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Originally Posted by grass elephant
i'm really sorry to hear that dude. i've enjoyed reading the story of your poker journey. from here, it's only over if you want it to be and it sounds like you've got plenty ambition left in the tank to keep it going. if you want to continue, and you want things to be different in the next go around, you have to be brutally honest with yourself about how you ended up here.
it'll probably be hard to register this right now, so i encourage you to read this in a few days or weeks once the wounds are healed. it's the same advice one of my poker coaches gave me a long time ago when i was a little bit older than you. honestly it's probably one of the single most important pieces of poker advice i ever received.
you suck at poker. you're not nearly as good as you think you are. you've got lots of technical leaks within the actual game itself, and lots of emotional, discipline, and tilt management leaks as well. right now, you don't have the skills, tools, or the systems in place to succeed at this game
it stings. it hurts. it makes you mad. it makes you sad. feel those emotions. but it's the truth. i don't say this to tear you down, or to make you feel worse than you already do. i say this because now more than ever it's important to come to terms with this reality. this is an opportunity for growth, but you have to be honest with yourself about where you are right now, what comes next, and what's in your control to make it different than the times that came before. if you can accept this reality and come up with an actionable plan to change it, then you'll be well on your way to where you want to go.
most people can't come close to admitting this is their reality, much less actually accepting it, and then doing something about it. coincidentally (or not) most people will never be successful at poker. i'm convinced it's the first step to actually becoming good at this crazy ****ing game.
Thanks elephant! That is good advice for sure. Right now for me, although my technical game "sucks", depending on who you compare it to, I'm confident I can beat midstakes online. This isn't just a feeling, this is backed by ~150k hands (small sample I guess) The issue for me is the emotional, discipline, and tilt management leaks.
Fwiw, this is my years graph to date, including all hands from pokerninjas, to the current downswing.
In addition, I am up ~12k this year from playing 1/2 and 1/3 live, over a small sample of ~120 hours.
The frustration for me comes from feeling like despite finally beating the games, still being unable to make financial progress in my life.
Because 1.5 years ago, I wasn't beating the games. Didn't understand ****, was very new, had no clue what I was supposed to be doing etc, and was basically degenning away money.
Now that I can actually beat the games and have made decent money from poker, I expected it to be smooth sailing. Unfortunately, I was wrong! Have always had an extremely tough time holding onto money (even before I gambled / played poker), will need to change that if I want to find long term success in anything, not just poker.