Open Side Menu Go to the Top
Register
Online dating thread Online dating thread

09-14-2018 , 06:21 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by TheMVP
One month is nothing as well. It's like poker, you're gonna have dry spells and then all of a sudden go on a heater and have three quality dates in a week.
Yeah, I couldn't get a bite when I first went back to online dating.

However, the more effort you put into your profile, the better chance you have of attracting interest.

Shuffle - Try to get some decent up-to-date photos, and feel free to post your written bio here for constructive feedback.
Online dating thread Quote
09-14-2018 , 06:56 AM
I guess no one else has noticed that Shuffle has been very upfront with us in this thread that his standards are impossibly high.
Online dating thread Quote
09-14-2018 , 09:55 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by SpinMeRightRound
Feminazis get angry for men discriminating against fat girls when they are perfectly ok with discriminating against short guys. This is one of the many reasons I will never be able to take feminism seriously.
FYP

Feminism is fine. Its the 1% of feminists that are the reason MGTOW and InCel babies exist.
Online dating thread Quote
09-14-2018 , 09:59 AM
Whiny men itt!

Everyone is allowed to like/be attracted to whomever they please, and even allowed to make "poor" choices about who they go out with.
Online dating thread Quote
09-14-2018 , 10:21 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by SpinMeRightRound
Good point regarding short guys not able to change their height. Weight can be changed in all cases, barring some extremely rare exceptions of genuine genetic disorders. Feminists get angry for men discriminating against fat girls, when they are perfectly ok with discriminating against short guys. This is one of the many reasons I will never be able to take feminism seriously.
Congrats. This is one of the dumbest things I've ever read on 2p2. And yet nuc was able to top it within a few hours.
Online dating thread Quote
09-14-2018 , 10:46 AM
Calling out MGTOW and InCel as babies crying about a tiny percentage of women is dumb huh?

lulz
Online dating thread Quote
09-14-2018 , 10:53 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by nuclear500
FYP

Feminism is fine. Its the 1% of feminists that are the reason MGTOW and InCel babies exist.
I'm sure the MGTOWs and InCels have enough self respect to not be blaming someone else for their own choices.

Otherwise they'd be pathetic victims who can't stop whining every chance they get about how 'oppressed' they are.
Online dating thread Quote
09-14-2018 , 11:35 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Shuffle
In general I do have high standards, but I've also noticed a significant decline in the online dating pool compared to the last time I was looking around. I think I've messaged like 2-3 women on OKCupid and received one reply. Messaged a half dozen on POF and probably most of them haven't logged in during the last week, but looks like I did just receive another reply there.
You haven’t done nearly enough messaging especially during the late summer/early fall period, I’m not sure what your normal hit rate is but most guys is probably 10-20% so your batting high but dating requires numbers. Also, I’ve never been on POF but can you tell if they’ve been active or the last time? I wouldn’t waste messages on women who haven’t been on recently.
Online dating thread Quote
09-14-2018 , 11:48 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by SpinMeRightRound
A bit like guys who are 5'8-5'11 just rounding up to 6 foot. There are plenty of women (and some of them have even admitted to me) who will completely disregard you if you're not at least 6 foot tall on these dating sites. People lie or exaggerate not because they want to, but because they have to.
This must be extremely common even among 5'8" guys b/c I'm a tad over 5'11" but list myself as 6' and a few women have been surprised at my height when we met in person. I guess I should have listed myself at 6'2"!
Online dating thread Quote
09-14-2018 , 12:35 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Jellyfishcake
I’m sort of curious to know how it is when they’re on top.
Best girl on top sex I've had was with a chubby girl. She was an anomaly though as it's generally been better with skinnier girls.
Online dating thread Quote
09-14-2018 , 02:03 PM
Ha, I say 5'11". Wonder how uncommon of a height listing that is.
Online dating thread Quote
09-14-2018 , 02:10 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by pwnsall
Ha, I say 5'11". Wonder how uncommon of a height listing that is.
I do the same. Maybe I should add a quip about "too honest to round up".
Online dating thread Quote
09-14-2018 , 03:02 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by karamazonk
75% of female bumble profiles in my area mention at least two of the following: tacos, brunch, "dad jokes" (when did that become a thing?), "faith.family.friends. in that order", The Office, "doggo" mom, hiking, Netflix, have my sh*t together, etc. There is also an insane amount of nurses out there.

Recently I've seen (well, on 2 profiles, so I guess it's a trend) - "dad jokes, not dad bods". I legit laughed-out-loud the first time I saw it.
Online dating thread Quote
09-14-2018 , 03:39 PM
Where do you live? That might be your biggest problem. I found similar issues when I lived in Memphis. As someone else might have said, you might be too selective for your own good. I'm not sure what your population is within OKC and POF but if you only have 5 people attractive in a 250 mile radius--either there aren't many accounts or you're looking for super models. It's also why you aren't getting many responses. If you're setting your sites at the 1%, they normally get too many hits or likely off the market already.
Online dating thread Quote
09-14-2018 , 03:51 PM
OKC and POF are dying. The swipe apps are taking over. POF is like the dumpster. There is so much trash on there. OKC changed their format. Someone told me that now the other person has to like you back before they see the message (Which is dumb). So there is no point in crafting a message that will likely never be read.
Online dating thread Quote
09-14-2018 , 04:12 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Elrazor
How many guys have ever been won over by someone lying about their weight? On the other hand, how many women have been okay with a guy being 4" shorter than they said?

I do feel the guys have the worst of this argument. I appreciate there are some genetic influences in being overweight, but for the most part it's a lifestyle choice.

Short guys have no such redress.
No. Being a tiny man is entirely a lifestyle choice:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.esq...or-men-043013/

And:

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B07BX96T7D/
Online dating thread Quote
09-14-2018 , 04:17 PM
Recently I'd say I've had the most success on hinge and okc. Wouldn't mind hinge becoming more popular.
Online dating thread Quote
09-14-2018 , 05:39 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by pwnsall
Recently I'd say I've had the most success on hinge and okc. Wouldn't mind hinge becoming more popular.
New dating app idea. Unhinged. Psycho seeking psycho.
Online dating thread Quote
09-14-2018 , 05:55 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by JoeC2012
Good post. I agree with almost all of this.

I'll expound that "reasonably attractive" is doing a lot of heavy lifting here; a better way to phrase it is that most women are looking for a deeper connection than simple physical attraction (like you said, evolutionary psych), and it's difficult for them to find a man who meets their bar for emotional satisfaction as well-- the fact that the guy is physically "reasonably attractive" is less relevant. This is why online dating is a struggle for women as much as it is for men.
*thumbs*
Online dating thread Quote
09-14-2018 , 07:55 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Shuffle
Indiana, within driving distance of: Chicago, Indianapolis, Lansing, Detroit, etc. I don't think the idea is to lower my standards until I get a date, constantly look around trying to upgrade, and then generally feel like a low-life POS.
I've never dated outside large cities, but I really doubt it's relevant that you're within close driving distance to these cities. In Chicago, for example, I bet a huge proportion of the dating population would consider it a huge strike against you to even live in Evanston or Oak Park, let alone Indiana.

Eager to hear others' opinions if they disagree.
Online dating thread Quote
09-14-2018 , 07:58 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Shuffle
In general I do have high standards, but I've also noticed a significant decline in the online dating pool compared to the last time I was looking around. I think I've messaged like 2-3 women on OKCupid and received one reply. Messaged a half dozen on POF and probably most of them haven't logged in during the last week, but looks like I did just receive another reply there.
How would you rate your looks?
Quote:
Originally Posted by PhatPots
OKC and POF are dying. The swipe apps are taking over. POF is like the dumpster. There is so much trash on there. OKC changed their format. Someone told me that now the other person has to like you back before they see the message (Which is dumb). So there is no point in crafting a message that will likely never be read.
I like the change on OKC. Women have it so much better in online dating now. Why would you want to craft a message to someone that doesn’t show an interest in you? We all have more time to swipe through profiles instead of sifting through an overload of messages.
Online dating thread Quote
09-14-2018 , 08:15 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Jellyfishcake
I like the change on OKC. Women have it so much better in online dating now. Why would you want to craft a message to someone that doesn’t show an interest in you? We all have more time to swipe through profiles instead of sifting through an overload of messages.
Because some women don't judge men mostly on looks when not forced to do so, and will reply to an intelligent message from a man with average to below average looks whom they probably would have swiped left based on looks alone.

It's fine that Tinder and Bumble are around for those of both sexes who are pretty shallow, or looking for sexual only relationships. It's a shame that OKCupid and other sites who already had great systems have decided to change their operations to become closer to the apps. I can't imagine it was ever that much of a hardship to see crappy messages and delete them, but if that really was too much for some women to handle, they could just use one of the apps instead.

I used to love OKCupid and met so many people I dated there, and even had interesting interactions with women whom I never met. Now that fewer people are using OKC, and the system has changed, I barely find anyone through the site. And I have tried Bumble and Tinder, but I get few matches, and the ones I do get are with women who either have no info about themselves, a very limited bit of information, or a summary that turns me off. It's a lot of effort to try to engage in conversation to learn anything important about the woman, and most of them aren't willing to do that.

A lot of guys here suggest trying to meet right away, which I guess works for them, but I can't tell if I want to meet a woman just based on her pictures and the tiny bit of info given on the apps. Going out to meet someone is a pain, and I'm not willing to do that with someone who there may be a 10% chance of us being a decent match for dating. Online dating was great because you could filter out all the poor matches before going to the trouble of meeting them in person.
App dating sucks.

Last edited by chillrob; 09-14-2018 at 08:23 PM.
Online dating thread Quote
09-14-2018 , 08:25 PM
The other factor to consider is not everyone who is looking to date uses an app, much like not every single person goes to a bar to meet in real life.

It may be that shuffle needs to look elsewhere than dating apps to find the type of woman he wants.

Expecting a dating app to deliver a life partner ala Amazon Prime is not always going to work for everyone.

It might be time to try another avenue.
Online dating thread Quote
09-15-2018 , 12:02 AM
DONT: put pictures of your 4-wheelers and trucks. I couldn't care less about your vehicle or toys and it just seems really weird to.put pictures other than yourself on a dating app.

Why do guys do this?

It also seems weird when they have 700 Instagram photos linked to their profile and show pictures of their children.
Online dating thread Quote
09-15-2018 , 12:32 AM
Women have far weirder stuff than that on their profiles. You'd be shocked at the number of pictures that are not of the women themselves.

The largest number of photos is of their dogs, but quite a few are of various other things; pretty pictures of landscapes, flowers, etc. There are a surprising number of pictures that are just motivational / supposedly uplifting statements. There are a decent number of women on Tinder and Bumble who have no pictures of themselves at all, and a good proportion of those also have nothing written about the woman! I'm not sure how these women think the system is supposed to work. Do they really ONLY want to hear from the men who swipe right on everyone?
Online dating thread Quote

      
m