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Originally Posted by Beerocrat
I became software development manager recently and I have to fire someone for the first time. I feel sick about it and like a huge vag.
Anybody who's done this before have any tips?
First, this is about dealing with your emotional response, not his. If you have to fire someone, I'm sure that you have good reasons, a legally sound position, and have probably spent a lot of time on the decision. So you have done your job well - congratulations. If you have to fire someone, it is unlikely that they are being successful in their job - so whether they know it at the moment or not, their future is not bright. Imagine you keep the guy on; he will gradually realise that he is not going to get promoted, or well paid, so he will become disgruntled and unhappy. You have helped him avoid this horrible experience, and it is horrible. If you had delayed, he would probably be in a much worse position - does anyone think it will be easier to get a job in 6 months?
Now to him: he was not in the right place. Maybe the position was wrong, maybe the company culture was wrong, but it was clearly not a job where he was going to make great achievements or achieve personal happiness. The trauma of losing his job will now make him reevaluate, and 9 times out of 10 people find something else they want to do that suits them better - losing a job truly is an opportunity.
I fired one of my best friends, a guy I'd known for over 15 years, and to make things worse, he was the finance director of my company. For two months I had meetings with the other directors, before having the awful meeting. He was a member of the Territorial Army (UK's Army Reserve), and he promptly took a year out to be deployed to Iraq at the tender age of 52. A lifetime experience that I know he treasures. There is no way he could have done this if he had continued working for me. Sadly, I have lost a friend - we haven't spoken since.
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Originally Posted by movieman2g
Reassure the guy that you'll be parting on good terms so he can list you as a reference on a resume, that's something that's pretty comforting when you're about to look for a new job
It's pretty impossible to do this; references are so legally difficult, all you can do is state the true verifiable facts, any opinions you may give are actionable, whether good or bad, and most employees know this.
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Originally Posted by Hood
yeah i had to rethink it after i saw his 51 tabling vid on youtube
Link?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_f5IUP-ELzA
And FWIW, now the weekend has finished, I'm back to running in Godmode!
Thanks for comments on my MTT hand - I think my c-bet was too large, 25k would have done the job, but meh.