These look like excellent suggestions!

Broke things off with the girl I'd been seeing from OKC for about 3 1/2 months. It was a combination of hating how she fought or picked fights (over text exclusively, very accusatory), her not comfortable having sex or going down on me (she refused to ever talk about her sexual history, would only say "not yet" when I talked to her about it), and just not having enough in common/similar perspectives/her never really asking me or wanting to discuss things going on with me. I always had what LT22 said in the back of my mind about liking someone just because they liked me, which feels pretty sad, but when to be results-oriented, when you lack as much experience in relationships or even getting past the first few dates like I do, that affects things.

Having said that, we still had a lot of good times together and I'm happy I got to experience it all. I've got a ways to go before becoming the man I want to be, but I'm now a lot more aware in the moment of what I need to work on, and all this gave me a lot of clarity going forward.

Well, then it couldn't have been all bad, Burdz.

Some relationships end up like that, finding out what you don't want or need.

Honestly burdz, that takes balls, should be pretty proud of yourself

Is this even a big deal? Maybe it's just me, but i couldnt be less interested in a girl's sexual history.

I normally wouldn't be either, but when it's 2 months in with no sex or oral, I want to know what the deal is.

Seems like a mature, good decision as well as great mindset going forward.

People shouldn't talk about problems in their relationships.

if you've been seeing her for 2 months with nothing sexual, she's your friend and nothing more...if she doesn't voluntarily explain what's going on then you're justified just ending things.

She was more than cool with me fingering her, getting naked & dry humping me, but that was the extent of the sexual happenings.

Hmmm, maybe the huge size of your penis was intimidating?

I run into that all the time...

All the girls say I'm a huge dick...

Even the ones I haven't slept with.

O wait.....

It took almost three months with my current g/f. You can't put arbitrary time limits on these things as everyone is different, but if she's nice enough, you'll wait.

3 months? WTF? How old are you? Are you in the Bible belt? Is this girl very religious?

I consider a month to be a longtime, but it can be reasonable if you see each other once a week. If its 3 months, I would assume 15 dates at least. That's a long time.

Better the girl takes longer than too short... lol

Yeah it was a long time, but in 2 years and maybe 50 dates of online dating she was the nicest girl i'd met.

She'd never had sex before, which probably explains the wft.

How old are you guys?

So I'm at home with my parents until mid january(in between Montana and Japan for work). How do I work what I consider a huge leak in my tinder game currently into it all?

Find a gym, hit the weights, come back ready to be pounced on

Unreal clicked this thread looking for bc and thought Dante would have the most posts

**** I am old and had first at 13 yrs old knew sfa and probably still do.

But I take my hat off to anyone prepared to wait 2 to 3 months

I am trying to remember and even a couple of Models One I lived with for 2 years were first Night, Different Strokes for different blokes I reckon. I tried a dating site twice looking for Sex only and so many just wanted to talk I only lasted prob 2 hours and about 6 ladies. I just find it easier , Cheaper and more honest to just pay less wasted time. Good luck all.

English?

nope

Yeah well English / Australian is my first and only Language so bugger I don't have any excuses. Old and Bitter but Life is good Just never been able to Forgive and Move on, not talking about women just Life for me.

Very happily with Partner for 30 + years 3 kids. Never Married as I see it as Waste of time and money. Maybe I will have to get some writing tips as my young daughter is quite good will get her to write for me.

I will leave you Educated peeps to your world of Fantasy good luck and enjoy every moment.

Yeah, this is false and a terrible attitude to have

Set a personal record of failure. Asked 5 different girls out for a 5 day stretch from Sunday - Thursday this week and none of them said yes. 3 Tinder, one Bumble, and one from real life.

At least I got a lot of interest in real life at the pub crawl I went to this past weekend.

How did you ask them out? They wouldn't give you their #? They gave you their # then ghosted you when you asked them out, or flaked last-minute? Or they just wasted your time with a lengthy conversation then said they weren't interested? I can only think of one time out of hundreds where we had a dialogue going that was more than just one-word answers before they revealed they just wanted a texting buddy.