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the three biggest pieces of wisdom (life, not poker) that you would want to hand down to your child
Well, first would be "use back-up contraception," because I didn't have any children... that I know of.
Seriously though:
1) Bad things happen to everyone. Failures use that as their excuse and bemoan their bad luck. Successful people get up, brush themselves off, and move on.
Only you are responsible for what you do. If you do good things, it generally works out well. Sometimes though, things go wrong. You are still responsible for you, you just have a bit more to work on now.
2) If no one is dead, and you don't have to wake up the president, it isn't really an issue that ruins your life. Be diligent, but don't stress over the small stuff.
When I was flying recon missions, we had reports called CRITICs that had to be on the president's desk within 10 minutes. I can't get into what met those criteria, but you can imagine. I was involved in three of those during my flying days. After a while, you got to the point where crap like "there aren't enough lunches for everyone on the plane" just aren't that big a deal. You make sure the most senior and the most junior people get lunch and you eat some jerky and cope until you land. You won't starve.
3) Quality, leadership, etc are not programs. They are attitudes.
Quality doesn't come from a fishbone diagram, or a spreadsheet, or a trendy diagram of a "continuous improvement process." It comes from a commitment to doing good work. If you have the right people, these programs just slow the group down and depress people. If you have the wrong people, at least the programs will keep them busy enough to minimize their impact and give them guidelines to follow that keep them from screwing up too badly. That's not quality, though, it's just mediocrity.
Leadership is much the same. You don't learn it from a checklist or a PowerPoint slide. All you need to know is how to focus on the main goal and take care of your people. All the rest is just practice and following the model of leaders you respect.