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Originally Posted by Zimmer4141
Dude. No ****ing way. No ****ing way.
hi5. She's done pranks on me too of similar degree.
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Originally Posted by MicroBob
LOL at comparing this to cancer. Most people aren't potential dangers to themselves and others just because they have cancer. She tried to kill you at least one time, right?
It is not uncommon when one person tries to kill another person for that other person to decide, "maybe it's time to go."
Yes, if my fiance was going so nutso that I had to call 911 on her a couple of times and also make a concerted effort to keep her from killing me I think we might mutually decide that our relationship just isn't such a great idea right now.
Similarly, if I was losing it mentally and she had to call 911 on me because I was bouncing around the house with a machete and scaring the crap out of her...or she had to worry even in the slightest about whether I might turn like a switch and kill her tonight... then I would ABSOLUTELY expect her to take off.
This is not an indictment against the caring and love we have for each other in our relationship. She's supposed to not want to be killed or injured by me nor have to worry about that. I appreciate her more for the self respect she has and the knowledge that I have that she wouldn't stay with somebody (even me) who was that dangerous.
The cancer comparison isn't so far off. You might "waste" the rest of your life taking care of the person.
It might help to re-iterate that the attacks on me came very late in the game, and were very brief. Our struggle in the kitchen/bedroom areas were only because she was trying to hurt herself and I wasn't letting her. The car thing was a result of her not being able to control her impulses because of all of the emotion present when the personality first surfaced. These are the only times I've been in danger, even though it freaked me out for a little while after. I'm okay with that.
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Originally Posted by TimM
It sounds like she is the victim of quite a bit of childhood trauma, not just the isolated molestation incident. But then I would consider a highly religious upbringing abuse in itself.
You might be interested in the following video series, starting with:
The Bomb in the Brain Part 1 - The Effects of Child Abuse
I am just watching it now myself. I originally skipped over this series because I watch this guy mostly for his political views. You may not agree with those, but he also has some interesting views on parenting and abuse.
Thanks for the recommendation. I agree with the religious upbringing, but welcome to the south.
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Originally Posted by ATAT
I, for one, think being able to put your balls on your gf's forehead while she's passed out from a seizure is a pretty solid basis for marriage.
Well there's obviously more to it than that, but it's not a bad standard for comparison.
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Originally Posted by ATAT
On a serious note, this smacks of really bad codependent dysfunction on your end. Your gf is cute and she may be wonderful when normal, but this is severe mental illness you've described itt--she's a danger to herself and others. Frankly, I don't see a normal person staying with this girl, although you are fairly young so maybe that factors in.
I may be wrong here, but I seem to detect a real pleasure in your descriptions of Little Michelle. I'm not accusing you of pedophilia or anything, but you seem to get off on some level to the caretaker/parent role that this aspect of her personality foists on you, or that's at least the way it reads to me.
@bold, it's actually not that bad relative to the other MPD/DID stuff I've read and seen. But yeah, it's definitely not something to be taken lightly I think. There are some people I've seen especially in the lobby at her psychiatrist that I would have ran for the hills from.
@italics, I don't disagree, though I wouldn't necessarily say "get off". I've always enjoyed this side of the mentor/pupil or caretaker/caretakee (lol want to say mentor/mental) dynamic, and that's what's lead me to study to be a math teacher (not high school, hopefully lower college/university math). I really like helping people in general, though I'm probably going to get crucified ITT for saying it.
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Originally Posted by acethiest
Also kinda confused noticed people in this thread saying disociative identity disorder is different than mpd. Is there a reason for this belief?
Pretty much depends who you ask from what I've seen. AFAIK, one is more about created alters and the other is more about parts of the self breaking apart. I could be wrong, and wouldn't doubt if I am. Maybe there's an ask a shrink thread in OOT somewhere?
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Originally Posted by hard2tel
Except that OP hasn't once mentioned that he was thinking of leaving her.
I've thought about it some, especially after the Matilda incident. I'm pretty happy with my decision to stay.
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Originally Posted by NoahSD
Meh... of all the ****ed up **** in this thread, the fact that OP clearly gets off on taking care of this girl doesn't seem like the one to focus on.
Again, I wouldn't say "gets off", but I've thought a lot about this myself.