I haven't posted in OOT in over 5 years. Is it still a place to ask for advice just so I can ignore it? If so, I have an overly complicated story that no one can truly understand because I can't fully capture the people and the relationships in this format.


Imagine rectangle ABCD made of 4 gay males. A (me) and B are engaged. C and D are married. All are good friends. A and B are in a rather open relationship. B has too much of a sex drive so has been allowed to play around with some friends. A is theoretically allowed to too but is too tired and doesn't like talking to people. C and D are not in an open relationship; D is too jealous.

B and C messed around a few years ago. A knows and doesn't care. D doesn't know and would likely be very upset if he found out.

ABCD went out drinking one night. On the way home, B and C were in the front seat (B mostly sober and C completely sober and driving). A and D were in the back seat nearly passing out and ended up mostly laying on each other (totally normal). Under the cover of a jacket, D started fondling A. A tried to stop D but not very much nor very effectively, so A gave up and just enjoyed it. The next day, D apologized to A, and A said it was fine.

But it wasn't just fine. A wants to tell D it was nice, hoping it may happen again one day. But then things may get weird and D won't want to talk to or hang out with A anymore. How to send the signal that more fondling is ok, but if you don't want to it's all ok too?

Also, A wants to tell B because it's a fun story and otherwise it feels like he's hiding something (when there's nothing to hide, this is all fine to A's and B's relationship). But then what if C finds out? That would be bad.

Euclid, the Father of Gayometry?

Tell b. Assume you can trust your boyfriend not to tell c. Don't continue to help d cheat on c without C's permission.

A, B & C need to make an isosceles triangle of 69°, 69° & 42.0° iykwim.

i've done a lot of thinking about this and don't think this is feasible nor can work out

you see rectangles aren't very structurally sound, they tend to collapse in on themselves, we could try cutting out C and making it a triangle, which would be more structurally sound

but then that entails chopping and leftovers and it gets messy and frankly, we're not even dealing with a rectangle anyway since B is attached to other parties (E) and therefore we're really dealing with a pentagon

but pentagons are no good you see, it has associations with the devil and that's all we need certain former 2p2 owners to see to bring back the argument that the gays are satanic and can't be trusted with adoption

so my suggestion is we take after nature's engineer of love, the bee of course

you see bees build in hexagons, this is structurally sound and let's you tell D that you like his D but don't want to mess up anything regarding friendship with C - but then you should still get some other d with a lower case which is why you will build your hexagon with the addition of F

God made Adam and Steve, not Adam and Bees.

Using the four points to make a rectangle is too limiting. Expand your minds and instead form a circle that goes through each point. Then you could have a circle jerk and everyone is happy as long as you get everybody facing the proper direction.

Interesting that you would call it a rectangle and not a square. Subconsciously you know that there are unequal power dynamics at play.

Squares are rectangles.

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Like OP wants D to be

I don't know how seriously you meant this but you got me thinking. Though the rhyming of rectangle with triangle was probably more influential in my decision (since"love triangle" is a common phrase). But only probably.

Parallelogram?

This isn’t the first time I’ve heard of more relaxed attitudes regarding monogamy in long term gay relationships. It all just sounds so exhausting.

Tell B. That’s the most significant priority.

If the OP had been made in BBV4Life in, say, 2008 . . . . . oh my.

Well, these sound like the "correct" answers, but do people really live like this? I probably should have said something the next day. It's going to be weirder and weirder the longer I wait.

But so much more fun. Learning geometry is always a good time.

If ever an OP needed pics of those involved this one would be at the top of the list.

I included a diagram to make it easier to understand. Other pics don't come for free.

I have heard - I have no idea if it is true but it sounds right - that, in general, gay men have as much sex as straight men would have if straight women wanted as much sex as straight men did. Basically, men are going to horndog it up as much as they can as long as it doesn't get their partner - gay or straight - upset.

Sounds like B is not providing enough sexual intimacy for A or else why bother flirting with D?. The A-B "engagement" seems tenuous. With C and D being unavailable, an "E" will eventually show up to make for an advanced geometry exercise. Rectangle--->Pentagon.


All this is way beyond me, gl, btw.

I liked reading the thread title and then wondering what it was going to be about. Was not correct.

Sounds like A was sexually assaulted to be honest. Should tell B.

What were you imagining?

The thought crossed my mind. If I didn't actually want this to have gone down, it would have been a pretty bad situation. I keep trying to write more explanation to this post, but it only makes the situation sound worse and worse.

I think you should tell B by texting him a link to this thread

also you're avatar drives me nuts, is that from some 80s computer game or something?

It's a Kevorkian painting. At least my avatar doesn't have motion to distract from reading.

ahh, it's indeed a lot gayer in hi res when not tiny and pixelated


i meant drive nuts as in it looked like some grainy 80s fantasy graphics like the flower isn't a flower but a tower in the distance at the end of a dungeon window or something

the motif when zoomed out and fuzzy reminds me of this style




and nicolas cage is an american hero, don't you dare besmirch him

"and nicolas cage is an american hero, don't you dare besmirch him "

Unless NC is A, B, C or D.