What is to feel sorry for, OP looks happy, all that matters.
If he fails, gg and nice life lesson and move on.

This.

OP seems like a legit nice guy and is living his life on his terms, I can def respect and relate to that. OP what's your screen name I wanna ship you some $ to help with the wedding and living expenses, also please don't ever pay me back

PS. If you want a stake to play higher pm me.

+1

I donno fully understand why OP has to get so much **** in his thread

def consider that offer OP imo

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You all are stupid.

OP is very clever businessman, probably more than Bill Gates or Mark Zuckemberg. Soon he will write a book about his Thailand life, and will be a millionaire.

Already waiting for Private Dancer II and his lovely Dogs.

Yeah, post your screenname ill chip in too. All this senseless hating tilts the **** out of me when you are already head over heels in this mess.

Pretty amazed at the racism and misogyny in these thread. Seems to be a lot of guys who think a woman (or perhaps only a Thai woman's) only value is her looks. Also a lot of guys who seem to have this image of Thai's as somehow subhuman, lacking the basic familial compassion that we take for granted. "These savage Thai's, they don't care about their daughters like we Westeners do, they're obviously just trying to sell her so they can make money".

Pretty incredible really that people like that exist in this day age. Anachronisms born in the wrong century or more likely just disgusting human beings.

since there's a decent chance OP will be too embarrassed to come back itt

People talking **** about OP's girl's looks need to get a life and I know it's nitty but can you people please stop calling this a dowry when it's basically the literal opposite.

OP if you are still reading this Id take some of these guys up on their offers to hang out. Im sure youll admit this is all happening really fast and having some people that can give you tips and experience on the country will be helpful. You really seem to be trapped inside the bubble of your gf and her family and thats really unhealthy. glgl

Just want to +1 the clowns taking shots at his girls looks. She looks fine and even if it were true it's totally out of line. He's putting himself out there in this thread so take shots at his life choices if you must, but continually stabbing the same bull**** insults over and over at someone like OP is trolling at it's worst as it's genuinely nasty. ****ing gutless typical internet ****.

Sure, sure you'd say it in real life etc. yeah get ****ed, we all know thats not true.

Seems a good guy, def naive but there's some wiser heads in this thread trying to help him out and solid poker players willing to support him both financially and coaching. Decent chance he turns tail now.

Op good luck. **** the bullies, live your life.

they're not trying to be bullies

I like the white knights defending thai culture and dowry's and the family and then turning it around and getting mad at critique towards her appearance when IN THAILAND THE DOWRY INCLUDES LOOKS.

LOL.... I... did you just say DOWRIES INCLUDES LOOKS? So did you finally realize that dowries are practiced in Thailand? Anyway I think OP's girl is actually good looking. Not your model type but still pretty. Everyone have their preference so what u don't find attractive or unattractive is just a personal opinion and preference. someone might say angelina Jolie is good looking but I would disagree.

This is just testimony to the fact you have no idea what you're talking about when it comes to women

You have no idea about anything in life its quite obvious you're a stay at home virgin or one of these guys that end up in thailand and stay on hooker spree for 5 years then marry one.

OP's gf is HIDEOUS. I like weird girls and cute girls but thats just hideous by ANY standard.

DOWRIES DO EXIST but not for everyone. Does every girl in america get a sweet 16 w/ ferrari included? NO does every young man get a bartmistva(whatever the spelling) NO just the jews. Same with a dowry in thailand.

You need one of these:

Massive education (PHD)
incredible looks
richness
Family reputation
to be part of high-society

and the last one is quite new

to find a western man with no life skills that is willing to overlook that you arent worth anything to your fellow countrymen and is willing to pay for you even when your family should be so ***** happy that you've found ANYONE willing to take you.

Theres almost a 2:1 ratio of girl to men in thailand. Someone with a ****ty job, ****ty family, ****ty looks and a ****ty future is worth in the negatives(add to that that they are requesting money and you just trippled the negative networth of that woman). thats how thailand works and implying anything else makes you a biggoted racist that cant accept thailand for what it is.

lol

While I feel like some people are posting here just for the sake of being disrespectful to OP, I also think that some, who might be considered fairly obnoxious, are really just frustrated with the OP's naiveness and are really trying to help, otherwise why would they be posting so much?

I believe the OP has made his mind, nevertheless the things ...|... says are quite interesting and pretty sensible, so if anything thank you for that. Now, regarding the "happy crowd" look, I get you I'm a sucker for happy endings as well but the reality is usually much more harsh so it's better to take more down-to-earth approach. I don't believe that OP is in any danger but imo it's quite clear that the fiance's family is exploiting him and to what extent remains to be seen, at least until the marriage.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demographics_of_Thailand

total population: 0.98 males/female (2009 est.)

Excuse if i think the rest of your post is probably horse **** as well.

Though if you factor in the proportion of men that turn into ladies, he is probably closer to the actual ratio.

ha good point

homosexuals arent men looking into women.

very nice story op, thanks for sharing

wish you all the luck, i'd really like if you accept some coaching offer you received though...

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Neither are kids or happily married people or the infirm. Not sure what that has to do with your original statement of .

But assuming you meant 2:1 w to m in seeking spouse due to homosexuality, youre essentially saying half the male population of thailand is gay?

How you can support him? I just cant understand. Yes its OP decision, but his decison is wrong in so many levels, and sometimes its better not to help. It would be totally OK, if OP have enough money, but right now he is totally busto - barely can pay bills and for food.

He loaning money from gf parents, buy-ing clothes for dogs, wedding party, lying to parents etc. at the same time when have 1k or less on his name.

If his girlfriend and gf family really respect OP, then they should understand that its not the right time to make engagment and wedding party. Also the OP should understand that by self.

He cant understand, and this is most idiotic thing ever. First he should stop lying and stop living in the clouds, come back to the ground, make good financial fundament and then start thinking about marrying.

Everyone who help him, then probably you help ruin his life more. Please dont do that. I am not saying because I hate OP, but I know his decision is wrong. Sometimes its better to close eyes, turn back and say: **** it.

Your $10, $15, $100 or $1000 what you are sending to OP, not helping him to recover. It help him to spend more on pointless things. He suck at life and money managment. Longer you help, longer he live in the clouds and deeper problem grow.