast pace of life in London. It was annoying because I didn't even realise until halfway through that she lived prohibitively far away, for some reason Hinge pulls up those from time to time.

After we realised how far away she was she told me I was 'by far one of the better ones', and I wondered afterwards whether she meant in absolute terms or in relation to the competition in her particular area.

Anyway I didn't think it was a common occurrence, just used it as an example to gauge people's views on how women think about these things, although as noted there are remarkably few women on here to weigh in

Could be a professor who has to take a job out there to be tenure track

The reality here is a bit different than the media portrays, dating and otherwise. I wouldn’t be staying here if I felt like it was too dangerous. That being said I’m a bit more careful and hesitant to meet certain girls if something seems fishy.

foatie, I don't think that's too different from the way a 10 guy would behave on the dating apps. Sure he might be swiping right on more girls b/c he thinks they might be easy lays, but he's almost never considering a 6 or 7 as serious relationship material. I'd be surprised if a guy like that ever ends up with a girlfriend who isn't very attractive, whereas at least very attractive women are more willing to give less attractive guys a chance who are an outlier in some way.

Sandra, I think everything is dictated by relative attractiveness. I've lived in areas where the majority of my best matches were 4s/5s and some areas where I matched with lots of 8s. Let's say I've been living in both places for 6 months so I'm pretty accustomed to the dating situation by now. One day I match with a 6. In Place A I'm likely to think "dang, she's cute!". In Place B, she's not even gonna register. Her absolute attractiveness is the same in both places.

With the really cute girl who has just moved to a massive city. I think a non-Brad Pitt guy is far more likely to get a match with her when she's fresh in the city. After she's been swiping 2-3 months, she'll have realized how deep the dating pool is and that it's far easier to get matches with top level attractive guys there. The "you're one of the good ones" comment is likely to mean that you seem cool and well-adjusted, which is probably a far cry from a lot of the goobers she deals with who are just fawning over her looks constantly.

At most, this may be happening 25-50 times a year in the U.S. and is the most extreme outlier of outliers.

That's my point. And having to move to take care of family is most likely to happen when they are elderly, and the woman is older herself.

Seems legit. "I'm super hot, but tired of dating hot successful city guys..."

The ratio is better for men in cities, which levels it out a little. It's probably harder to get a 9 because the top tier of guys is better, but easier to get a 6-7.

I was a 6 in D.C. but I feel like a strong 8-9 in Baltimore. I've been getting matches on Tinder at a near 4:1 clip since I moved. I locked down a lunch date for tomorrow and a date for Friday night within a span of 30 minutes today. I think it may have to do with the typical Baltimore locals being more "Riff Raff" so the business professional types are looked at in higher regard. Where in D.C., almost everyone has a great job, and the politically driven types, and lawyers/lobbyists are treated with priority by the dating singles.

Thanks for the advice. You're pretty much spot on in your analysis of my personality and leisure activities.

Yeah true, I can think of several occasions when I’ve got chatting to really hot girls who say they are new to a certain site or app, and I’m working towards asking them out only for them to go dark when messages start flooding in from hotter guys.

Dating isn’t everything for some people.

Too much gto calling ranges / expectation entitlement. Not enough bluffing ranges in most peoples dating game itt.

Word.

Open her up with A 10 or better in early positions

-Vince Lombardi

This can be risky too, a lot of the time you end up JKo.

holy *****. poty candidate. lol.

Five years ago, I was doing online dating around Bethlehem/Allentown PA (an aging/industrial/small city area), and was amazed at how many girls on the apps said they had recently moved back there to take care of their parents.

That's millennial speak for "I'm Unemployed". Which makes sense as Allentown isn't exactly a bustling area. One of the hottest and coolest girl's that I've ever met in my life was from Allentown and she still lives there. Still a smokeshow too.

My FWB finally paid for something! She came over last night for my birthday. We went to the rooftop bar on the highest building in LA first and she paid the $39+ tip for our drinks! When the $147 dinner bill came later, I let it sit there for a while to see if she'd go for it, but no. Didn't give me a birthday card or present either, but I feel that's a good sign. And she helped me have a lot better birthday than my 40th, when my ex went to dinner with me and then wouldn't even take my hand at the table. Suffice to say, no birthday sex that night.

How did you not break up with her immediately?

Why would he do this? Gaddy has set up a dynamic where he's mostly going to be paying for stuff. And it sounds like no birthday present is actually a good thing, makes it seem like the girl is on the same wavelength of keeping things casual as he is.

I think he means the ex who didn't give me birthday sex on my 40th. That would have been for the best. It only got worse from there.

Argh, I told myself I wasn't gonna seriously date anyone older than me, but then I matched with a super cute 38 year old, who's exactly my type, into yoga and meditation, and fun to message. Curious if the thread thinks she's a bit better looking than the recent matches or if I just lose all objectivity when a girl is my type:

I was referring to the girl who wouldn’t touch his hand/sex him on his birthday. Not this obviously better one.

She's a honey! Get on that date!

Meanwhile I also had a date with an older woman last night, 37 but looked younger and was cute as a button, better than her pics. Older women can have something so sexy about them that many gormless 20 something girls just don't have. This one had a cheeky glint in her eye and we ended up all over each other for most of the evening. I wanted to **** this one so bad but she's gonna make me wait