I see she was OK with you posting this thread, but is she actually following it? Seems like it would be pretty odd if she was.

It would be really great if you could talk your girlfriend into posting here.

Posting in next Stephen King book

This thread is beyond amazing. OOT HOF without a question, no matter if it's true or level.

in before
BUT SHE THINKS SHE'S 9!!111! OP MAY WELL BE A LYING CHEATING BASTERD MOLESTOR!1!!111

@OP: thanks for the thread. fascinating stuff as in glad i'm not the one to deal with that. i'd have run a long time ago. so, props to you.

I have 2 friends who have been diagnosed with DID. Another friend has dated both of them. I'll try to get her to start an "ask me what it's like dating two different dudes with DID" thread.

cant find if it already has been adressed but is her main persona happy
now as it is
or does she want to get cured/rid of the others?

would she lose them if she could do it with the press of a button?

One of the most interesting threads I have read on 2+2, thanks for doing this op.
I don't think any of these questions are reposts but if they are feel free to skip them.

- Does she have any siblings?
- Whats has been the most embarrassing episode for you?
- what kind of hobbies does Michelle have?
- how has your family/friends reacted to the entire thing, and have you lost contact with any of them as a result of your relationship?

Thanks for doing this again op and best of luck to both of you

What does OP make of Matilda (I believe it was) and Michelle Proper being almost indistinguishable now, with the exception of Matilda's salty language. Do her doctors see this as a personality being re-absorbed back into the original one? If not, what's happening, in their estimation?

How do they advise OP personally on the management of this condition long term? So far everyone seems to give as wide a berth as possible for the expression of these personalities -- is that typical in cases of MPD? Have her doctors suggested other strategies or therapies?

From my recollection of the timeline, she developed four in a relatively short period of time (a couple of years). Where do her doctors put the odds that another personality will develop? Is this a condition that worsens gradually like Alzheimer's, or do patients establish their max early on?

Has anyone confronted the uncle who arguably started all this? Has he been excommunicated, or is he still considered part of the family?

Apart from the MPD, you said she has blackouts/spells of amnesia, sudden temporary loss of vision and hearing, and seizures. What are Michelle's educational and career prospects with all this going on?

Just deleted a crapload of posts and infracted Henry and Bart. Won't say it again, don't screw up this thread. If you want to argue the merits of DID, take it to a different thread or SMP or something.

OP, when Michelle goes through her amnesia does she always have the same exact reaction to things? Is it the same expression, body language, level of excitement everytime you tell her that you guys are engaged?

I thought this as well, somewhat.... but, then again, here's a similar question:

You meet someone, fall in love and get engaged. Then you find out they have a serious illness that (presumably, go with the theme here) hadn't been discovered before.

Is that a blanket escape clause?

grunch for this question:

OP- are you thinking about having kids in the future? Concerns, on that topic?

Oops- just saw the bc answer. Shouldn't you be thinking about a vasectomy, if you're planning on marrying these women/girl?

Not sure that's an automatic "yes", sir.

I think I would draw the line at an attempt on my life. A lot of people don't though, which is interesting. To me it would divorce me from the relationship aspect and put me permanently in the role of care-taker. On the surface nothing would change much in the weeks following, but regardless I couldn't feel "mated" anymore with someone who came at me. Still, there are lots of women who stay with violent men who do in fact try to strangle them more than once, and while the mental disturbance isn't an exact comparison the result is the same.

Edit: Would be open to hearing the reasoning from the other side.

i know there have been a lot of posts after these but i cant help it but address them

not everyone minds taking care of the person they love the most. she clearly makes him happy. i dont see how you can bring yourself to convincing him that he should give her up. he's the best thing that ever happened to this girl and you want her life destroyed now?

this. OP, whats the reason she still stays with her parents? they obv dont take care of her like they should. why arent you living together anymore? sorry if ive missed this but i really couldnt find the answer to this.

i have enormous amount of respect for you now. the way you take care of her and make sure it's as little embarassing for her as possible is just admirable. dont let anyone convince you otherwise.

after this, i dont see how you let her family near her. they're clearly useless as hell and only bring you trouble. i assume michelle in her normal state is aware of what had happened here or that you've told her? if i was her (or you), i would never have talked to them again. they scared the **** out of you, that would be the end for me, family or not.

lol

little michelle realises she's not 9 so i really dont see the problem here. i think you're seeing too much into this. she realises he's a 'bf' or 'fiancee' and not someone that just takes care of her. she wouldnt initiate sex otherwise. btw 9 yo dont initiate sex so obv she realises she's not 9 at that moment they have sex.

i know nothing about this topic but it feels wrong that OP gets attacked for this.

Admirable, but +1


spoonit- one thing to think about: 40 years of dealing with things, if she can't be "cured" or at least toned down.

When a new personality becomes the forefront, does 'it' remember all previous occasions being the forefront?

Is each personality equally skilful at cooking/riding bicycle/blow jobs/chess etc

This is a good question. I think OP has already answered it, but.. is there a time frame in your mind where you are going to be like "if things aren't better by X, I should probably get out of this relationship." Is it a singular thing, or is there a set of goals in your mind like "she has to be thus much better by X, this little bit more better by y, and cured by z" or are you really in it for the long haul even if it comes to light that she is never going to be any better.

OP:

hopefully this is not an inappropriate request but would you be willing to share what the therapy sessions are like? How do they begin? What methods does the doctor use to help her "treat" the personalities? Do they come out and talk to the doctor often? I totally understand if this is too sensitive to answer and apologize if so.

... or, if her personalities start to fracture even more.

Reading this thread reminds me how awesome is youth. Proud, fearless, energetic.... just, awesome.

This is a completely inappropriate question.

OP, are you at all concerned about what the stress of planning a wedding might do to her? Do you think that is a day she can get through as Michelle? I guess i'm sort of assuming you are having a proper wedding ceremony with those questions which i guess should be my next question.

Also, i worry far more about what kind of person some of the haters in this thread are then the OP, that's for f'n sure.

Is this really illegal if done with her permission, as thus far he has stated the entire thread is? I'm genuinely curious.

With her permission it's obviously fine. Therapy is supposed to be a safe place, though, so I just wanted to make sure OP didn't slip up and say something he wasn't supposed to without specific permission.