I'm curious because this is different than what I would do.

You invited the girl over for dinner? movie? or just hang out?

She didn't put out but you did other stuff? Or did she bang you but claim she didn't bang any of the other 9 guys?

Did you just decide you were only willing to put in x effort because she wasn't that attractive, or would you follow this pattern with more attractive girls?

Hey!! How are you?

1st date drinks, 2nd date was a quick afternoon of hiking, 3rd date was a movie at my place w/ no action (think this was her idea?). 4th date she initiated and said she just wanted to do something simple at my place so I made pizza, we watched TV, started making out, she is into it...happily ripping off tops. We head upstairs and I go for the jeans "just so you know we're not having sex." I finger her, the jeans come off at some point, and she never gets within a foot of touching my crotch which really annoyed me and I was done with her. She is also in terrible shape which was pretty well hidden by clothes so it was even worse.

She seemed inexperienced, which is what I just got done with in my previous relationship and that sucked. When she texted me talking about her dating experiences I asked her about sex and how I don't want an inexperienced girl. "I'm about as inexperienced as they come."

This combined with her lack of fitness = Byeeeeeeeeeeee

I normally go for 2-3 dates out in public and slip something in there that might be different like mini golf, bowling, hiking. Something other than just drinks or food. Then will invite them over for dinner/Mario Kart/TV show we referenced earlier/whatever.

Match has been like shooting fish in a barrel so far. I should probably stop messaging so many people because I'm batting 1.000 and getting too many numbers.

Had a date tonight at 5:30 with what I think is the hottest girl in my area. I get there first order a beer and water. She arrives a little late and does this awkward thing where she acts like she's not sure if it's me. Yeah it's me...I'm the guy sitting solo at a table in a bar that doesn't have a ton of people in it. She orders a DIET PEPSI.

She is confirmed good looking and hottest online date I've ever had (sorry pics aren't happening). Conversation starts meh as she is not really asking any questions after she responds to mine. Holy hell. I think she is shy and she's hot so she's probably not used to ping/pong of a real conversation. I force myself not to break the silence a few times until she starts asking questions. I actually think she starts opening up a bit and is enjoying herself a little bit more. Date ends after about 1.5 hrs as she says she has to go stop by her brother's house and walk dog before her fav TV show is on. Ok. She gives a pretty long speech about how it was nice to meet me, thanks for driving to her area to meet up, we hug. End scene.

I actually sighed when you said she ordered a diet pepsi. This did not sound like it went well.

It wasn't awful, but it was not good. I don't know if she sucked or if she felt she was too attractive for me. I'm gonna go with she sucked for my ego

I would go with she sucked. Girls can generally get past looks. Not saying that you are ugly. I have no idea. I'm just thinking that she sucked.

Now that I think about it I did try to throw a few cheeky things in my messages on match/text and she would just totally ignore them. Her profile is pretty boring too. I've had pretty bad luck overall with boring profiles.

Exchanged like 5 messages with this girl from Tinder yesterday. With that app I'll sometimes say something along the lines of "you're a fine looking bird, we should 'ya know', this is my number, your move". It has a respectable batting average of success considering the approach, usually girls insta texting you.

This girl however hit me up mid afternoon the next day. Basically asked me if I blazed or smoked weed for older people. I confirmed I do and she invited me over to her place. What happened? We smoked while we got to know each other a bit (hairdresser), made out, which led to the bedroom for some solid sex, finding my boxers turned into a search party, went back smoked some more, laughed and watched the 1st half of the football game. She wanted to learn so I explained basic things to her. She got excited when I told her who Cutler is married to. Smoked some more, made out, left at half with plans to hang out again.

that's gonna be good

do you need an internet / wi-fi plan with your mobile company in order to use Tinder? or does it just function like an SMS?

Sounds very lol on her part. I don't get girls who put themselves in the online dating market and then turn up at dates and act like the above, makes no sense. If you're not into it, at least try to have some enjoyable conversation rather than exacerbating the awkwardness.

Got a few plates spinning on POF currently, including the first normal girl to open on me. One that I'm fairly excited about, one who's def the hottest but possibly a bit dull, and one who's fairly ordinary. Should be lining up a date for later in the week with the first mentioned one. Vamoooo.

I think I'm on a heater boys. Meeting up with girl from OKC I've been chit chatting for a handful of days. We're going to get some lunch and then play things by ear. We both understand what we're implying there too. She's an Atlanta Falcons fan just like me so that's an added bonus, especially when I get the sense she actually knows the team and understands the game a little.

So still on the same date. (She just went to work). We discussed having a child together and she says she is ovulating later this week.

I'm fine. What is your agenda for being here?

lolWATtf

Success, I have arranged a date for Friday with my preferred POF girl. Really excited, the smalltalk chat has been going well and she seems very cool and interesting, and after adding each other on FB she is confirmed solid 7.5+.

Would be good to get some advice on my play now: we were chatting on FB chat and I ended by asking if she's free Thurs or Fri to meet up for a drink. Friday is good for her, so I ask for her number which she provides and I say I'll shoot her a text later in the week to arrange time/place etc.

Plays, as I see it:

a) text her later tonight to give her my number and say "I'm looking forward to Friday!" or similar then follow up on Thurs to arrange

b) Text on Thursday to confirm time/place with no other contact between now and then

c) engineer some reason to send her a throw-away comment and hello on like Wednesday, then follow up with text to arrange time/place on Thursday. Could be coming a bit strong though?

EDIT - option d) text her on Wednesday to give her my number combined with throwaway comment about some bs that was my apparent reason for texting.

Not sure what the best play is now particularly in light of recent discussions about the gap between verbally agreeing a date and actually agreeing details. I'm thinking D. Quite keen not to F this up too. Appreciate any thoughts!

Whatever you do keep it light. I would research what is happening on Friday night and if it is a show or concert, buy the tickets and then text her- "Hey, I just got 2 tickets to Foo Fighters!!!"

Your trolling efforts are losing their steam bud, take it elsewhere.

Joist don't overthink it, hit her up Wednesday and have a plan in mind for Friday beforehand. You can start with small talk but certainly let her know you have an idea for what you'd like to do Friday and lock it in. She could and probably is connecting with other guys so you don't want her to flake because of another opportunity, especially if you're into her from your discussions. You've already chatted online so texting shouldn't be that awkward or anything at this point.

Headed off to my late lunch. She asked I pick her up. Lol, I've already got a run on the board since she knows I have to take her back to her place.

I accidentally broke my girlfriend's wrist. Whoops

During sex while she was desperately trying to get away I assume?

Cheers DGBG. Yeah think that's the most solid option. Def don't see texting being awkward or whatever, and could be woefully mistaken but feel like she's into me too - her replies are always good/detailed and question me back, plus her reply when I opened on her on POF included: "You seem like a rare and decent guy amongst this pool of oddballs!" so seems like she may not have been doing too well with other guys.

Looking forward to hopefully TR'ing my first online dating date.

And I got flaked on for tonight. On a good run here guys. Had set up plans for Tuesday with a diff girl but trying now to change that to drinks/football tonight.

Very similar. I hooked her up with a Little 5 team and let her borrow my mom's bike. We were riding with that team and I was riding in front of her talking with one of the girls on the team and apparently she wasn't paying attention and hit my back tire. Wrist broken, getting a screw in there