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Originally Posted by Raistlin16
I figured this thread would get deleted long before now, so I'll just add this thought experiment to the conversation, it's a point I've not read yet . . .
If the word really hurt, it would hurt no matter who said it.
Imagine this . . .
Do you think molested kids/survivors/adults tease each other about it and say, "Sup molesty!" to "take the word back"? or some other BS nonsense?
Do you think holocaust survivors teased each other about it?
This idea that "it doesnt hurt if someone from my own tribe says it, but you cant" is absurd. Either the word is evil and a reminder of incredible pain, or it's not.
I was raised to be respectful so I'd never use the word, it shows a lack of wit and creativity, and to be honest and I'm kinda a trash-talk elitist, I expect better than just name calling. Any dolt can name-call.
So, I'm not here complaining I cant use the word, I dont want to, but I do want to point out there's no defense for using it from ANYONE if indeed the word brings up historical atrocities and sincere pain.
I think what it comes down to is the black community has never really had much power over white people and this is one area where they do. So, they play this "you cant say that word" card whenever possible. I get it. And I'm okay with it. There are much bigger things to concern oneself with.
When my students call me a cracker or gringo, I always say, "hey! That's MISTER cracker/gringo to you!" and it gets a laugh.
There are a couple of things that I think are missing from this train of thought. The first is that "a" vs. "er" are totally different words at this point. The dynamics of either word are similar, but I don't see anyone casually joking around with the "er" word - maybe a few stand-up comics have it in their set.
The second is the power dynamics of punching up vs punching down. Society generally isn't OK with punching down. It's almost never going to be offensive to make fun of white people for their history/physical characteristics, but it's hard to imagine anything lower on the totem pole than the word most commonly associated with American slavery/jim crow.