It doesn't sound like he's worried about his possessions, it sounds like he's worried about his roommate/friend dating someone he finds objectionable. In that context, the answer imo is no, of course you don't say anything. I agree it sounds crappy, but welcome to being in your twenties and having roommates--there's always an uninvited GF problem. If the question at hand was "Does this suck," or "how do I get rid of this girl," that would be a different discussion.

I was just mentioning he should be, on top of worrying about his friend. Two separate items though, yes.

In college I had this hippie looking roommate who loved playing mtg. He meets this girl on my floor who to me was possibly the ugliest girl at cornell who was nice but so fugly. Needless to say my room and her roommates room were being constantly made into a triple. I think I caught them once and was about to throw up. 12 years later those two are still together with 2 kids. Funniest thing was when they started dating he was so jealous of anyone talking to her including my best friend who later was his apartment mate who had no cell in his body that wanted to touch her much less **** her.

+1,

It's not always about looks and success.

Meh, just tell him he's not allowed to date her anymore. He'll be mad for a few weeks but he'll get over it.

Move out. Don't say anything.

I think it's more about adding an anchor than looks. Looks are definitely not everything but the person must be great at something else like personality, smarts, or something. I guess he doesn't want to see his friend with a train wreck.

If her being there all the time isn't the issue then why stir the pot. If you want the whale to leave your apartment then you politely tell him. If he says no then the fun begins! But like others have said if the only issue is you think she isn't good enough for him then just stay out of it.

buy her some new teeth

just send him a link to the Harvard of Saloons thread

Yes tell him.

If shes smoking weed now, chances are shell be back on harder drugs eventually.

You can't tell him shes a loser, he'll just dig in and defend her and likely damage your relationship with him. You have to help him figure this out for himself. You should never criticize her, demean her or harm her in his eyes in any way. This will just cause him to protect her, then he will quit thinking. This is a natural response for a man to his woman. Once he goes there you are dead. He has to realize for himself that she is bad for him and you have to manipulate the situation to that end. You need to steer his thought in that direction.

If you are friends with a female that is very manipulative, try to advice from her on how to go about this.

GL, your task is not easy and could blow up in your face.

Sprinkle some crack on her and call the po-po ez game.

lool

OP, I don't think telling him will cause a rift between you guys, especially if you're tactful about it.
He probably knows the truth anyway.

Someone with a formerly severe addiction smoking weed isn't really that bad. Unless you buy into the whole 12 steps nonsense, or that weed is a gateway drug, in which case, lol @ you.

Gobbo, I thought you were loaded, why are you living with loser roommates?

There's nothing you can do to drive them apart, dude clearly doesn't care about low standards and thinks he doesn't deserve better. There's no reason to get involved unless she is annoying or you think she's going to steal from your place, and in that case, you need to not live with this guy.

Don't say anything. His life to live.

+1

Does she have active drug connections? Does your roommate smoke weed and could a drug connection be reason for relationship? If she starts meth again (must of have been the one) will your friend get hooked too?
Could hard drugs start to be enter and leave your place? Would girlfriend ever try to rob you with some thug friend of hers and take your electronics and drive you to ATM's at night under threat of a weapon after she starts up on meth again?

These are all questions you should be thinking about and come up with your own decision. The question here is not "Do I tell my roommate he can do better", it's should I leave this situation and find a new roommate. '

My advice: Wash your hands of this and get away from this couple.

At least he has a girlfriend

Keep it to yourself. 99% he already knows who he is with. You'll just be embarrassing him.

its nearly impossible to have people see it from another perspective. aka :yours

and most likely he will take it the wrong way and get offended.

no one really knows better than he does what she is like, does etc etc. he has to reach rock bottom with her basically before things will change. its similar to drug addiction but with people.

I thought your roommate was your mom

I don't know man...People who have addictions to hard drugs start off just smoking pot, but it isn't long before they are back doing their drug of choice, you said she is missing teeth from it. It sounds like she was doing meth or crack. Maybe some never go back, im sure its happened, but from all the NA meetings i've been to, i've heard countless times "I started out with a joint..and stuck with weed for about 7 months and then I had a needle in my arm again."

My gut reaction was to tell you to stay out of it and be happy for your friend, you can think "wtf" all you want to yourself, but you should keep it to yourself. Now, im not so sure. Keep a watchful eye out for him

Shouldn't we be getting some pictures by now

Smoking weed isn't the problem per say, the problem is you still maintain those connections and social ties that end up putting you in situations where it is tempting and easy to use harder stuff. This is why often alcoholics drop most of their friends when they try to quit.

That being said, it's obvious this girl is abusing weed to numb her to her life and OP's friend is going to continue to enable her.