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Originally Posted by Rmbxr9
Should it matter if I'm thinking, "If he were an ******* I'd have check and shoved"
The fact that you would even think this is revealing.
It's fine to be a nice guy, but you did nothing to induce the other guy's mistake, and taking advantage of it is just good play. Even if you were originally planning to lead out here (?!), once he acted OOT the situation had changed, and you certainly had the right to react. Not your fault, and no reason to penalize yourself and play sub-optimally.
Effectively, what you did was to softplay someone who seemed "friendly enough" , and to think of playing optimally only to punish someone who's "an ****** ".
This isn't a good way to succeed in poker. You seem to think that a large part of the game is punishing some players and being nice to others. But you are not the Masked Avenger.
I would advise you to stop making this kind of distinction in how you play vs. different people, except perhaps in the most extreme cases... (and maybe not even then).