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Say you had your profile open in the background while a friend was using the computer, and that he sent the message. Maybe say you are glad it wasn't worse and you'll have to be careful not to stay logged on in future. And that he must have been reading your mind, because you were about to...then segwey into the witty way you were going to ask her out.

This is good. Maybe add something like: 'I know what you're thinking... I've had words with him about his terrible grammar!' Would help to keep it light and make it obvious it wasn't you.

Edit: I wouldnt include bolded bit.

Last edited by coinflip_si; 04-25-2013 at 08:26 AM.

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04-25-2013 , 08:43 AM

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dalerobk2

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ytf kind of scared me, tbh. And really, that last reply was pretty psycho. You may have been able to salvage it until you went full on psycho on her.

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04-25-2013 , 08:54 AM

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coinflip_si

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ytf.

I hate to say it, but you blew it. Just because shes sexting and being sexual in her messages, does not mean shes dtf on the first date...she never said that in her messages and you've read between the lines a lot here imo. I also cringed at the recovery message, I dont know what your play is from here.

Even if she is dtf on first date, dont start making it clear thats your intentions over a message, wait for the date then go from there.

Also, as a general point, although your writing style is good and humorous and I can see its appeal, you write an awful lot! You've like doubled her word count which isnt good. I really do hope you recover the situation.

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04-25-2013 , 08:57 AM

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KPowers

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YTF the best advice I can give is do what I do. I ask myself what someone who is good at talking to girls and having regular sex would do, think about it for a half second, and then I do that. It works really well.

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04-25-2013 , 09:01 AM

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dalerobk2

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There is no recovery from here.

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04-25-2013 , 09:39 AM

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Ytf,

W
Wt
Wtf
Wtf!
Wtf!!
Wtf!!!

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04-25-2013 , 09:50 AM

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04-25-2013 , 09:52 AM

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garcia1001

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Imagine how much worse he would have been if he DIDN'T read that whatever book website thing, though!

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04-25-2013 , 10:00 AM

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AnonymousTextField

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YTF,

"Sweetheart, you just can't treat a guy like that." has potential date rapist written all over it.

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04-25-2013 , 10:04 AM

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Pay4Myschool

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I'm certain she's glad she cut.that off

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04-25-2013 , 10:23 AM

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Zophar

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For sure when a chick goes a little nuts unexpectedly you definitely don't try to one up her. Damn.

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04-25-2013 , 10:27 AM

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savatage

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Ytf just because you were sexting doesnt mean you can always talk about se . Notice how she sent you a brief reply after your sex talk which had nothing sexual, but you kept bringing up sex and your boners and beating off. You had a sex talk at a particular time, doesnt mean that mood will always be present.

And whats with the need to verbalize everything before. You hinted at the room, let it go. You dont have to tell her after i got the room so i can insert my penis into you inside it.

And then in your last reprimanding reply you mention "rubbing one out" multiple times.

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04-25-2013 , 10:32 AM

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Originally Posted by garcia1001

Imagine how much worse he would have been if he DIDN'T read that whatever book website thing, though!

coke zero all over the monitor.

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04-25-2013 , 10:35 AM

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Originally Posted by savatage

This. Ytf not to be rude, but im going to be blunt so you get better. you sounded like a 13 year old popping his first b or a 40something rapist.

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04-25-2013 , 11:03 AM

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LaShawnda

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I must be doing this whole online dating thing wrong.

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04-25-2013 , 11:06 AM

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lazer

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Also, others may disagree but I think you should tone down the "angel" "sweetheart" "baby" etc. It's a little too much...as well as everything others have said re: TOO MUCH!!!!!

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04-25-2013 , 11:11 AM

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Originally Posted by lazer

Also, others may disagree but I think you should tone down the "angel" "sweetheart" "baby" etc. It's a little too much...as well as everything others have said re: TOO MUCH!!!!!

+1

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04-25-2013 , 11:16 AM

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girls like a little mystery...even when something is understood as inevitable. If the situation has implied sex in a hotel room, or whatever...you don't need to describe the colour of the curtains and the size of the bed. I also strongly recommend against telling her you're going to stick your tongue in her mouth and hands all over her the second you meet her. Even IF you've been sexting. The bottom line is you've never MET. There are some little checks and boundaries you have to cross that can only be done in person, even if she's telling you how wet you make her daily.

Unless she's a hooker.

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04-25-2013 , 11:40 AM

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lol YTF

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04-25-2013 , 12:29 PM

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lazer

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Just re-read it again...you gotta cut out the 'kid'. That's just awkward, especially in the midst of sex talk

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04-25-2013 , 12:45 PM

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El Diablo

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Ytf,

Holy cow.

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04-25-2013 , 12:53 PM

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AnonymousTextField

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So the girl that wanted to meet 'tomorrow or Wednesday' texted me on Monday night. I responded the next day saying I couldn't make it into the city on short notice and offered to meet up any day during the weekend. She hasn't responded. She and I have no rapport beyond a couple of messages on the site so I'm uncertain what the appropriate move is here. My guess is to wait and if she doesn't respond by the end of the weekend, toss a hail mary and offer to meet up some during the week. Some additional info: in her profile she says she's spontaneous and likes guys that make the first move.

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04-25-2013 , 01:35 PM

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Jackitos

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Didn't read all of ytf's wall of text, but you talk way too much. Like way way way too much. No reason to do all of that. Save some conversation for the date.

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04-25-2013 , 02:03 PM

#4924

Paul Openfold

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Read most of the woman's responses but I cbf to read all of his crap.

Seems like things were going well until the end tho

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04-25-2013 , 02:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Jackitos

Didn't read all of ytf's wall of text, but you talk way too much. Like way way way too much. No reason to do all of that. Save some conversation for the date.

o ya another good piece of advice i give myself all the time

if you dont know exactly what to say, say exactly nothing.

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