I feel like you all are giving false hope to this guy. Has anyone itt ever gotten a second date after someone quickly asks for the check and then abruptly leaves? Usually when that happens it's after a date that has gone terribly, but it seems like far and away the most likely scenario is that he was feeling it and she wasn't, but she's one of those people who are good conversationalists and can hold their own even when they aren't all that interested. Maybe I'm wrong, and I'm not saying don't follow up because what does it cost you, but I wouldn't get your hopes up. I feel like the way a date ends correlates far, far more strongly with whether there will be future ones than what happened during it.

I'm pretty sure no one has said she will likely follow up. People are basically saying it's likely she wasn't feeling it but let's also consider some other things as well. Nothing wrong with one follow up text. He has nothing to lose there.


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Hundreds? I disdain loud dance/nightclubs - I'd only go if I had the $$$ for a VIP Table/Bottle Service in a quiet-ish area.

Every few weeks, I go to these events that are basically speed-dating, except you get deep-thought questions to ask each other/10-15 minutes with each person. It's not set up explicitly as speed-dating (most tend to pick opposite gender/preferred gender partners), but I've gotten a few dates from it (that did not work out, but it was an alternative to OKC). Trying to work with the event organizer to establish another event model with the same format, but is established as a dating event.

fwiw, i have based on the reason i said in my other post. but also, we're not giving false hope to burdz, just telling him not to respond with a "did i do something wrong" text.

solid post for an online dating thread

I've never had any success with this type of activity, although I admit I've not had much VIP club experience, at least as you described, I've known owners and VIPs, but not hung out at a private table or in the VIP area for an extended time.

To me, that's for sho, not for ho.

Just mingling with the masses at the bar seems more productive.

Another thing Burdz, do you always go out alone?

Do you have a good wingman?

Not a ton of guy friends, at least ones that want to go out and meet people. The two biggest circles I'm (comedy/public speaking), it's only the women that want to go out (none I can think of that I do hang out with are either single or desirable). I've been thinking about joining a men's sports league just so I have so more guy friends/testosterone around. I haven't had the greatest luck with co-ed teams, always ended up on teams full of couples

Hmmm, maybe hang out with the girls who ask?
You may be in their friendzone, but occasionally they may try to hook you up or at least facilitate meeting more women.

And you can't dismiss the curiosity factor that some women have when a man is with a group of women and their interest just goes up because he's hanging with girls.

Sure they could assume you're gay, but if it isn't obvious that is the case, strangely it draws them in.

I equate it to the situation when you're out and have a girlfriend but get hit on,but when you're single and looking, the same women don't give you a second look.

I agree with Eey. I've been in a relationship nearly a month and I've been receiving attention from women who were apathetic/disinterested when I was single.

Also recommend a male sports team. Great camaraderie and finding single teammates is relatively easy if your team is comprised of guys 35 and under.

P.S, checked out any vegan restaurants in Boston?

Tried online dating for the first time ever, got on Tinder a few days ago. Have a date set up for tomorrow. I'm a lot more excited about this rl girl I've been seeing, and am seeing again tonight, so dunno what will happen. A new experience, if nothing else.

At least my fear that no one would want to match me (which was very real) has been silenced

theres a lot of TR missing from how you went from canada for a girl to now in boston with a girlfriend.

I'm not in Boston. I'm trying to steer Burdz to some restaurants there

Love Veggie Galaxy in Cambridge, but Life Alive is not my scene to say the least. I love meat, so I'm not often looking for vegetarian/vegan joints, and my dates that have been at such places have been mostly busts (no compatibility)

Good luck with your dates! I have never been on an online date either, being in a long term relationship, but I am pretty sure I would be nervous doing it.

Date tonight in the middle of a blizzard (we're both walking distance from each other) Wonder if she'd be up for froyo.

Might put my sick in crazy tonight. If I don't post for a few weeks, set up the movement to free me for the inevitable rape charge

Facebook live, yo.

Jus sayin....

I'm sure it's been said before, but:

If she's a 7 on the looks scale and an 8 on the crazy scale, don't do it.

If she's an "x" on the looks scale and a "y" on the crazy scale, ok to do so if x > y.

Smarter folks than me might say only if x >>> y.

Thanks! I'm nervous about it too, though it probably helps that I'm not particularly into it/excited about it. If I cared more, I would feel more pressure I'm sure.

Either way, the date last night went extremely well and I'm quite excited about it, so not sure if I should even bother tonight with the tinder lady. Will give it an hour or two and then re-evaluate.

It did not happen. Definitely for the best

She attention whores lots of guys at the local meetup events. meetup has a lot of kinda nerdy dudes who don't get a ton of attention from women. Gets handsy/aggressive at times when drunk, though I didn't notice that last night. She also scares a lot away. I saw her putting a pic of a celebrity up to this guy's face, and later I saw him walk off to another circle with a visibly perturbed expression.

She also one ups and butts in with random non sequiters. she kinda exaggerates her job. she "works in higher education" when she's some sort of admin/front desk at the college

She is fairly hot. pretty 5'11" curvy black/carribean girl. boobs look likely to be saggy, but I learned from the blonde rumchata girl that saggy boobs can still be fun to suck on.

After an awkward incident she was pretty much dead to me for over 6 months, and I continued that policy at the beginning of the night. but when we found our way into the same circle she gave me her phone out of the blue and had me put my number in it.

Jeez, from your description, she sounds terribad.

Some chicks just ain't worth the hassles.

lol. if someone told me that i'd laugh.

Super important update: My online dating debut will have to wait. Ended up canceling even though I felt really bad about it.

Oh wow. I thought it was generally the woman who flaked on online dates.

Rexx,

Nah ime it's the guy who does it 100% of the time.

I did feel really bad about it though, and she said she was disappointed because "you seemed like the first nice guy I was going to meet in a long time". Her second message seemed understanding though and ended with "hit me up if it doesn't work out" which can't be a bad thing.

Lol, in your experience it is the guy 100% of the time...because you had one date and canceled it.