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Originally Posted by Fossilkid93
Earlier someone was complaining that a fairly attractive (7/10) new female profile on these sites would receive 50 new messages the first day, but that's probably just for brand new profiles and not a common thing. I did a search for Redondo Beach area in LA and it was pretty surprising some of the profiles on OKC that said "No one's contacted her this week". None of them were knockouts, but there were a couple 5s and a 6 and they were all online in the last week, so definitely not dead profiles.
So I don't think it's true that any decent looking girl is being inundated with messages on this site, and as someone mentioned, on POF if a girl filters out guys who have messaged another user looking for sex, then the # of messages received falls drastically. Obviously a lot of guys are just spamming any attractive girl with terrible messages like "sup baby" or "ur hot".
I would say a guy with a solid profile and putting in a decent effort at witty, interesting messages should be attracting girls 1-2 points higher than he is. (i.e. the guy is a 6 based purely on looks and should be attracting a lot of 7s and the occasional 8)
Like a 6 might be able to pull the occasional 8 in real life, where personality really shows, but not online. Hot girls get soooo many messages, they're just not going to generally put enough stock in how witty a profile/message is to overshadow the looks. I mean I'm a guy, but I don't bother to read most of the emails I get once I checkout their pictures (yes I'm an ass).
My ex went on match and just got flooded with messages/winks/etc, and she joined at the same time as her roommate, who is an awesome girl, but pretty plain looking. Not fat, not ugly, just nothing special. Her roommate got almost no messages in the same time (I'm talking hundreds vs like 2-3). My ex is cute but not a stunner, but pretty attractive for the sites.
8s online are like 9's+ in real life, they just get treated differently.