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Originally Posted by L.C.C
It's interesting as Tomark also pointed out that ego seems to be quite a big part of (the fun of) your game. I can't represent Venessa Selbst, but maybe lots of the female players including myself have not much ego involved in the game. We already attracted more attention than what's ideal.
I am not saying you should ditch the ego part, particularly if that makes you enjoy the game.
A lot of the time I find poker just a mental game battling against myself.
Maybe more male players think in your way than my way.
My personal opinion, women are some of the least likely players to be big losers at my table, and the vast majority of them are winning or break even players who I dont want at my table, but I havent seen much to counter the prevailing wisdom that women dont bluff as much as their male counterparts.
I think bluffing does generate a ton of attention, and its not just ego that can stand in the way of poker dominance. if you want to be a good poker player, there should only be ONE thing that decides what choice to make:
what will make me the most money?
If you dont bluff to avoid attention, or embarrassment, or to not feel stupid, or to not be called stupid, or even to reduce your variance, you are not playing to the best of your ability.
I think confidence is one of the most valuable things to have in poker. I cant remember the actress, but she said the best advice she ever got was “be as confident as a mediocre man”. My wife took that advice to heart lol. I am very confident in my game, so I couldnt care less what anyone else at the table thinks about my game. I dont make any excuses when my play looks stupid as ****, ill just get called and flip over my busted BDFD that i bet 3 streets cuz i dont care. Whenever im at the table, i feel like so many players at the table are trying so hard to make everyone else think they are smart and good poker players, and whenever they get caught bluffing, i feel like they fall over themselves to apologize about it like they got caught stealing cookies from the cookie jar.
