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Originally Posted by Soncy
At the final TC, Jeremy let his emotion show while Spencer lectured in Spencer voice about all the connecting with people and growing he did--which I think he did--but it doesn't appear as genuine in that moment. Nor does it probably matter. He tried to win a connecting with people contest against a guy who was a lot better at it than he was. That I think Jeremy comes across as more open and genuine does not mean that I think Spencer is some emotionless robot who is incapable of connecting with people and growing personally. My view of people does not tend to be that narrow in general.
I think the problem with Spencer is that his pet project to better connect with people was doomed from the start. It seems that the way his mind works he deduced that better connecting with people was a strategy he needed to improve upon. But, this is a bit like discovering that you are not sincere, and then deciding that you will address it by "acting" more sincere.
At a subconscious level you can feel like you are actually making some progress, but there comes a point where you recognize that the attempt is really just an act, and that your heart is not into it.
I think we can all agree that the people in our lives that are the most caring and compassionate don't need to work on it, nor did they ever need to "work on it." They were either wired that way or became conditioned to care at an early age.
I don't think Spencer is unlikeable at all. But, I suspect if I had encounters with him I would have come to respect his normal persona, as opposed to the one he was trying to adapt to for strategic reasons.
We all have personality flaws. Spencer's arrogance and need to control, etc would be easier to take without the addition of insincerity.
We all saw enough of Spencer's real personality come through to know that the "new me" or "work in progress" was never going to sell with his fellow survivors.
I think Kass had a more genuine approach. She committed to trying to
play differently (for a while, anyway..lol..), but I got the sense that she was self-aware enough to know she could only play different, not
be different.