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Originally Posted by niss
lol
seriously, you think it's so easy for a wife to simply ignore someone telling her that her husband is cheating???????
you think its so simple for relationships to be healthy and prosperous with deep destructive secrets?
if she cant ignore it, she probably wouldve wanted to know, and its likely best. if she cares this much, she would notice things from him and live in a world of semi-pyschosis. there is no way he can be perfectly good to her under the circumstances his sexual and social life is divided from their family, and this will her always give her deep feelings of inadequacy and lacking love/lust/support. perhaps though she is devious herself and doesnt care. perhaps their relationship only survives on their kids. who knows. IMO its most certainly best for her to know given the unknown and let her decide how to deal with the information. i dont know how you win ignoring reality when it will almost inevitably kick you in the face.
that said, this doesnt mean its OP's business to tell her. that depends on how morally obliged he feels. if he does choose to though, he is not the architect of their family problems to follow or anything like that just because he is the proximate cause. its the ultimate cause that matters.