This is the truth.

While I do find how disappointed you are to be a bit extreme, that you're disappointed is not unusual. Trust all of us who have had kids - when the baby is born, and probably well before, you won't care about the gender.

I REALLY wanted a boy and I joked with my wife before we found out the gender that I wouldn't love a girl as much (yes, it was a joke, and no, there wasn't even some slight unconscious truth to it). When we found out it was a girl, yeah, I was a little disappointed, but it's not like I went into a depression or anything.

I soon became excited at the thought about having a daughter, imagining all the cute little girl things she'd do. Plus, finding out the gender was one step in making her more "real" to me.

As the pregnancy went on, I got more and more excited to meet my daughter and my only concern was the health of the baby. In fact, whenever we'd have a doctor's visit, I'd get pretty nervous, always fearing the worst.

When my daughter was born, (and I'm not ashamed to say this) I instantly started bawling out of sheer joy. I couldn't stop for what had to be half an hour, at least.

And now, the funny thing is, as much as I wanted a boy, I can't imagine having a son. I guess I'll have to start imagining it, though, as I just found out this week that child number two is a boy! And, fortunately, perfectly healthy to this point - with this second pregnancy the concern for a healthy baby completely overwhelmed any wishes for a son (although, I must admit that I did wonder if we should go for a third if this one was a girl).

Trust me, you'll get over it. The depth of your disappointment is a little disturbing, but it will pass. Little girls are so much cuter than little boys, anyway.

Wow this is probably the best answer in this thread, I got a little teary eyed reading it, I too creid for like a half hour, after my daughter was born, its natural for a guy to want a boy, to raise and mold a boy, and turn him into a man, but once that little girl, comes into your life, you become the great protector, and nothing else in the world will be as important to you, than protecting your little girl, not saying you wouldn't do the same for a boy, but with a little girl its a bit different, you'll see what i mean, little girls are cuter, IMO, but for your sake i hope you drop that feeling of dissapointment, the sooner you do that , the more you'll appreciate having a girl, its the best feeling in the world, GL.

Always thought I wanted a boy. Had twin gilrls. Born at 29 weeks. 2lb 5 oz and 2 lb 14 oz. Amazingly, they have no real residual problems and are now 8. Now, i am glad i didnt have boys.

Trust me- the greatest thing about girls is THEY LOVE THEIR DADDY. Its a special love i cant even explain. i am sure boys do too, but when your little girl says "I love you daddy" with that innocent look and really means it- youll forget all these feelings.

As someone who had severe medical problems with our twins, just be thankful if she is healthy and be the best parent u can be.

Seriously, one of the best posts I've seen on this forum.

Be glad that you found out now -- you'll have several months to adapt to the idea. I think that by the time your daughter is both your feelings will have changed.

Also... Golden_Rhino ... awesome. Simply awesome.

Emotions aren't wrong, they just are.

How you react to your emotions determines whether you are right or wrong.

You seem like a person who is willing to deeply examine himself--this was aristotle's definition of a hero, if i remember correctly. I think you have a great chance of being a good parent.

i understand your displeasure completely. she has betrayed you; off with her head

decent, but could've been so much better

QFT. You can not deny your desire to have a son, it is a very powerful emotion. But it will not decrease the joy when your daughter is born, trust me.

OP - quit being so hard on yourself, man. It's perfectly okay to feel disappointment and some sense of loss (I seriously doubt you actually fell like yoiu would if you lost a child). You're gonna be a fine dad. Just let those plans and dreams for your new daughter grow now.

Your attitude will change, but good luck in 12 years man.


Also, next time do you wife doggy while pulling her hair and holding an arm behind her back.
That's how you make boys...

You do realize how little sense this makes, correct?

As for if you are a douche. I guess we will find out when the baby is delivered. If you are like all meh, then probably. If you hold and love your daughter, then probably not.

I'm guess he probably had some dreams for both. i.e. teaching a boy to throw a ball, hit a baseball, go fishing, etc. hanging out with a girl? It's just so much easier for me, as a guy, to imagine all the stuff I could do with a potential son. I'm not even quite sure what dads do with daughters as I have no sisters. French braid hair? Pedicures? I'm really coming up a little short on this one.

As a parent I can confidently say that you're a douchebag. Fortunately for you, your little girl will forgive you unconditionally and you have the rest of her life to make it up to her.

Your fault.

Having a girl would suck. I could deal with a meth addicted son who goes in and out of prison, but a slutty daughter would be too much.

I would LOL if it turned out to be a hermaphrodite after the Schroedinger's Cat remark.

I wanted a girl, and we had a girl. If we found out it was a boy not a whole lot would have changed though. It certainly would have been more difficult to pick out a name though, since we didn't like Boy's names as much as girls.

You will love either one, and I think having a girl is fun. They get to dress up so much cuter than boys.

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Nobody is saying that he is a douche for being disappointed. They are saying he is a douche for being "crushed" by it. He is a douche for being "not that excited about having our child anymore." That's douchey and that goes well beyond disappointment.

As the fathers of two daughters I say congratulations. Girls are awesome and I think you will discover that in time.

Of course, it is understandable for you to feel a bit disappointed since you were led to believe that your child would be a boy. My guess is that this will be a very short term issue for you.

I'm a father myself and I don't understand why the plans you had made for your son no longer applied to your daughter. I have a son and daughter and I've already told my wife that she is responsible for making sure my daughter doesn't grow up to be a complete tomboy because I'm dragging her to as many Red Sox/Celtics/Pats games as my son and she'll be playing just as many sports as my son does as well.

Although I must admit having her daycare teachers compliment me on being able to properly coordinate her pink dress with her pink hair pretty made me quite happy.

Doesn't really matter, according to Henry17 your life is soon over either way.

According to Henry17, his life was over when he said, "I Do."

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