Thanks for all the recent support guys. Really appreciate it. Got a lot of stuff on my mind though, so what follows is just gonna be a sort of stream-of-consciousness rant to help me get some of it out there.
'The Zone', both inside and outside of poker (tl;dr)
Lately I've been reading The Mental Game of Poker 2 (or rather, I've been sitting there and looking at the pages - not sure how much is going in) and thinking a lot about the idea of what it means to play your best, and how often I really do it. I've been having a lot of issues lately when it comes to playing my best, for a few reasons.
One of the main things that's been affecting me is simply playing too many tables. This might not be a very easy issue for others to understand or for me to explain, but I'll go ahead and try anyway. I think the gist of it is that most of my poker education came with me playing >16 tables, and feeling constantly taxed by all the decisions I was making. I always felt 'dialled in' when playing more tables, and even though I was entirely aware that I was misclicking, snapfolding in bad spots, and even doing extremely dumb stuff like not noticing I was OOP in a hand and accidentally donkbetting in a spot I would never normally do it, I was convincing myself that I was playing my best, simply as a result of the fact that a) I knew I was getting the most volume possible, and b) I was pretty much unable to focus on anything else while playing, so I knew I was concentrating pretty hard.
This year, however, I've been getting infinitely better results since dropping down the number of tables I play. I've been focused, I've been more relaxed, and generally playing better. It's a complete and total no-brainer that playing 8-12 tables is better for me than playing >12. Yet, despite this, I've had several instances where I've had 12 tables up and a good value MTT is starting, and because at that particular moment I feel like I'm not overly taxed by 12 tables, I load it up. This occasionally doubles up on itself, to the point where I get to 8pm and there's about four good value tourneys starting, and I convince myself I can fit them all in, and then suddenly I'm playing 14, 16 or even more tables, and convincing myself it's fine because soon enough I'll bust a few others and be back down to 12.
Now, I'm aware that this is a really weird problem, and is probably connected to some other issues. I'm pretty sure at this point that it's linked to my results, and when I haven't had a big result for a while I get antsy and start desperately trying to sneak in more volume. I also think it's linked to what I mentioned earlier about not feeling like I'm fully focused, or even not feeling like I'm working hard, if I'm not playing a taxing number of tables. I fear missing good value tournaments or even late registering them, because I might be missing out on a tournament that I could win. This is really dumb, because each time I add another table I'm reducing my chances of winning the tournaments I'm already in, and it's especially dumb because it's an approach that is entirely motivated by recent results. There's no reason at all why I should be playing more tables in a downswing than in an upswing - in fact, it's completely the opposite of what I should be doing. The fact that it's SCOOP makes it even more of a testing time to stick to the right number of tables, but again, if there's ever a time when I want to be playing my absolute best, it's during a major series.
This idea of being 'in the zone' - of playing one's best - is a very ethereal concept, but it's something that I can definitely put my finger on when it's happening. When I'm in the zone, I'm not tilting or results-oriented, and I'm taking my time over every decision. The problem, however, is that I have some sort of connection in my head between the idea of being 'in the zone', and the idea of playing a lot of tables, and when I am playing 'in the zone', I immediately feel like it's a good time to add more tables, which is the one thing which would take me out of the zone immediately. As soon as I get to the place I want to be, I stop doing the things that got me there.
This is a problem that manifests itself in life, as well - when I'm 'in the zone' in life, I'm eating well, sleeping well, working out all the time, and keeping myself tidy and organised. When I'm not 'in the zone' in life, I'm eating badly and getting takeaways all the time during poker sessions, my apartment is a mess, I'm not shaving, I'm not taking time to meditate or write, and I'm getting lazy about working out too. What I'm trying to discern at the moment is, where is the link between my being 'in the zone' poker-wise, and 'in the zone' life-wise? What is it that causes me to be so self-destructive?
When I'm behaving healthily in life - particularly when I'm losing weight - my first instinct is to drop whatever positive behaviours I've picked up as soon as they aren't 'necessary' any more, or as soon as I have an excuse for not following through. I lose a few pounds, and I feel like I can afford to take a day off from working out, or order a pizza instead of making a salad. I make a deep run and stay up really late for it, lose a few hours' sleep, and all of a sudden I'm telling myself I'm too tired to even work out for half an hour at home. Then, a little while later, I get pissed off with myself for slacking off, and re-dedicate myself to the process, only to repeat the whole thing all over again, which is what I'm doing right now - writing this big long post to berate myself for playing too many tables the last few days, not playing my best, ordering takeout food three nights in a row, barely sleeping, not going to the gym, and just generally being a terrible human.
I want to know what it is that creates this weird cyclicality in my life. I want to know why I get caught up in this endless process of self-improvement and self-destruction. If I added up all the times I've knowingly made decisions that decrease the quality of my life, just because I'm the only person who's accountable for them, I wonder how much better off I could be without those decisions. Similarly, I wonder how much better off I'd be without all the times I've knowingly made decisions that negatively impact my ROI at the tables.
I've tried goal-setting and self-tracking, and that's another thing that tends to get lost after a few days. I'll write a schedule for the week or a bunch of weekly goals on the whiteboard in my apartment, and then two days later I find a reason to ignore it. I'll record all the calories I eat for two days on MyFitnessPal or FitDay, and then after that I won't bother. I'll do a full, two-hour workout one day at the gym, and then the next day I feel like I can afford to go home after half an hour because I did enough yesterday. It's like my whole life revolves around doing things with minimal effort. I have so little self-discipline - and yet, I am 100% certain of how much better my life is when I do make the effort to do all the things that I tell myself I don't have to. It's like on some level, there's a part of me that wants to just sit around all day, do nothing, eat terrible food and mindlessly autopilot my poker sessions, while the other part of me wants to eat well, sleep well, work out, meditate, and play great poker. I want this post to be the beginning of the time when I start consciously deciding to be the latter person, and get rid of the former. I don't expect the change to happen overnight, but I do hope that consciously acknowledging these behaviours might help me to get rid of them.
I have some Tony Robbins tapes I want to listen to again. Haven't listened to them for a while, but I know they cover some pretty interesting stuff. I feel like the time is right to revisit them, as I'm definitely coming into a new phase of my life at the moment. I'm moving to a new apartment in a month or so, changing my legal name to use my mother's last name (as soon as I'm sure I won't need my passport for a while), and for the first time probably ever, I have a really clear perspective on where I'm going career-wise. The missing ingredient is being able to follow through on all the things I know would make me better off. If I put half as much effort into that as I do at getting better at poker, I'd probably be a lot closer to achieving it.
I might end today by reading some more TMGP2 and maybe meditating a little before bed. Looking forward to tomorrow's SCOOPs (the shootout will be great) so here's hoping I can put it all together tomorrow, stick to 8 tables or so, and crush the heck out of it.
GL all and thanks if you kept reading this far!