I am in a position where I have just finished one phase of my life (university) and don't really know where I want to go from here.

I could try to start a career by getting a great job where I work 60h per week, I could go for a calmer job and a life with more leisure time, I could travel or stay where I am, and so on. I don't know where I want to go because I don't know what will make me happy/fulfilled. I guess that is pretty normal, but I'd like to increase my knowledge about what makes people/me happy by asking you here.

What makes you happy? What has made you happy in the past? What are you striving for and why? You can answer conceptually or give concrete answers as you wish. I am interested in hearing all your thoughts on what makes a person happy.

I think what makes me happy is pretty much covered by these categories. I think the second one is the most important one.

- Work/Achievement
- Family, Friends, Relationships, Children
- Giving
- Experiences and pleasures
- Learning, Personal development, Spirituality

Well there you go. Most people take a lifetime to figure out whats important so your ahead of the crowd.

Winning.

love, compassion, kindness, appreciation
virtuous cycles

1) Understanding and valuing my role as a boyfriend/husband; son; brother; friend; worker; (potential) father; and member of society.

2) Having the people I care about understand and value me.

3) Having laughs w/ cool people.

4) Surfing.

cocaine

happy to me is the moment you feel good, like you feel alive and comfortable with existing.

A smile, a kiss, a word, a picture, a dream, an idea, a challenge. all those things can make happy moments in ones life. its just a moment tho.

I dont live a happy life by my own reflection, i also experience a lot of negative feelings. that make me "unhappy".

So to me there is no formula to being happy.

you can be happy whith anything you choose, there is no right choice. But when you choose, you have to stick to it and be sure about yourself and work for it 100% and never regret decissions made in the past, not worth it.

Without unhappiness, happiness could not exist.

Have no regrets, if you want to try something, try it. At least one day you can look back on the things you have done and know that you haven't missed out. Also, dont be afraid to stick with something until your sure it is or is not right for you. Good luck.

I used to think winning in poker makes me happy, that probably resisted my development as a poker player. Way too results oriented, 2 nights ago, I played break-even poker, but I called two hands with ace high and king high. Great feeling. *pats self on the back*

chocolate
and good food in general

Money, success and power.

I believe that humans are merely an evolved animal, which means (to me at least) we live inconsequential lives and then die and are forgotten- unless we do something worthy of at least a Wikipedia page.

So my belief is that either you do something good for a large segment of mankind or do something big for yourself, otherwise it doesn't matter what you do. No one remembers who died making the pyramids, but they make movies about the people who were buried in them.

I'd recommended reading Happier and Authentic happiness.

The amazing thing about cocaine it gives you a false sense of enlightenment. I dont know why but it jsut does. Findidng that feeling without cocaine is the meaning of life.

But in the end... it doesnt matter unless you think all your material possesions will follow you into the afterlife like the egyptions bleieved. The desire for happiness derived from desire fulfilment itself only consumes. Its like a scale that gets heavier as you approach death and leave birth. One need to search their soul and take all burdens from it to find fulfilment.

sunny =)

When u f... a girl or eat food when u are hungry it gives u 250 serotonine level in your brain, that's the thing that makes you happy. Cocaine gives u 1600 :|


On topic: I think it depends a lot on the person. For example I am a very happy and optimistic person that realy apreciates the tremendous luck he had being born in the situation he is today but I know a lot of persons who are very depresed all the time and hate the world. I see the world I live in like a very good one and never criticizise things like politicians, greedy rich people etc. I try to adapt to this world and I do that very well. I don't want to be one of the guys complaining about how rich guys spend money like idiots in a bad and unequal sistem, I want to be one of those guys.

^ More than the happiness... Theres that like alignment to the world and focus. I thought it was ectasy that effected the seritonin

No strings attached sex.

Loyal/Honest
Relationships with people legitimately into me/dont play mind games
Laughing/Making other people laugh.
Hearing people tell me "You're so amazing" or "You're the best"
Knowing I made someones day or helped someone out in some way
Giving, especially around the holiday season
Feeling appreciated
Sports
Liking the person i see in the mirror
Humor Humor Humor

^you forgot sex and drugs

Been thinking for the last 2 minutes about what makes me really happy in my life, and just realized i cant find an answer...

FML lol

Sex yes, Drugs no. TY for reminding me. My john was soft and sleepy when I typed that up.