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Originally Posted by uke_master
Ah I see your confusion. Some things can have completely obvious general trends, while also having exceptions. It is a very easy answer that a trans man who is a parent will generally speaking identify as a father, not a mother. It is shocking that this had to be explained to you. However, it is also the case that there are sometimes exceptions where you don't know if someone goes by male or female pronouns, don't know if they go by father or mother, or perhaps they take some non-standard approach (for instance, non-gender people who use they pronouns might not want to use a gendered parental moniker) in which case its fine to ask if there is some concocted situation where you need to know before you've been given the information.
Lol. Plenty of people - including you!!!!! - tend to attack and smear and belittle their opponents when debating politics on anonymous internet forums with entrenched antagonists. It is a pretty profound misread if you are going to seriously doubt that they can respond with empathy, respect, and consideration in "real life" situations. Heck, my MO with you isn't even the same as my MO with a lot of other people in the confines of this same forum, let alone moving outside of it. Just a terrible misread all round.
You cannot even fake not being you.
You start by again telling me it easy and belittling me because it is not easy for me, then you switch to showing it is not easy as there are exceptions and 'you don't know', which means it is not easy.
Am I asking or assuming and just giving them the pronoun or term 'mother' or 'father' as I see fit?
When you say it is easy that means i should not be asking and I should just be able to know. When you say 'i can just ask' it suggests not just assuming and getting corrected and asking instead.
BUt you be you. Keep on belittling when people legit say they do not understand and then pretend you are trying to be part of any solution.