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Originally Posted by TommyTrash
Your stories are not adding up, though. Because if makin maneys was truthful he was sleeping with these girls the first night and they were getting incredibly clingy. Thus their clinginess showed they were super into him and wanted to be with him.
The people in this thread are taking a more calm approach to get a serious girlfriend and are not succeeding.
Thus the carefree, don't give a s- attitude where you get laid early and often is the one that bags these girls. In my experience guys that bang a girl very soon are the ones that the girl gets interested in. This whole I want to find a nice girl thing is overrated. While you are taking her out on dates she's unavailable next one because she's hoping the makin maneys of the world are texting her to come over to have sex.
This is a good post and I think you can make mistakes in being too "pushy" and "needy" by rushing sex, but a lot of the waiting type stuff can be counterproductive, even if you are looking for something serious. It all comes down to whether you are pushing towards sex as a means of desperation or with a lot of confidence. If you are confident and you aren't desperate, it will be very attractive, and if you are super pushy and desperate, it of course will be counter-productive. For guys who are a bit desperate, holding off somewhat might help them compared to pussyhounds like the guy you mention, only that they won't care as much if they aren't pushing for sex. But even then, it's a tight balance, because it removes a lot of the sexual attraction on the dates and that is a huge factor in getting your foot in the door.
Having a lot of different girls to choose from is the biggest factor IMO of having that aura of confidence and lack of desperation vs. "OMG, I CANT FIND ANY GIRLS THAT ARE RIGHT, THIS ONE *MUST* BE THE ONE, I BETTER NOT SCREW IT UP!!!!*