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Originally Posted by Shifty86
Keep it internal or discuss it with my wife. It is hard to voice your opinion to other people about parenting, people and very defensive.
I have a close family memeber that has 2 children 5,7. They've spent 40+ hrs a week in daycare since they were 1 and are animals, they do nothing there parents to tell them. I feel like asking them why they think it's that way and having the discussion but it's hard to bring up.
Well it sounds as if you already have passed judgment on them spending that amount of time in daycare.
Honestly, every family needs to make their own decisions. Each family dynamic is different and they need to make the decisions that best fit into that particular family.
For example, my best friend's child has never been to daycare a day in his life. My child has been to daycare 2 days a week since she was a few months old. We made a decision that we wanted her to have social interaction with children her own age, even though we didn't need to send her to daycare. I'm delighted at her progress of social ability and her talking. My friend's child barely speaks.
I suspect that the social interaction of daycare has helped my child, but I really have no proof that is the reason it seems my child is so much more advanced. Also, my child is female where as my friend's child is male. I had another friend tell me that his daughter blew his son out of the water in every category until she was about 5 years old, where his son "caught up" then outpaced her. I don't know if that's a real thing or not, but it could be just those particular children.
So in your instance you believe the overuse of daycare is the cause for their children's behavior, but I'm sure there are children that go to daycare full time that are well behaved. In other words, your conclusions may actually be incorrect. I'm not saying they are, I'm saying they might be, and that should be a reason to hold your tongue. There are just too many factors involved to be sure that is the reason.
Personally, I grew up in a wild house where we were very rough and did very dangerous things (played with matches, threw rocks, made slingshots and shot everything, etc). I always thought it was because we had two boys and a girl in our family and that was typical. My wife's family had 2 boys and 2 girls and she said they grew up in a super calm environment and they were extremely well behaved. We both had almost identical family structures (grandparents helped raise the kids while parents worked, etc), but we turned out extremely different as far as personalities go.
It's just too hard to tell what factors are involved unless they are blatant, and even then some people turn out fine.