fyp

im not sure fyp means what you think it means

Ah in a bar setting I gotcha nvm

diablo,

think what you typed. a girl is too busy with her career to date so she goes to online dating to get a boyfriend. if you've been in a relationship a relationship takes time. so she's too busy to date but she's busy enough to make an online dating profile and then go on countless dates? she's too busy to go to bars but she's okay getting taken to fancy restaurants?

seems like it's contradictory and an ego stroke for girls.

I am talking about a high quality, hot woman that goes out. If she is highly quality she is going to bars where high quality men go. Therefore if there are high quality men I would assume at least 1 out of 5, probably 2/3 out of 5 are dateable. If she gets approached 3 times a night she can easily find a male partner to get in a monogamous relationship with within 2-3 months at bare minimum.

Tommy,

The girl in your scenario doesn't go on countless dates. She could if she wanted to, though.

Tommy,

You seem pretty clueless about how social dynamics actually take place in real life.

What was incorrect about my estimated numbers?

High quality guy meets high quality girl 5 times...I'd say a relationship happens at least 1 out of five.

Therefore if a girl goes out countless times she should have no problem finding a boyfriend quickly and wouldn't be online.

Im confused. Doesn't online dating take lots of time. People I know say they are burned out by it.

You say she doesn't go on countless dates. So she just gets in a relationship with a guy that she goes out with first?

Isn't it a process of at least a few people that she goes out with? seems time consuming for somebody "too busy" for normal dating.

In fact its way more time consuming than going out only once a week because you are too busy.

Tommy,

You seem really dumb. Sorry.

some hot women think its a better avenue finding a guy online where they can weed out or highlight certain characteristics and narrow the search easier than dating loads of guys they meet in bars. I mean this is obviously true because there are hot women on dating sites. Its just another way to meet people. Maybe they dont like bars or drinking. Maybe they dont find that venue suitable for finding decent partners.

Theres seems to a growing amount of bitterness in this thread. Women are not the enemy ffs. You are your own enemy if you think that. If no woman wants to date you its not their fault its yours.

Is that how you get into discussions??? You just call people names and not debate statements or facts?

You believe that there are high quality women aged 30-32 online? Nobody is too busy to date. I know hot girls that work tons of hours and still go out 2-3 times a week.

Facts are facts...if the girl is online and 30 she is undateable.

Hey guys, just to update everyone on my current situation. I went on a date last night with a cute girl but I didn't meet her online. I am still waiting for good pics to do online again, pics are just too important, damn.

TommyTrash,

As you know, I am very important and my time is valuable. Therefore, I have decided not to respond to your post properly.

Best regards,
garcia1000

do they have BFs?


and i just have to assume youve never been to a bar if you think it is riddled with nothiing but high quality men

So women don't like meeting guys in bars but in the world of manti te'o and fake profiles they'll meet a random stranger that they have seen 1-10 pictures of from god knows when?

What?

In bars women get to see, speak, touch and see the guys social circle. Why would you discount that versus a free pay site littered with spam, stalkers, and fake profiles?

If a girl is high quality and hot she'll go to a nice or upscale bar. Do you think loser guys go in there?

In a big city like Los Angeles, Toronto, Chicago, New York, Miami, Boston, or Philadelphia they have nice bars with expensive drinks.

You think homeless guys go in there? The clientele matches the quality of the girl. She should have ZERO trouble finding a date if she is smart enough to go to places where high quality guys go.

So, are you telling me that online dating is filled with high quality/hot/fun girls and that they are so high quality that they have to resort to online dating?

The girls I know that do online dating are weird, fat, ugly, socially awkward or some combination of all four.

Sorry, I can't say I endorse a needle in the haystack type of dating where you can go to the bar of a major city and actually see and talk to girls or guys (whichever gender you are).

Good, then STFU and leave the thread.

I don't know why I'm responding to TommyTroll, but here goes. People can use bars and online sites. It's not one or the other yo.

Also, just like the bitterness displayed in this thread, a lot of women are sick of sloppy drunk guys using trashy pick up lines at bars. Before online dating took off, it used to be and still is common to target high quality women at places other than bars such as grocery stores, church (lol), rec leagues, etc.

Im not saying only bars/clubs. Women can meet guys at those places, too. And likely have over their 30+ years on this planet. It's pathetic that they have to choose online dating since the writing is on the wall. I love how "drunk guys using trashy pick up lines" is what bars are associated with. But spam messaging, stalking, and creepy introverted nerds like those in this thread that do online dating is preferred.

+1

Not all women are comfortable going to bars, or live in big cities. High quality men are hard to find in my area. I have yet to date a guy in my town who has graduated from a university.

Let me re-phrase my position. My position is ONLY for major cities. I'm alright with online dating if you are not in a major city.

I don't understand why women wouldn't be comfortable in a bar.

I also don't understand why yeota is seeming to imply that bars are filled with more quality girls than guys.

How much online dating have you done? I live in a major city, and I have been out with many high-quality ~30-yo women through OKC and Match, mostly doctors & lawyers. If you aren't speaking from experience then GTFO.

I've never done online dating for casual hookups but am planning to soon in order to look for something more serious. This is because, for something long term, I'm looking for life choices difficult to identify in someone you meet at a bar or work or any of the real-world options -- not wanting to have kids and not being religious. It's not going to be a large pool of women who meet this criteria, but I figure the search function online will be the easiest way to identify them. I'm sure there are other people who want some characteristics or life directions that are easier to search out online than to find meeting people around town.